Wanting them to Love You - How to Move On!

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[outlinehappiness]

Sometimes I think the loss we mourn is the POTENTIAL of the relationship, and not the reality of. We hold on to an idealistic hope of achieving the type of relationship that we want, and project that on to our current partner, regardless of incompatibilities that we chose to overlook.

The most important relationship is the one we have with ourself. This is the one we need to build upon first to be capable of cultivating healthy relationships.

Great video ♥️

[TheJoshGalt]

I went from 100% blaming her for the marriage failing, to realizing it was 50/50, to realizing it was 100% my fault. It is 100% my fault because I allowed and permitted everything that happened to me and was said to me. You decide how others treat you. You decide who you allow into your life. Realizing that is super empowering. Another great video Stephanie! Thank you!

[reneekoffeeatwood]

My ex sends emails even though he doesn’t want to be with me. I finally got the heart to respond and it went like this “I no longer want to keep in contact with a man that has nothing to offer me so thank you for reaching out and please don’t contact me again”. I felt like a boss biatch💯

[hustonmann]

Wanting to be loved so bad blinds us from seeing what’s really happening. Two years ago my heart was broken by someone I would have done anything for. Now that time has passed, her dumping me was actually a blessing ! I actually learned from this pain. I was a pathetic mess when it first happened. I begged, tried to manipulate, cried bargained ….. a big mess! My whole life fell apart. However, I resolved myself to soldier on. I realized how sad I was and forgave myself for feeling sad and angry because that’s what happens when we are betrayed by someone who you were, truly convinced, loved you. No one is different in this particular space. So for all of those that feel like they are just gonna die, or want to, because some women or man had taken their heart and stepped on it, hang on.. the strength that will come from this hurt -will -scar up and will make you stronger and smarter. We ALL go through this. You are and WILL be loved again, I promise you that!. ❤️👍😁

[fringbabyross]

The hot and cold cycle of a anxious and avoidant attachment “trap” will absolutely scramble your brain. That intermittent reinforcement can really trauma bond you. The FA woman I was seeing was like some kind of drug to me. The beginning is beautiful but the pull away feels catastrophic. The pain and wanting is immense. I appreciate these videos because it is no joke

[VonKrieg]

We knew there was a problem. She refused to talk about it, wouldn't communicate. I got the "It's not you." line. I walked out silently. The end.

[daniellinklater]

People don't fall out of love. Love is a decision!

[Goldenheart]

With a lot of inner healing, self reflection, education, strength, empowerment, forgiving yourself, patience and transforming your life from negative to positive what seemed like the worst day of your life will in time be celebrated as the best.💛

[grevork]

It's really tough trying to communicate with someone who doesn't want to communicate or work things out with you. This video helped me and many others, thank you.

[Infinitykristy]

I think this video really just saved me from going insane.

[iamgoddessoflove]

In order to attract the love that you desire, you must take care of yourself first. When you love yourself, accept yourself and put yourself first, everything falls into place. The one thing that blocks you from manifesting a healthy relationship is when you put everyone else before you.
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[DarthVeach]

We were together 8 years and broke up. Apart for 3 years and ended up getting back together! For a year it was wonderful. I thought she had really changed. I know I had. Therapy, lifestyle changes etc did me a lot of good. But her old habits started coming back and after another 6 months, dumped me thru a FB message again. Always hides behind email, Facebook etc. Can never face anything in person. I have to be done this time. I need to heal and move on for good. People CAN come back, but it is not always going to give you what you want or need ☹

[haniablondi]

After 6 years together he cheated and left for the other women..he betrayed me so harshly and now I see him happy with her and he is engaged to her already .it’s been 6 month I still cry everyday

[JohnSmith-wons]

My ex dicarded me at Xmas, I was absolutely devastated. Suicidal and in shock, I couldn't accept it. Couldnt work sleep or eat. Panic attacks and severe depression. After a few weeks I tried to understand why, the relationship was unhealthy, she was narcissistic mentally and physically abusive, I remembered thinking back, asking myself, why am I in this relationship she gives me nothing and just takes and uses me,   so my absolutely despair didn't make sense when she dumped me. I read a lot and spoke to people,   I think my reaction to somebody who didn't care or love me was linked to an abandonment trauma I cant mentally remember,   my mother suddenly leaving us when I was 13, I was very close to her, I learnt the body can remember the trauma even if the mind cant recall it. My mother basically separated from my father in a few months me and my siblings were living with her again,   but that initial shock sticks. That made sense to me cos my reaction to an abusive partner wasn't rational. I felt abandoned. In time I also learnt about Stockholm syndrome and trauma bonds. Still think of her daily but know she isn't right for me. Or anyone to be honest. If you got this far sorry for droning on!!

[jamesbowe]

My father passed away in December 2020 which I took really badly as he wasn’t just my dad but a great friend too. Then 2 months later my ex told me that she was leaving me after 22 years together. I’m still trying to get myself back together again but some days are harder than others. I’ve bought my own house now and just need to get back on track. I never knew anything about narcissistic supply or anything on the subject until the last 12 months with counseling. Emotional abuse is real and it does happen to men. I’m proof.

[rickewi]

This is such a good video! I still need to hear this and reminded that even though my ex isn't a horrible person, she chose that her life was better with out me in it. Stay strong my friends, better things are waiting for you!

[sharri]

I mourned my divorce for years and couldn't get out of it until I saw that this person was not a good person. I felt conflicted because I thought that they were a good person. But how can a good person cause so much hurt.

[texannadeb]

I had no clue that my person was having an affair with a married woman he worked with. Nothing with us had changed...sex everyday...doing things together...not a single hint. One morning, He left for work while I was sleeping, I woke up to a picture of him with that woman on my phone. We were never together again from that moment on. I was truly blindsided...unfortunately this is how it can go when your partner is a narcissist. Within 90 days, she was divorced and his wife #5! It was shattering in the moment, but I am truly grateful...lol, he never deserved me. I mean really, has he been married 5 times because he’s a great guy?😉

[oneworldonehome]

"The great relationships will come in facing great change and difficulty because it is within this environment that the deeper and truer nature of people becomes evident. And people will have to choose a greater allegiance within themselves and a greater allegiance to others. This is where great relationships become recognized, cultivated and expressed. No more foolish and indulgent romances here. No more wasting your time trying to have endless pleasure with someone when, in fact, you have nowhere to go together and nothing really important to do together. No more wasting your life on chasing beauty, charm and wealth; having fantasies about yourself and other people; trying to look good, to be accepted and degrading yourself in every possible way to gain the attraction or the admiration of some person. There will be little time for such things now.

While these times are extremely dangerous and hazardous, they provide the optimum environment for you to discover your greater strengths and with this, a set of greater relationships. This is where the greater purpose and meaning of your life can emerge if you can understand your situation correctly and if you learn to engage with your deeper nature and to rely upon it increasingly."

I share this quote with you today in hope that it may stir something deeper inside, something that awaits your recognition and attention. The quote comes from *The Great Waves of Change* - a book of preparation for the difficult future ahead. And as all Marshall Vian Summers books, it is completely free online.

[maryly]

After 10+ yrs, he finally told me he never loved me. My heart is numb and i feel so lost. 🥺😭