He Made A Huge Confession Days Before Their Wedding!

They're SUPPOSED to be getting married this weekend, but she's not sure whether to say "I Do" after her fiancé confessed to *cheating* on her three years ago! What would you do?!
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[Dani.J.]

I think I've decided that if I ever write the Bert show for advice, Im taking what Kristin and Cassie say and doing the exact opposite. I don't know if Cassie meant to or not but she kind of spun it like he's just such a sweet caring man for confessing 'when he didn't have to' ..totally neglecting the fact that he had a few YEARS to come clean and instead chose a few days before his wedding.
Not to mention that whole 'well not always once a cheater always a cheater, people can change" ..we aren't talking about him confessing an affair on an ex years ago.. we're talking about an affair in his current relationship, not really all that long ago if you think about it. Do we really think he turned over a whole new leaf in 2 1/2 years, since he spent the first half a year of their 3 year relationship cheating on her? .. Maybe. But doubtful. If you come clean to me 3 days before our marriage when you had a few YEARS to do so, I'm seeing it as nothing more than manipulation and a tactic to get away with future cheating, since like Cassie said, "He didn't have to confess" that whole thing

[marquisemusings]

What?! I can't believe this is the advice!!! Esp from the women. And esp from Cassie! She's usually the first to hold dudes accountable. I agree w Moe! Whether or not he's changing, it's entrapment to tell her when it's tough to back out. He should've let her come to the decision of forgiving him before the engagement. Doing it now shows he's just as selfish as when the cheating happened. And it wasn't once...it was 5 months! Five months of lies to her and then 2 years to maintain the lie. This poor girl got some bad advice. #disapponted 😠👎

[SCordova]

For me, the trust would be broken with no chance of being rebuilt. She never suspected his long term affair at the time and that would lead me to question him every day of our marriage.
So sorry for this woman. My advise would be is if you think you can trust him move forward. If not, don’t do it. It’s way easier to not get married rather then get divorced. I totally disagree with Cassie I think he might want out and that’s why he told her now.

[londonlemons]

He did not just cheat - he had a full blown relationship with another woman for five months. Cheating one time would be bad enough but maybe surmountable. This level of cheating requires the cheating partner to make the choice to actively cheat, lie, misdirect etc time and time again. It would be a massive mistake to marry someone who can carry on that kind of duplicity.

[victorialavenderasmr]

I would just postpone the wedding or called it off you can’t get over something like that especially the week of your wedding.

[saraelisabeth]

I would say “if it was reversed and I confessed the same thing now would the wedding still be happening for you?” For me cheating is black and white. Good for couples that make it through but one and done for me. And it’s bc I will never look at you the same again

[nicoleheppner]

Cassie has given the absolute worst advice...

[Chacha-ogim]

I would leave him he put a damper on you looking forward to a big day in your life. Plus he was in another relationship while with you at a time when you should be getting to know each other. The other girl left him and he stayed with you

[victorialavenderasmr]

I agree with Mo on this. I would at least post pone or possibly called off the wedding, but we do know the update she did call off the wedding. The now ex-groom can’t be surprised that she did this. It’s his fault that they never got married. He chose to have a five month relationship with someone else while he had a girlfriend that’s his own dumb ass fault she has every right to be upset and she has every right to to break up with him.

[St.OlGa.]

probably the worst advice I ever heard! girl if you're seeing this, please don't go through with the wedding. Not only this man cheated on you for 5 months at the beginning of the relationship he also decided to sabotage your wedding by telling you this a week before 'I do' take your time, separate and see if you can move past this, because he lied to you for years, I don't know if you can trust him

[victorialavenderasmr]

Well there’s an update on this segment.

[valuba]

Aren't we all so different.
Black and white statements like something he did 3 years ago is happening to you right now. ( No it's not) And once a cheater always a cheater. ( I've met many players who are not at all now)
Not always black and white.

They were a few months in when he was seeing two woman... OK he was seeing two woman and didn't tell them, that's big. Has he grown up allot since then? How old is this man?
Regardless I wouldn't like that at all...I'd have questions about why the other relationship ended...
Knowing that you want to commit to someone can take some time. So he didn't feel about her then the same way here does now obviously.
Love can grow slowly.
So most concerning is that
the other relationship ship went on so long and he deceived both woman? successfully
That is the issue for me.
Does he lie about other things too?
His answers would give me the gage on whether I went ahead or not.
But jealousy about something from 3 years ago would not be the main factor for me.