MONTESSORI AT HOME: 5 Common Misconceptions... DEBUNKED!

MONTESSORI AT HOME: 5 Common Misconceptions... DEBUNKED!

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[MariaandMontessori]

I'm going to add to that point of creativity because this misconception bothers me the most 😅 There is so much creativity that kids can and DO have with a lot of the materials even though they are closed ended. The extensions of pink tower and brown stairs. The extensions of knobless cylinders. The designs they can make with the metal inserts. And sometimes even creating their own work like listing all the animals they can think of in alphabetical order or making a solar system that's as large as they are. And not to mention the creative problem solving that is fostered in the class 😉
As for the pretend play and open ended aspect, I wanted to add that schools offering extended hours beyond that 3 hour work cycle, at least here in our area, very much do offer opportunities for that type of play! Obviously during outside time, but also indoors if kids are staying for nap/after nap, etc....we had board games, Legos, building blocks, train sets...they were taken out to offer that opportunity that Dr. Montessori expected the kids to have when they went home after the 3 hour work cycle with her. Some children choose those options, some head over to art, and some continue to explore the closed ended materials, but the option is definitely there for extended hours!

[brunettesweetie]

I do some montessori style things and some just "regular". My daughter plays with all kinds of plastic toys, her favourite is the play kitchen with plastic food and her dollhouses. I still do toy rotation, encourage her to dress herself, use the bathroom on her own, do a lot of practical life activities, do a lot of learning activities. I do believe if you want to add some montessori to your parenting then you can, but you don't need to be 100% with all the tools and materials and wooden toys and all that. I think that is also a misconception. I love following your channel for tips and tricks that resonate with me and only do those things in the montessori style.

[Playing_with_a_Purpose]

I love practicing the “pause” it’s truly amazing to see what children are capable of when you allow them time to figure it out

[ar_m]

Great info! Thank you!

Another misconception that I've seen far too much of, especially in online spaces, is that, if you can't afford all the toys and items in wood, metal, glass, etc., that you aren't really "doing Montessori." I've seen far too many people attack creators or other parents in comments that, if they can't get the expensive items, that it is not 'real' Montessori. It's gatekeeping and unfortunate. Using plastic or diy items because that's what the parent can afford is better than not doing it at all. I saw a comment recently where people jumped all over a mom for suggesting that legos were a great open ended toy just because legos are plastic. This behavior turns people off to Montessori and I really would like to see that change.

Your channel is always very mindful of this and I really appreciate it. Any time people ask about Montessori, I send them to your channel because you are well informed, inclusive and understanding that not everybody can drop hundreds of dollars on toys or tools.

[_imgracie]

Hi Ashley! I would love to see a video on different Montessori careers. Like the schooling needed, maybe online degree options, average cost/earnings, the best states/countries to work in, and resources on how to find legitimate schooling etc. I’m not sure if that is something you’d ever be interested in making but as someone who majored in education and got halfway through my teaching degree only to be derailed by the pandemic which made me completely rethink my career choice as an elementary school teacher lol, I would love a video about this as it’s something I’m considering.

[angie_exe]

I’ve been having trouble with help and my toddler recently, since she’s been quick to give up on a task, or ask for help with a task she’s already mastered, but I think I realize that she’s seeking help the way I do, and may feel she needs more attention or encouragement. Thank you for everything you do, you’re a lifesaver!

[sharalli]

1:18 Children can do whatever they want / Montessori is too strict

3:47 No room for creativity

7:55 Pretend play is not allowed

12:31 The goal of Montessori is to create little adults

14:30 We shouldn’t help our child with things they can do on their own

[allisoncooper]

Ashley, you’re amazing, I love your passion and the way you articulate all the nuances. Love to you and your lucky family!

[eliana.pipes.creates]

Thank you for the lovely video Ashley! It would be great if you could add timestamps to the video so that it would be easier to click through each of the 5 misconceptions more easily, and reference them for friends when I send the video! I'm a note taker and in informational videos especially I find that separated timestamps make it so much easier to listen and rewind to understand section-by-section. Thank you for your channel!

[RollingFishball]

This is soooo useful! Even being a new Montessori teacher myself, I feel like I learnt some new things in terms of practical actions from this video! Thanks a lot!

[TalkWithJoce]

I deely appreciate this video! Giving them enough chance to do things in their own way feels so important. As an adult I've worked through a lot of anger over many times as a kid and adult people didn't do that instead trying to control, force, or push me into their mold instead of letting me be in my own process finding my own way. And times I did clearly ask for or need help and people close to me sometimes were super abandoning or neglectful in those moments or jumped in trying to take over and fix in ways I didn't want or ask for as if they knew my needs better than me (codependence). So how this video describes the approach is one that avoids controlling or codependence or blocking someone's learning and autonomy, though of course it looks different towards kids than with fellow adults. But I do think many adults tend to be overly controlling of children, like a constant dictating of what they should be doing. And not treating them as smart as they are. Of course the opposite of that is being so hands-off their need for care, connection, and safety from adults is neglected.

[nikkis]

Could you please talk a bit about practicing the Montessori approach in the case there isnt space for a separate nursery.. how do we go about setting up a sleep space within the parents then…?

[Nikita-oxsi]

Even though i've watched a good chuck of your videos i think i may have had some of these misconceptions. Thank you for clearing the one close-ended play and not helping.

[AG-hxqn]

Thank you so much for this. I got so discouraged due to my assumptions and lack of answers. :(

[elizabethmacken]

A misconception common in my country about Montessori is that there’s no warmth in the care of the child in a classroom, if a child wants a hug for instance a guide won’t give it to them, or won’t let a child sit on their lap while reading a story. While obviously in a home environment there is warmth and affection I did work with one Montessori trained teacher who definitely discouraged displays of affection, a child wanted to sit on my lap while we were outside and the lead teacher came out and told me to let her sit by herself as she’s going to school next year. Of course this is one anecdote but I was wondering what it’s like in a typical Montessori classroom? Is it actually a misconception in a classroom setting or is there some truth, or does it depend on the classroom?

[BeatrixFrancia]

Great video!! I especially loved #5, as little interference as possible. Great job as always 👌

[defender_ofrighteousness]

Thank you for these videos you’ve helped our journey

[jacquelineoforiamoafo]

Hello Ashley... Thanks for all your info. I'm really learning soo much from you on implementing Montessori with my baby girl. I, ve been watching you since I was single 😍😍🤩

[staceychan]

Hi Ashley! I love your videos! Please could you help me to settle a debate I am having with my husband? Should we stop letting our pets sleep in our room who currently sleeps in our room every night, if we want our daughter to sleep in her room and not ours?

[ana-mariasocol]

Hi Ashley! Even though we won't see the girls anymore, do you think you could keep showing us their shelfs every once in a while or talk about what activities they engage in? Thx