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[sunnyisfictional]

just a reminder that autism looks different for everyone and not every autistic person meets every diagnostic criteria

[emilIzer]

I hate this. I hate how Autism is seen as a social disability and not as a social AND emotional disability. I have good social skills, but I do have Autism. I hate how 'actually autistics' tiktokers make it seem like if you don't have one of the many many symptoms. I hate how because of other Autistic people it's harder for me to get a diagnosis.

[LuySara-il]

This is actually incorrect for females. I thought I had adhd since I was 12 and never considered autism because I knew a key feature was repetitive behaviours and fixed routines until I was going through the assessment of them trying to find out what I have, and they said they think I have autism and want to assess me and I said "but I don't have repetitive behaviours or fixed routine?" And the nurse therapist said "yeah we've realised that autistic girls are more likely to not have these tendencies than boys"

[trippykay]

these aren't true its a SPECTRUM for a reason you can have a lot of different combinations of traits there is no one true way to be autistic 😑

[kennedie]

as soon as i get burnt out or overwhelmed i revert straight back to 'what are these strange blocks around me. what dome am i in. whats this green stuff. alien need to go home'

[LaurArt_UK]

I have 2 of these signs and I'm diagnosed lol. It varies so much, and a lot of people are discovering the way their other conditions interact with it masks certain things. My ADHD means I cannot stick to a schedule - even though I need it.

[hopsymopsy]

Not only are these super stereotypical disqualifications but these mainly only apply to autistic boys who don't also have ADHD. My brother's been diagnosed since he was 3 years old (over 20 years ago) and there's 0 question that he has autism, but he also has ADHD and doesn't have any repetitive routines. He likes to know what we're gonna do for the day if we're planning on going somewhere, but he doesn't have a meltdown if we change plans or don't stick to it.
Also girls/afab individuals are less likely to have some of the things mentioned but still have autism. It's a spectrum for a reason. Someone masking due to being undiagnosed for years may have improved social skills/awareness, improved eye contact, and all sorts of things typical in autistic traits because of years of growing up without a diagnosis (mainly girls/afab) and things like ADHD can greatly affect how autism will also present itself.

[bumblegoot]

Mask was never quite the best
I still excel in social sets
I don’t repeat much anymore
Leaving home is still a chore

Interaction is quite tiring
But it’s worth it and inspiring
to meet others and explore
Always worth it to know more

I still struggle to emote
I still struggle to stay afloat
Eye contact is still real tough
But my friends know I’m enough

It’s a spectrum, keep in mind
Gatekeeping is never kind
Everyone’s a different story
Not a farm for online glory

Love my friends, love my life
Doesn’t mean I have no strife
I’m autistic, through and through
*I don’t need to check with you*

[gillb]

I'm autistic and I don't have many of those things. My only repetition is singing the same line of a song repeatedly until it drives me amd everyone else mad.
I can make friends but I don't connect with them and I'm great at acquaintances and short social interactions, I just can't carry out long term relationships.
I also have ADHD but I AM autistic and most of these things do not apply to me in the way you are describing them. It's important to recognise that simply taking symptoms from DSM5 and saying you HAVE to have them or you aren't autistic isn't really helpful

[JoULove]

Ok so other people have already pointed this out but yeah, please don't spread misinformation about this. Late diagnosed autistics like myself already deal with imposter syndrome around our diagnoses without getting more doubt piled on from within the community. Say it with me, it's a ✨ spectrum ✨, just because you don't exhibit the very specific symptoms listed in the video doesn't necessarily mean you're not autistic.

[Dorphie]

As for the social aspect, I would say ask yourself this:

Have you repeatedly experienced negative social interactions that leave you feeling perplexed and ostracized, your whole life? Do you continuously struggle to make connections with people and often say things that leave them feeling discomforted and you can't understand why? Sometimes does it feel like everyone else is tuned into the same frequency and have an intuitive understanding of each other and you aren't a part of it? Do you find that people tend to either love you or hate you, with many people hating/disliking you seemingly for no reason?

[BeKindAllTheTime]

Me watching this and thinking about how I have to be forced into a situation to make new friends or I let my friends make friends with a new person and I will slowly become friends with the new person. I think I've only made one friend entirely by myself without being forced into a situation with new people. I'm 15 and I've only had probably about 10 friends in my lifetime. There was about 3 years where I didn't have any friends (partially because of COVID. I lost all of my friends because I couldn't connect with them during that time), and partially because the friends I did have always wanted something from me, and it was really draining. I think I'm actually losing friends because I haven't seen a lot of them or am just too worn out by people to make an effort to connect. Making friends is hard (at least for me), but I don't know about other autistic people. Also, I have more social anxiety around people who know me than around people who don't, which seems to be the opposite of what it's supposed to be like.

[Dave_the_person]

Remember girl autism is a spectrum! Not everyone is the same!

[gariden]

comorbid adhd can absolutely mean you don’t necessarily exhibit these traits, or that they manifest in much less obvious ways. i outwardly have no routines at all, seem messy, and struggle to maintain even basic habits, but the way that appears in my life instead is orders of behaviour. when i’ve set an order that i need to do tasks, i CANNOT move on until i’ve at least started the first task. which with executive dysfunction is often a self fulfilling nightmare of a prophecy where i end up failing classes because i’m not handing in assignments. and i never seemed to struggle with making friends until university, because without my involvement, people seemed to befriend me. in university, where you need to take a much more active role to create new bonds, i’ve not made a single friend, lol. the more structured environment of compulsory education actually masked a lot of symptoms of both disorders, for me. although some were more obvious.

[LT-jryb]

Well Autism presents itself differently on everyone who has it. While there are shared symptoms not every autists struggles are the same. Think of it like a pie chart, another word for it is *the autism wheel*.

Some Autists don’t struggle with eye contact that much, while others might struggle with it more. Some Autists need higher levels of stimming while some others don’t. Etc.

There are Autists who are undiagnosed and get diagnosed later in life because throughout the years they learned how to hide their symptoms. Or maybe their symptoms were not so noticeable to begin with and were pushed off as just “kid behavior.”

I just wanted to spread awareness! I find that these types of videos could do harm to those who might have it but not exactly the way another autist has it. We live and we learn!

[merbst]

I am afraid this channel's published shorts tend towards stating imprecise or non-specific claims as facts, that are likely to perpetuate misunderstandings, by virtue of their emotional resonance.

[maglabs]

Autism is not a locked set of things that are experienced, its a variety pack of strange brain wiring that may change some parts of your ability to experience life, but may not change others, one autistic person may be able to form relationships relatively well because they learned how to mask quickly, but other may not learn as fast or at all unless they are directed to, which, begs the question if we SHOULD be telling autistic people to learn how to mask if they dont already. Its a wide topic, tough to narrow it down.

Oh shit yeah, btw, saying that you HAVE to have those symptoms to be considered autistic is, well, both incredibly rude and a little ableist. Its assuming no one differs from the rule, and that if they do theyre functionally wrong.

[thebirdthatshtonyourcar]

Not entirely, this is only true for some autistic people. I absolutely hate the first one because i feel like an alien yet interact almost perfectly with people. Its like im a parasite controlling something that resembles a "normal human" i look like everyone else and act like everyone else but i dont understand any of the things they do or why they do it. It feels so forced and fake when i act like them but i seem to always be able to smile at the right time and say the right things. Its so exhausting but i look and act normal so nobody believes im struggling.

[lea_san]

I am nearly 18 yo and I just figured out I might be autistic, I took couple of tests watched videos and most of the traits match and tests say that I'm likely to be autistic. I've honestly always felt like there's something 'wrong' with me and wanted to figure out what cuz the feeling of not fitting in was frustrating. I'm definitely looking forward to get a diagnoses to see if I really am autistic. Your videos also help me so thank u 🤍🖇

[pssumkingdm]

Autism specialists sitting across from someone who is clearly autistic but isn’t nonverbal and male: