EP 364: How to Properly Pace Yourself in Early Stages of Dating

Are you going 75 in the 35 mile an hour zone… not on the road, but in the early stages of dating zone?!

This is one of the most common questions I get asked about dating:

“How do I pace myself? How do I know that I am not going too fast?”

Today’s episode:

- Gives you everything you need to better understand relationship pacing, and the strategies to implement it
- Understand why you rush into relationships
- Get clear on the benefits of slowing down your emotional investment (learn to become a love scientist)

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[Geaxuce]

I think the way to say that is "slow is smooth and smooth is fast." Great advice

[mrmartinez]

I realized after many years of dating, I needed to start slowing things down. The last 2 Relationships went way too fast, and as I got to know their character of these women, I was apalled that I was in a relationship with women like this.
It is much simpler than that.
I just told the woman I started dating. I needed to go slow so she could get acquainted with who I truly am and I could do the same with her.
I reiterated this a few times. She’s good with it.
We only date once a week and we communicate a few times a week. I do enjoy this freedom of not getting locked in with somebody and realizing the idiosyncrasies are something I can’t handle. It goes both ways I understand.
But if we go slow, then we have an opportunity to become more friends and keep the kissing and making love until we’re sure about each other.
I feel this is a more mature way of relationships. I just have the conversation I don’t worry about what to say. it should come out natural and smooth and most definitely authentic.

[katieletts]

Pacing is so hard to know when the person you’ve started to date is someone you’ve been friends with for years. What is the pacing like when you make that shift with someone you know, because the rationalization that you don’t know them yet isn’t fully true? 😩

[hannah]

I keep finding the same pattern, having a great first date - the guy says how great it was and that he’s interested without me prompting and then by the second date things fall off. Any advice here?

[rsmith]

Word of advice….move the microphone down…it is covering a large part of your face…which is distracting