A common misunderstanding about marriage

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[Khan-rzqi]

What women say they want often doesn’t correlate with their true desires and nature. When we men do what they say and we fail, we’re also the ones conditioned to take all responsibility for such failures. Therefore men must always lead on their own terms because if we fail, at least we know it’s based on our own volition and choices. It’s only a problem when society blatantly misinform our men and refuse to give them a helping hand when they go down the wrong path. Not only did you weaken them, but now you’re gaslighting them too??😂😂 fellas do what YOU wanna do.💯

[kurt]

Absolute worst advice I was ever given about marital harmony was “happy wife, happy life”. WRONG!!

[polemeros]

Giving women what they SAY they want is usually a bad idea.

[cosmictreason]

"Because you listened to the voice of your wife... cursed is the ground for your sake"
- God, Genesis 3

[paulmoulton]

Quite true. It is why being nice is unattractive to women.

[dd]

My experience is that women do NOT WANT TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for anything. It’s not about a man’s competence, it’s about not being punished for their decisions.

[RD-zjvc]

"You must unleeeearn what you have leeeaarned." (c) Yoda

[arkansastrey]

À wise woman is one who chooses a wise man to lead her.

[kathiahernandez]

I completely agree with the doctor on this one. I can only respect/love a man if he shows good capacity to make important decisions with positive outcomes.

[Hoffzillano]

Bang on sir!! Men and woman are not equal on all levels and knowing that makes couples equal in competency and I think those couples will last a life time

[kirkbrooks]

Yet women will come home from their job, vent about all of their problems (With no idea on how to fix them) and when you offer solutions they get mad and fire back with "I just wanted you to listen!!". I'm not so sure they want a man to lead as much as they want him to provide for them while they do whatever they want.

[seqenenretaoii]

Hes 💯% spot on fellas. So stop listening to what women say they want. They say they want one thing but respond to something else.

[DreDredel]

I have gotten the lecture from women about "Why do you always choose where we should go?". So then I let them decide. Then i get the lecture "Why can't you choose where we should go?". And im like 🤦

[fonglim]

I wants whatever is coming to maximise my freedom and gladness

[sethbrolsma]

Good point. This goes against much of what men were taught.

[melenico]

If the women is willing to submit. If she is combative it won't work.

[PhilosopherKing]

The key word here is COMPETENCE. I think when it comes to giving advice to men by other men that should be the forefront of what men should apply or do in relationships

[Johnv]

How is a young man, or perhaps any man, any more skilled than a woman when both are in their first marriage? Yes, each partner may have various degrees of leadership capability when they enter a first marriage, but that's no guarantee of ability to lead the marriage. I think the most successful couples discover that it's best to let the person with strengths in certain areas, lead the decision-making on that subject, although both parties should have a say.

[Kamabushi]

A ship wont sail with two captains
Period

[amberts]

Yes, leading the relationship on certain foundational values and the activities related to these values. We will support activities for the family, couple, etc. that help to improve financing, build bonds, or strengthen values.