How to Know If It's Time to Break Up | Relationship Theory

You’re worth more. Period. Do not settle for someone isn’t bringing out the best in you and is championing the relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu discuss when it’s time to let go of someone who is simply just dragging the relationship down and causing more pain than joy. They discuss how disfunction is at the root cause of any unhealthy relationship, how sacrifices need to be made to pursue both your personal goals and to support your relationship, and how you are worth more and deserve joy.

SHOW NOTES:

Let ‘Em Go | Lisa and Tom discuss breaking up versus giving space during uncertainty. [0:25]
Disfunction | Tom and Lisa discuss when disfunction is the root cause of a relationship. [2:01]
Sacrifices | Tom and Lisa discuss the focus between your goals and your relationship. [3:05]
You’re Worth More | Lisa and Tom discuss what you deserve in a relationship. [4:56]

QUOTES:

“Do you feel like you’re their number one? Do you feel better about yourself when you’re around them?” [2:26]

“I don’t think that a dysfunctional relationship makes your life better than being alone.” [4:05]

“…you’re worth more…” [5:05]

FOLLOW TOM:

FOLLOW LISA:

[olgaanisimova]

So many women need to hear Lisa’s affirmation every day and work towards happiness. Period.

[emilyngo]

Love every single word from Lisa. Love yourself and respect yourself enough to walk away from a partner that isn't sure about you. If you value your relationship so much, whereas the other person takes things casual with the relationship, then LEAVE! Believe that you deserve to be loved so much more than this casual and unsure "love" ❤

[suzilarex]

I support both your opinions. Tom's last comment however hit me in the heart and head "do the work on thyself... she's not sure what her value is which means she needs to do the work"

[sanaghafoor]

So so good. Too short. I could listen to both of them talk about relationships for hours.

[texaSteffi]

You guys are amazing. We have so few examples of couples who thrive, that what you are doing here is gold. Thank you for showing us a way. Cheers and hugs x

[Conceptsexplainedsimply]

Women and men both need to hear this message because if you're not going to be better off with them, be without them. You should both be better for beuing together.

[therealsandraweise]

The whole truth is healthy not cold hearted. Facts are not malicious. Delivered fairly is preferred and it's an asset... even when harshly delivered the truth can be an asset.

[levelupyourlifestyle]

I wish a friend of mine could hear what you both had to say, especially Lisa. Its painful to know that they want that relationship of growing, supporting each other, uplifting each other, challenging, celebrating milestones, and the other person is only giving them sex.

[indyangeltouch]

But I'm so grateful for this program because I can learn more about both of you 💖

[a.m.]

I love these two...can listen to them for hours <3

[diamondgarcia]

Not related but I like her hair 👍🏼 good video

[juliatreyer]

Yeah, I of course agree that we (probably all of us) deserve more.. but what if your next relationship is not just walking down the actual road you are going down for you to "take it"..? What if it´s actually not like stretching your arm and picking ripe apples from a tree.. and you're just... staying alone. the world out there is not just endlessly offering you relationship-wanting-people that are into you. Maybe not all of us are living in busy cities full of amazing single people looking for relationships or some other place like that. Especially in these times. So yeah well, good advice, but reality is not something you can just cook up to your liking. You can be the best person ever, inside and out, and no one sees it and wants to be with you. Who's fault is that now? And more importantly, how can we fix that? Tell yourself 100 times a day that you're a "happy single person and need no one"..? Well, I truly hope it works for you, if the time comes.

[LonjeMarie]

I agree with what he says it sounds to me like the guys may excuses let him go

[npkrn]

As a lady, I'd say it sounds like the guy wants out, he liked the "now and again" attention of a LDR, but he is clearly stating he's not sure. There isn't much ambiguity, BUT like a lot of people - he lacks the courage to just say he's done. They didn't address it specifically but I think its an important piece here and that is that LDRs are perfect for people who "aren't sure". Youll be strung along for months or maybe years and probably 90% of the time it will go NOWHERE. I've been there, bought the BS, grieved, let it go and made a personal rule not to date anyone more than 30 miles from me. That's the easy part. But even in terms of dating locally, If someone isn't SURE about you, save yourself more pain and wasted time (which as you get older you realize is most valuable) and let them go.

[selfhelpchampion]

Hello Tom and Lisa, good afternoon🙏❤️selfhelpchampion

[jaehlee]

The Elephant in the room is the distance and what is the age of the couple?

[citaprevia]

... and the splinter remains : and you shall due to unto : what has been done to you : the faux pas now : a convenient forever gemini :
reclaim my reflection, reclaim my Giulio, reclaim the *Scapegoat* or be lost in fake is.Rael and love is not pretending.

[dans]

This is going to flop big time 🤣 stick to business and empowering people. What puts you in a position to give people relationship advice? You both live privileged lives. You have no connection the the average person. However, your business and empowerment material can genuinely help change lives. Let me guess.... this was Lisa’s idea because she was bored?