Actually Dressing for The Male vs. Female Gaze

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Dressing for the male vs female gaze

[titosatyamaja]

no one:
subtitles: “the male gays…versus the female gays” 🥰

[bun__]

the nobody gaze 😭that's how my outfits have been recently, nobody compliments them men or women (well cause I stopped posting on social media) but it's very freeing to be the only one to like your own outfit!

[yeezy]

i loved this because you didn't go over the top sexy for the "male gaze", all outfits were wearable and cute.

[becm]

I wore a skirt with black tall boots, along with a sweater (teacher outfit). My son called me a pilgrim. I had a similar outfit on at the local coffee shop and received multiple compliments by females.

[mikadyo]

“They don’t know Jane Birkin” is my favorite quote from this video

[chisom.]

"every short king there had something to say about it" 😂

[MsAlestaa]

Female gaze is an outfit that is a conversation starter and fashion.
And most importantly they make you say “its called fashion Brenda” all day to your male friends

[lizzylucky]

I love the “nobody gaze”. I remember you talked about how clothes don’t have to flattering or form fitting for you to love them/put together an outfit. Mind blowing for me and has really changed my style.

[honeybear]

This is an interesting concept. For my small hometown, dressing in things I think are cool or different are NOT female-gaze approved because they are conditioned to believe that clothes are supposed to be flattering. I don't care if my clothes are flattering - I prefer comfort and style over flattering. So I don't think I attract male or female around here.

[daysiahall]

my ex bf was obsessed with me in a red lip so like you said definitely not like all guys think the same. i like that the overalls outfit is being weird and just playing dress up like how you did as a child. that’s the female gaze to me, dressing how i wanted to look at a child, using your imagination and creating a story with your outfit.

[agnaeoh]

It's interesting how your definition of the male gaze is so specific to your boyfriend and brother. My husband absolutely loves when I wear overalls. He is totally indifferent to sneakers. Honestly I don't think he cares about shoes at all. But he loves funky patterns, especially knit sweaters with a pattern or graphic. He also likes hats a lot

[Debxrahh]

Lani’s Female gaze: weird, quirky Male gaze: normal, more mainstream. 😭😭

[lucy.intheforest]

This was so cute! You did such a great job. I feel like dressing the for "female gaze" means taking risks and having fun, not being afraid to do something that might not be seen as conventionally attractive. "Male gaze" outfits can be wearable day-to-day, but might not be as creative or fun. I live the for the "female gaze" outfits, but you did such a great job with the male gaze ones too! esp the last outfit with the cute shorts and t-shirt

[topazgirl]

i feel like when I dress around women I do feel more comfortable wearing wackier things. I think part of it is that I feel less judged and the other part is me wanting to stand out in the group I'm in. If I'm spending time with a man, I already feel like I'm standing out in a way so I tend to tone things down. I don't think its a conscious choice most of the time, but its worth thinking about. I loved all the fits in this video! :)

[MonaToma]

THE OUTFIT WITH THE OVERALLS IS SO GOOD holy hell !!!! Im absolutely obsessed with it

[marijabable]

this was SUCH a cool video concept!!! and you hit the nail on the head that the "male gaze" outfits are more wearable for day to day, but "female gaze" fits are much more involved in their composition.

[bonnie]

love the outfits! a little side-note on 'the male gaze' context, because it has become a little bit of a buzzword, the meaning is often not fully represented: the male gaze doesn't really refer to men, as in the actual male people in everyone's life, but it basically just mirrors patriarchal standards, so the term isn't as generalizing as it seems. in feminist theory it's used as a heterosexual, male dominated perspective that is often used in arts, etc. of course everyone has different opinions on what they deem as attractive, so the men you know might not even be interested in women "dressing for the male gaze", it doesn't diminish the accuracy of the term and relevancy in culture, arts, fashion, and more.. <3

[jennabernice]

the male gaze was coined by a film critic who noticed how movies were shot from a man's point of view-- so you can almost think of dressing for either "gazes" as looking at yourself through the eyes of someone else. which is sometimes how we get dressed-- keeping The Other in mind, whether that's men or women on the street, your partner, your best friends, etc! Kinda a cute way of reframing a negative term.

(the nobody gaze is compelling to me personally)

[reb]

personally looove to be men-repellent with my outfits but the only thing that matters is if i think i look cool whenever i see my reflection while i’m walking. also the mesh swim cap thing is bringing back sooo many memories from my childhood😭

[LinikMolly]

The theory behind the male gaze is, that women and oppressed people in general often view themselves from the perspective of the oppressor and find it difficult to separate their true self from the version of themselves that is being perceived. Women, even when they are alone, act as if they are being watched and judged by someone. The female gaze is just a new sub genre this.