Dating & Relationships in Medical School and Residency

Is it possible to have a happy and healthy relationship in medical school? I’m definitely not an expert but these are my thoughts.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:23 - Dating In vs Out of Medicine
01:56 - Tips for Being Successful
05:24 - Couples Matching
07:05 - Families in Medical School or Residency

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[kevinjubbalmd]

Thanks for watching! BTW, I'm definitely not an expert on this (just ask my exes). What is your experience of dating in medical school?

[joshmcgoo]

My wife is a professional dancer/model in the city. It's so nice to NOT do the same thing, but for each of us to be equally passionate in something that requires ALL of our time most of the time. That mutual understanding is HUGE.

[LS-xxwg]

Commenting as a non-medicine individual dating a second year IM resident. I wouldn't say that the largest challenge is the "lack of understanding" more so as it is, the feeling of isolation that can come with dating someone who is always busy and tired. BUT I will say this, I am so proud of him every single day. And for the time that we do get to spend together, it's always so special. We make moments count and that's what matters. My advice to the non-medicine partner is to focus on your professional career as well and things that make you happy outside of the relationship. If they are someone worth dating, your support will never be taken for granted.

[anietiedeborh_]

DON'T TALK ABOUT MEDICINE. This so true, they've already seen enough through the week or day.

[JayFriedrichs]

So true about talking about medicine. Thats why medical burnout is so high. Its important to have other interests in life so that you don't burnout.

[DoctorNosa]

The only relationship you have time for in medical school is with your textbooks. 😂

[joysudan]

My boyfriend and I are in the same class and it’s been a year now :) I would not say that you should not talk about medicine because it’s your common passion. What is the most important is to communicate and tell your partner when it’s too much for you. Some protected time together is definitly a good thing. And the biggest challenge is to avoid competition.

[Puser-Missing]

Grandpa J back it again spitting facts

[gabriellecintron]

This was such a good video! As a 3rd year medical student who only dated people not in medicine before, and now dating someone who's starting med school this year, appreciated the tips regarding free time not lining up and making sure we don't just talk about medicine all the time :)

[allanochoa]

all my relationships failed in nursing school lol. I did date my classmate for a while, but she was very competitive. she'd always compare tests scores, while i was only happy to pass. Sadly, I guess sometimes its best to wait for things to come to you, rather than to search for the one.

[tianyiwang]

Perfect timing! Heading to med school this fall and this is something that I've been thinking about a lot

[cphillips]

Can you elaborate in future videos on east vs west coast med schools /residency as you briefly mentioned.

[janyw]

I've initially tried to avoid dating med students for very similar reasons to the ones you listed out. But then I met and started seeing this guy who turned out to also be a Med student (he's a senior and I'm a junior). Ironically, we both hid the fact we were medics on the dating app, so we still laugh a bit about that to this day. Both of us got very different side passions, but we are also very ambitiously driven and having Med did strengthen our bond in my case. We can never talk enough about Med, but we also talk about We love to mix pleasure with work and we only physically see each other once every 3 weeks so far due to being at distance and very busy, but we video call almost every day and text each other often to check-in. It can work as long as both people are willing! We do what we can, we support each other and we make the most out of everything. This is only my personal experience though :)

[aparnaperi]

The thing is I am very competitive, so if I date someone in Med school I will feel either inferior or superior when comparing marks and I HATE THAT! Been dating a guy since 6 years who is in banking and its because I respect his field as I hve no idea about it and i feel no competition. He is just as busy as I am in med school so it works out! Basically if you have 1) understanding 2) loyalty 3) trust 4) love for each other- it's gonna work out! It was def easier for me because I was already with him from my undergrad prior to entering medical school so we already had our base set!

[d.o.smiles]

cannot imagine dating a fellow medical student, ew, grateful for my partner who appreciates me talking about medicine on occasion but I couldn't handle SCIENCE nonstop

[RozeGomez]

I'm 13 and I've been thinking of going to med school since I love all forms of science, when I grow up, but the many times I got discouraged with the fear of failing I would come back and watch Med School Insiders and your channel and its been so motivating to study harder and choose which stream I'd like to do with the '' So You Want To Be '' series, you've been so helpful. Thank you so much :)

[MDSkai]

Good timing. My girlfriend And I are currently applying to med school after meeting in our master’s program this year. Just started the conversation about moving forward if we end up at different schools and residencies. I used to never want to date another doctor/medical worker because I figured it’d be overwhelming and I need variety, but here I am lol. Hoping for the best, good topic for the video

[FlazzMD]

I hate talking about medicine and I am a doctor . It's really annoying, who cares about that. The best person is the one with you can talk about everything

[manu-raghavan-pv]

Legend has it that Kevin screams "don't talk about medicine in his sleep". That must be a sore spot.

[cailinoconnell]

Dated someone as a MS1 who was in a gap year - and definitely ran into issues of him having a lot more free time than me. I was for sure too accommodating with my time - lesson learned, now I set boundaries for when I need to be in full study mode!