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[karinagutierrez]

This is hilarious. Not a parent, but I can easily see this playing out in real life 🤣

[tallulahraccoon]

"But I'm THIS close to fightin' this BABY!" xD

[Ash-ojxv]

My mom comes from a family where she was abused like crazy. She recently told me she almost hit me when I was a toddler but refrained and asked for parenting help instead. I'm so proud to have such a strong mom.

[beargrizzles]

Total honesty: I thought gentle parenting was not parenting your children and then blaming the direct opsing societal view for their behavior. However, because of this here dear lady, I understand what I lived as a child was absolute abuse and am now breaking that vicious cycle with my own child. Don't ever stop posting. You make my hard days easier.

[zeldomaine]

"rather than just constantly reacting to them" holy shit

whenever i get angry i notice my mom always reacts to my anger rather than actually responding to it and it literally feels so awful in the moment

[madd]

True gentle parenting takes a LOT of effort to make reasonable boundaries and keep them. Listening to you kids’ feelings and thoughts is not allowing them to what they want. You can still listen and be sympathetic to their frustrations while keeping the boundary and saying no. It takes a lot of time, self discipline and patience, especially when they’re little and learning the boundaries - hence the effort. I try to remember that if your friend came over crying, wouldn’t you ask what’s wrong? and even if you couldn’t fix the problem you would comfort and encourage them. Why wouldn’t we do the same for our kids? ❤️

Also, if your kids are completely out of hand - maybe take a few minutes to think of ‘why’ are they like that? Do they sleep enough hours each night? Are they over stimulated? Have something happened to upset them? Are they reflecting your own behaviors? Whatever the reason, if you know the cause then it’s easier to find a solution.

[abbye]

My mom can never admit she's wrong so I can totally see other parents seeing gentle parenting and calling it bullshit because they refuse to change😂

[jennabernice]

god this is so real. as a soon-to-be educator, phrasing is KEY to getting people on board with things such as social-emotional learning. parents especially are so touchy on the words "social-emotional, " but if you call it "life skills" or something like that they're all for it, even though it's the same shit! really says something that phrases that relate to our emotions evoke such a strong negative response from some people.

[jessicajoseph]

I’ve never heard of the term “gentle parenting or responsive parenting” but it seems to be extremely similar to the way I have decided to raise my child and every single personal i come across has commented on how “good” of a mother I am and how smart and responsive my 12 month old daughter is and I always smile and say thank you but inside I’m screaming “BECAUSE I INTERACT WITH MY CHILD EVERY SINGLE MOMENT EVERY DAY” I’m not obsessing over her by any means but I am there to listen to her needs when she needs me and I love it!

Edit: Thank you for the likes, I never thought in a million years that a comment of mine could be agreed upon by anything more than 15 people (which is a lot in my opinion) ☺️

[aaliyhafennimore]

This! THIS is how I want to raise my future children. My mother has told me that it will not work and my children will walk all over me, but I truly believe that this works and want to implement it when I have children.

[kaylizzie]

Responsive/gentle child rearing was what I was taught in Early Childhood Education. It’s now the preferred method in the childcare community. My professor loves your videos.

[medepresed]

My teen said I was his best friend 🥰 my dad was like "that poor kid" and my sister said "you're not supposed to be his friend YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE HIS I teach him how to think not what to think and we talk about things calmly. Yeah there's times when I'm like "I'm getting pissed and I need a minute before I can approach this" and same for him (though admittedly his goes along with slamming his door) but I just leave him alone until he's ready to be calm. Usually he admits that he needs to work on closing the door nicely when he's mad lol. We talk, we laugh, we joke around, we have respectful talks even if we don't agree, it's honestly great!!

[a.munroe]

My indigenous mother loves gentle parenting bc now she can say she was going okay all along and she had the last laugh. It was great. I literally RAN to my Gran to be like "see! You WERE just being mean to mom" I was 20 and I got grounded...

[undavid_]

Before I found this I used to think that gentle parenting was just letting your child walk all over you and never saying a word against them as to avoid them getting upset in any way shape or form... I was wrong, very wrong. 😅 Thank you for educating me with this

[TheKjoy]

After my brother was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 years old, our mom learned responsive parenting. I was 2 years old at the time, and was an undiagnosed autistic girl. It completely changed how she handled raising 2 non-neurotypical children. It didn't have a name back then, but she quickly learned the difference between can't and won't. She gave us the boundaries and structure that we needed, and used natural consequences as much as possible. When Mom knew that we were capable of getting dressed in 10 minutes, she would set a timer and told us that however we were dressed when the timer went off was how we went to daycare. My brother only challenged the timer twice and he went to daycare in his underwear and shirt and wrapped in a blanket with the rest of his clothes in a bag.
If she put us in time-out, she again made the timer the bad guy. She told us that if we got up before the timer went off, the timer would be reset and we would have to sit there longer. It doesn't take long to figure out that waiting out the timer was the fastest way out of time-out.
She stopped raising her voice at us, she would drop it instead and there was something about that that got our attention faster than anything else.

[sobosoup]

I definitely wish my parents used gentl- I mean responsive parenting. My parents always get mad at me for mistakes and if I’m not happy 24/7, something is “wrong” with me

[gavinduffyregan]

I’m a single dad. And I really appreciate the advice you are putting out there.

[Destasaurus]

I've always thought gentle meant simply not beating them like every parent my generation grew up with

[Tishanfas]

She's like Superman, but with a wig instead of glasses. She's the hero that we didn't know we needed!

[PaddySnuffles]

My mom raised me like you're raising your kids and I was the most well-behaved out of my friend group at every age. Turns out if you treat your kid like a person they respond well, who knew, eh?