Most AWKWARD Answer in Interview History! Learn 6 Ways to Avoid Social Embarrassment Like This!

When author Bethany Mandel was asked to define "woke" during her interview on "Rising" with Briahna Joy Gray and Robby Soave, she displayed one of the most awkward responses in interview history. But what would cause an educated, published author to freeze up to this extent? What are the verbal and non-verbal signs that she is experiencing heavy stress and most importantly, how can YOU avoid ever freezing up this bad? Find out now!

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[ShecalledmeKING]

I wish I could message you directly. But I just had to say thank you for you recommendation. I had an interview today and I had a “human experience” and your tips saved face for sure! Thank you

[RadioJonophone]

I was at a piano recital where the pianist was playing Beethoven's Sonata No. 14 The Moonlight. All went well until a moment into the third movement. Anyone who knows will recognise the furious scramble of notes and rythms. The pianist on this occasion, a well known professional, stumbled, with his fingers skidding along the keys in a dischordant jumble. He tried to recover, but it just made matters worse.

We could all see his terror. We applauded, with someone calling out, "Let's start that again." Mister pianist welcomed this, took a moment to calm himself, then in reverential silence from us took off and played it flawlessly. The applause at the end was tumultuous, we all felt his pain then the thrill of success.

[HEXMACHiNE]

Instead of jumping on her, you humanised her and used it to teach us how to cope in stressful situations. This is why i love this little corner of the internet. Thank you, Spidey ❤

[HannibalTLC]

As a professor with some inattentive behaviors, I use a lot of these techniques on a daily basis. And, if all else fails, I point toward the window and yell “squirrel” to get the class to lighten up in that moment. 😂 Being human and relatable is never a bad thing. 😊

[onourpath]

She used her hand to fix her hair, but the hand she used was on the opposite side to her hair fix. This struck me as a quick way to shield her face. Maybe she felt like her face was turning red -- this happens to me all the time and I often do the same. Social anxiety at its finest! 🙄

[piccadilly]

I froze on providing the answer once in an oral exam (for my masters degree). I kept myself calm and simply repeated the examiner's question back as if I was trying to understand exactly what he asked and it also brought me a few valuable seconds, The answer actually popped into my head as soon as I ended repeating his question.

[amdayfhggie]

I'm always so impressed with how you educate yet always remember to do so with tact & kindness. Your videos are always fantastic!

[mismag]

Johnny Carson used to lean into his bad jokes by saying “may the bluebird of happiness fly up your nose” when the audience was silent after an unfunny joke. This would always get a laugh.

[ralphengland]

Sometimes the brain just misfires. I had that happen to me in college to a question I raised my hand to answer... I stumbled and had to admit that I'd just lost the answer I was going to give.

It wasn't embarrassing so much as frustrating.

[amdayfhggie]

This reminds me of something that happened years ago. I was in a 3rd round job interview with a fairly large panel almost entirely made up of attorneys. I was fiddling with my pen under the table due to nervous energy and managed to fling it straight up in the air. The damn thing hit me as it fell back down. I froze for a second with no idea what to do before blurting out "well that was unfortunate". As I took a breathe to move on, they all started laughing, and so did I. So relieved. Got the job. Largely great work environment.

[M.I.A]

1. Lean into the moment
2. Walk theough why your struggling
3. Answer part of question
4. Be prepared - research
5. Ask for clarification
6. create curiosity

[Ian.Treherne]

I felt also that when the interviewer said "I just wanted to make sure we are on the same page" that sent the authors brain into overload mode with immense pressure to form an answer. Hell I have been there and crumbled. We are only human.

[sm]

I understand that we took her baseline for the interview, to compare it to later, but I do wonder if she was stressed from the start. Most authors are not accustomed to giving interviews, especially about controversial topics.

Dan Brown (author of The DaVinci Code) was once asked if he was a genius, because he wrote a character who was a genius. Brown said something like, "Yes, but my character said all this off the top of his head. I spent months researching and several drafts to get the wording right."

The point being that authors are accustomed to spending a lot of time organizing their thoughts before committing to them. An interview, unless its scripted beforehand, is off the cuff and may be completely out of their comfort zone.

None of this is to take anything away from Spidey's video, as all his points are still very much valid. Regardless of her level of stress earlier in the interview, it is clearly increased at that point.

[erikaluff]

After having had covid badly, my brain went fuzzy. If I panicked, it was worse. I was doing information meetings in german, so played on "forgetting" the word I needed, instead if what I was talking about, or even doing there. Panic and stress not good. Thankfully, the guests were fabulous and tolerant and helpful!! Thanks to them, so very much!!

[gfitfitnessstudio]

Love this one!!!! In my profession (personal trainer) I am often asked questions that I can answer quickly, but not necessarily in a manner in which someone with no background of anatomy or exercise physiology can understand. I love that you essentially give us permission to take pause, state why we’re taking pause, sort out the answer in a way a client will understand, then proceed. Very Thank you!!!!

[vbcsalinasapologetics]

Tip #4. I have a few scripts in my head, for an unprepared question. "That's a very good question" is a transparent one that suggests, both "I don't know" and "I can't talk about that." Also, these give me time to formulate a response.

[swissmiss]

That‘s the problem with these buzz words. Many ppl start to use them without thinking about what they mean, where they originated and that it is important to talk about the meaning and about how they are used in different contexts with slightly different meanings ( and intentions)

[E.C-zg]

As someone who struggles with public speaking anxiety on the regular, my heart goes out to this author. I am often confidently presenting then mid speech my brain freaks out without warning. Expertise goes out the window in an instant when you’re stressed. I don’t know what triggered her, but think it’s a great lesson on empathy and our rush to judgement. Appreciate all of your videos, Spidey! ❤

[pgray]

I used to teach a class once a week. Every once in awhile I would forget the name of a class member. I knew them very well, but I would go blank. I would say to the class, "I don't know why but when I am up here, sometimes I can't think of my own name." No one was ever offended that I drew a blank on their name.

[zanastrange]

Sometimes when there is a brain freeze in a stressful situation (interviews, stage performance, presentations, tests & exams..etc) the more the brain freezes, the more the brain freezes. It just gets worse. I have seen it on set when an actor forgets their lines.