How Five Simple Words Can Get You What You Want | Janine Driver | TEDxHardingU

Janine Driver is Movement Pattern Analysis (MPA) profiler and CEO of BlueStreak Training, an online virtual communications training company, for individuals and businesses to better their lives through sales, body language, detecting deception, interaction styles and decision-making programs. She spent more than 16 years as a federal law enforcement officer within the Department of Justice where she learned to quickly size people up. Janine Driver is Movement Pattern Analysis (MPA) profiler and she's the CEO of BlueStreak Training, an online virtual communications training company, for individuals and businesses to better their lives through sales, body language, detecting deception, interaction styles, and decision-making programs. Janine has since taught her cunning people-reading skills to such companies as Proctor & Gamble, Lockheed Martin, ADP, Kronos, SnapChat, Coca-Cola, Prudential, Nationwide, Sanofi, SHERM, and the Mortgage Bankers Association.

[anandalux]

This lecture changed my life. There was something I wanted that I thought I couldn't get; I thought it was written in stone that I WOULD NOT GET IT. It seemed IMPOSSIBLE. Even though it was very important to me, I gave up on it. But then I came across this TED talk, and realized that my NO started with the words “well, typically...” So I pushed, and pushed, and pushed. And...I got 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[SoEmmazng]

Just in case someone is in the same boat: I had trouble getting engaged into this Ted talk and almost clicked out. A comment here said that this talk changed their life, so I skipped ahead. I definitely will say the perspective offered here over the "typically, because, changes what was" is brilliant and worth a listen, even if it's just the way you receive insight over how you use or interpret those words.

When the speaker gets comfortable with the audience and into her own skin, she's absolutely captivating.
Thank you for the insight!

[HeritageDrPepper]

For everyone confused, the words are "Decided(ly" and other "ly" words of which she listed 3) and "because". (For people reading this before watching the video, I don't do it justice in the least. If you actually want the empowering effects of these words I suggest you still watch the video and just keep this explanation in mind for a clearer understanding while viewing ☺.)

Decidedly
Normally
Usually
Typically (and other like words such as ordinarily, unfortunately, sadly and alternatively)

These are the "open door" words.

"Because" is the word you use to open that door and get what you want even when people are using the first four words as an excuse to not give you what you want.

"Decided(ly) because changes what was" is supposed to mean "decidedly *+* because changes what was" as in using *"because"* against people who use *"decidedly"* *changes* *what* the previous "decision" *was.*

[sunshinexoxo]

Man.
I'm not gonna lie the first time I watched this it went completely over my head. Now i've watched it again and it's crystal clear. Thank you!

[SerenityEscapes]

In simple terms: Be Relentless... Sometimes simply being persistent and not giving up, gives you the results you want.

[brianburdett]

Normally I don't watch an entire youtube video, because they are typically unstimulating, but because she makes compelling and interesting arguments I decided to watch it through.

[vilmacordero]

This is true. A group of professionals ‘decided’ I had to pay a large amount of money I supposedly owed them. Everyone refused to take my call from that department. All I wanted was for them to listen and understand my situation.
I did not accept that decision. I wrote and talked to every politician I could think of to question it. Guess what? They listened and agreed that I did not have to pay that amount. The decision was changed in my favour. It took a lot longer than I expected but I succeeded.
Decisions can be changed. It just depends on how much you want it to be changed and what you are prepared to do to get what you want.

[nerd.]

I like the way she thinks. *sending both prayers, & a hug because parents are awesome*.

[melissaa]

I just used your advice to go from a 2% raise to a 4% raise because I deserved it! Thank you :-)

[ZiggyLu-ogzp]

Don’t wait until 50 for things to just magically work out without you being proactive. NOTHING works out without participation. Begin to MOVE! This video has opened my eyes to see that I have been spending life sitting on the side lines. Nothing is written in stone and everything is negotiable. Period.

[sueelliott]

This is so appropriate for these times. Im watching this for the 3rd time in 3 years

[MichaelMillman]

I was waiting to find out if the most powerful five word phrase to get your outcome would make an appearance.

In the final minute, I smiled and said "Ahh, there it is!"

"Would you be willing to?"

Bravo!

[lynnkupfer]

Janine. Love your story. I too struggled with infertility due to age. I used an egg doner + my husband. It was still the early days of the procedure. They are twin boy and girl, Seniors in High School. I gave birth at 46. They are the greatest gift from God.

[evgenyminkevich]

I usually do not leave comments for videos. But because it was so awesome I have decided to do one. At first, I thought why spend 24 minutes on just three words. I give it 4 and see where it goes. Turns out it IS NOT an instructional video. It IS a hands on coaching. Thus 24 minutes well spent. Thank you, Janine.

[ВикторияВоскресенская-тф]

I think I managed to found my own company and lead it only due to this amazing talk that I listened first like 2 years ago! Thank you so much for shaping my way of communicating and getting what I want, not agreeing to first thing I hear ❤

[VivianInTheOC]

I have watched this many times and I get something new from it each time. This is gold!

[myklmusic]

I get it.
I've negotiated for virtually everything I've wanted, and have achieved 100percent.
My Parents did a great job with me.

[juliekrol]

I’ve always thought of myself as the exception to every rule and because of that I’ve never stopped pressing. This is a great talk, maybe we should all think we are exceptions all the time and not settle ❤

[KS-nemq]

People like her are what Ted Talks are supposed to be where it’s told in a way that entertains while at the same time teaches.

[mariclaretpatton]

I have been a leader and in leadership my whole life. I will complete a national leadership certification this October on top of all of my other leadership credentials. THIS twenty minutes is icing, cherry, whip cream on top! Love it. I am going to follow Janine, read her books, and never accept or use decided or LY again! What a great name too, "Driver."