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[anonymous-jfuj]

My parents used to say, "Theek hai, tu yahi ruk. Hum jaa rahe hai"!!😂😅

[mariongordon]

I was in a pet shop with my younger daughters, around 5 & 9 years old. There was a dad there with his kids around the same age, and we started chatting. He said something like “this is all very well, but there’ll be dramas when it’s time to leave”. I told him there shouldn’t be any dramas. A little while later I told the girls we’d be leaving in about 5 mins. Then 5 mins later I just said “ok girls, time to go”. Straight away both of them stood, gave the puppies a final pat, and walked over to me. I was just about bursting with pride. We left the dad with his jaw dropped, and I believe there might’ve been ice creams on the agenda LOL

[ericlukoe]

As asian parent, we also do gentle parenting. Gentle kick

[hopeinsideme]

I don't know why, as he knelt down to the child's level and talked to him i litreal felt he's talking to me and it's healing my inner child.🥺

[queenofprops]

One of my kids had a difficult time transitioning from one activity to another, so I instituted time alerts. "In 5 minutes we're leaving/eating/cleaning up." And then i stuck to it, so he knew 5 minutes meant 5 minutes. Consistency and firmness work, and giving him a time warning helped him adjust.

[raapyna]

I have adhd. We didn't know this when I was a child. When my mom would ask me to do chores for example, she would say, "would you like to do x" and I would reply "I don't feel like it", and it would be really hard for me to start the task. When my dad asked me, he would say, "do x, please". I would do it immeaditely. I didn't understand why for a long time. I think now I know; when my mom was asking me, she left the decipline to me. I had to lead myself and make myself do the task. I have executive dysfunction. Without meds, it's really hard for me to get started and 'be my own leader'. However, dad gave demands, he did the leading. I didn't need executive functioning to follow orders. I had no trouble following orders at all, for example at school.

[lostmystery]

My mom's look was enough for me to pack bag and leave asap 😂

[Hoi-jdhm]

My mom would be like: nahi jana??? Tou reh !!
And she would walk away 😂😂😂

[Jane-ygvz]

I always gave my kids a 10 minute warning, then 5 minutes, then 1 minute. That way they have time to finish up whatever they want to do and it wasnt a big surprise that they had to just drop everything and leave. I never had a problem with them not wanting to leave when time was up.

[mariongordon]

Also, a huge difference in the two examples in the video is that in the second example the child is allowed to ask for an extension, and then is expected to abide by that extension. I achieved the same thing by giving a 5-min or 10-min heads up. As an adult I'd be very resentful if I was doing something and without any warning I was told that I needed to stop immediately, so I tried to not do that to my daughters. On the rare occasions when I didn't give them a heads-up, they'd ask "is it ok if I finish [whatever] first?" This might be something like getting to a save point in a video game, or finishing a chapter of a book. Mind you, if it was a chapter of a book I might need to check some time later, because one chapter seems to lead seamlessly into the next LOL

[KetanNagre]

Me playing, mother comes, stares at me - I go home 😂😂

[Smashingblouse]

The very idea of my parents bargaining or negotiating with me is hilarious.
Dad carried you upside down by the leg or chucked us over his shoulders.
Mum looked genuinely disgusted and walked away 😂.
This is very sweet tho. I’m glad my boy was good 🫶🏻

[LeeMin-Ji]

Giving kids clear directions, time to prepare themselves to transition and incentives to comply when needed is good practice for people. I know I hate when someone wants me to do things without any time to prepare myself.

[richa]

I love how parenting was totally different 30 years back..we knew parents were supreme and also we mean most to them too.

[yousefshahid]

"Ok bye. Im going."
"Noooo mamaaa come backkk" *runs after mama*

[kimberlyschwed]

Children will behave how you expect them to. People nowadays think parenting must be hard and don't know the capabilities of children.

[_jagritirao_]

What is let's go home beta 🤔 my parents be like "tum aa rahi ho ki Mai aao"😂😂 or "Ghar chalo tumhe batati hu"😅😅

[heathersky]

I love this. 💓 It is important to make them feel like they have a choice ( let's play for 10 more minutes ) and it's also important to to stick with your decisions. (It's been 10 minutes we must go now).
Speaking to them lovingly but firmly and literally stooping to their level whenever possible.
Thank you for being you! 💓

[BTSArmy-bkdl]

Hamare yaha ye Plz vizz nahi hota "Nazron ka Khauf hota hai " 🤣🤣💜
Love you mamma 💜

[Fanny-slhs]

I know it feels difficult for many. I had been there. But in last 4 years I have learnt that the more you are hard on your kids, the more they are going to give you hard time. Screaming, hitting, getting angry nothing is going to work in the long run. It will either ruin them from inside forever or will make them rebel. So try to be as gentle (not submissive) as you can and you'll see how much your kids change. Its easy to change kids when they are too young than to change a kid who is grown.