How to KEEP YOUR COOL with women: the sandwich strategy

Buy my book, "The Value of Others"

Learning how to keep your cool when women become difficult or provocative is an emotional survival strategy. Failing to master this skill is an invitation to hardship and regret. The strategy is simple: no matter what woman you're dealing with, and no matter what a woman tells you, to the extent that she becomes emotional, you need to mentally create a verbal sandwich around her words. I'll demonstrate what this looks like in today's episode.

Book a paid consultation:

Social Media

Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community:

Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #women

[psychacks]

Learning how to keep your cool when women become difficult or provocative is an emotional survival strategy. Failing to master this skill is an invitation to hardship and regret. The strategy is simple: no matter what woman you're dealing with, and no matter what a woman tells you, to the extent that she becomes emotional, you need to mentally create a verbal sandwich around her words. I'll demonstrate what this looks like in today's episode.

Book a paid consultation:


Social Media




Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community:

Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com

Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #women

[jaytee]

Adding the "I feel" and "right now" to the beginning and end of a woman's negative statements towards you is a great suggestion. Adding the "I feel" and "right now" to the beginning and end of a woman's positive statements towards you is a fugging genius level suggestion and brutal dose of reality when you do it.

Brilliant episode.

[marriagecausesdivorce]

I wish I knew this 10 years ago. Young millennials and Gen Z don't know how lucky they are hearing this type of practical information before they make any costly lifelong mistakes.

[BlahBlahPoop]

Wherever the wind blows, a woman’s emotions goes.

[josepsoler]

Married man for decades with children here. Listen up folks, he is absolutely right!!!

[Chaparro.Locochon.]

My girl got mad watching your video because what you say is exactly on point

[GMacII]

9:53 - This is called ‘Mirroring’ a Chris Voss classic that works 100% of the time. Also the sandwich technique is pure GOLD!!!! I think back on arguments with former lovers and I kick myself mentally, but this is a learning moment. Be the Mountain, not the Weather.

[ButcherSevenActual]

The “sandwich” treatment applied to the positive statements is absolute GOLD. I’ve had to learn the hard way that many times what a woman says is only true in the moment.

[PJ-omwq]

I feel, "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part", right now.

[jeremykelly]

I JUST used this strategy with my kid’s mom. It worked to PERFECTION. She literally couldn’t say anything else when I sandwiched her emotional thoughts with “you feel”…”right now” through accurate reflection. Took about two cycles. She was genuinely incapable of dragging me into an emotional argument. It was beautiful! Lol

[sameerpandya]

Outstanding video. A big mistake I have made in life is thinking the words from a woman were absolutes - being told I was the best man she had ever been with meant I had achieved something permanent, when it was just a temporary and passing moment of elation. Thanks for this video.

[alwaysgreatusa]

With women everything is for right now. This is why Masculine Indifference is always required to deal with their ever-changing emotional states.

[billsinclair]

this is the power of the internet, married 40 years and have lived and breathed everything this man said. I have been educated thank you sir

[IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

Easy. Always be emotionally capable of letting her go if she wants you to change something fundamental about yourself and your dreams. I’ve experienced both sides of this. When you set boundaries and stay calm when they test you, maintaining the moral high ground, they know you aren’t naive. They will respect you. Then they can decide if they want to change themselves to stay with you or find another guy. Whether they stay or walk, you win by not losing yourself.

[Sir_Viver]

Putting her positives in the sandwich reminds you that your relationship is permanently temporary.

[TheMrDarius]

Can we give this man a round of applause for him showing us a major wife hack. That was a real eye opener I needed because I instantly jump to defensive mode but I’m going to try this because it seems so much more peaceful.

[iammichaeldavis]

Jesus man this is 12 minutes of *solid* *gold*. ESPECIALLY the end, don’t just do this to negative statements, do it to the positive ones also, to keep your ego in check. This video is priceless

[vladanr]

Every young man needs to hear this. I learned all this the hard way.

[defenderbear]

This made me laugh out loud. I turn 33 this November and have been with the same woman for nearly 12 years now. Not once has this concept been more clearly and concisely explained to me. This immediately clicked in my head. Great information. Next time I have some cash to spare I will be sending it your way. Much appreciated.

[johnybrokeit]

Your words have been Gold over the recent years! Thank you 🤝