Avoid these 6 Mistakes When Talking to an INFP

If you’re new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. Have you ever wondered why the INFP in your life just shut down? Maybe they walked away... maybe they got quiet(er). Here's a list of 6 things that bug me. If you're an INFP, just sit back and enjoy until the end because that's when the learning comes in. If you're dating an INFP, learn from these and avoid these 6 mistakes when talking to an INFP... please! :P

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0:00 Intro
1:04 1. Don't overwhelm them with random tasks 1:04
1:50 2. Don't insult their intentions 1:50
3:46 3. Don't call them boring 3:46
5:03 4. Avoid pressuring them to explain ethical choices 5:03
6:22 5. Don't dismiss feelings 6:22
7:39 6. Don't pressure them to answer quickly 7:39

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[starrysky]

"don't call me boring because that's for me to call myself when i don't like myself" i can relate that to a spiritual level 😂😂

[elise]

DON'T CALL ME PLEEEAAASE I DON'T HATE MUCH BUT I HATE PHONE CALLS DON'T MAKE ME
-INFP

[classikai]

Sooo what I'm getting from this is:


"INFPs have a *lot* going on in their brains, so try to not add to that :)"


-ISTP

[beeblebroxx]

The question I always hated hearing is "what are you thinking?" Dude how much time do you have?

[hoongijeong]

“Don’t tell them their intentions are bad/wrong” I felt that at my highest and lowest spiritual level. I know what I’m doing, I know what path I want to go on, JUST BE PATIENT WITH ME

[Holyvonhell]

"Don't dismiss their feeling" is the MOST important thing to me. Being an INFP, people telling me that I overreact or that "this thing is not that important" is the worst... I always care about how people feel and it hurts me so much when they don't.

[valenwyrm]

As an INFP, whenever someone asks me how I’m feeling or what are my thoughts, I feel like saying

*”HNGGDRF FFFGH JSJJN ARGHHHFTRR”*

[publicpitchblendeorg]

It's interesting how easily hurt we are while we only strive for harmony

[genamelia]

INFP here:

Don't do these things because you'll break my brain. I will freeze and I'll need to do a hard restart.

[Robidu]

"Don't force them to answer quickly."
I can absolutely relate, because processing the question usually begins only after the entire question has been asked, and as you have stated, we also need time to evaluate it.

Greetings from a fellow INFP.

[notyrants]

I hate to be asked to explain myself and what I'm doing. Do any other INFP's feel that way too?

[alinleonhart]

I dont mind with many task, just dont annoy me when im trying to get them done

[johndalenino]

when they ask you for suggestion, and skip through your suggestion... infuriating. makes me question why do i even exist XD

[pamelajohn]

"I don't really have a strong opinion on that. Life of INFPs" lmao story of my life.

[LivingGuy]

Being called boring hurts a heck of a lot more than one thinks it does. It's almost akin to saying "You have nothing of worth in any relationships. No one would want to hang out with you"

Considering how being an introvert leads to having less friends, sometimes I worry that this is actually true. Heck, most people only seem to value me because I listen and can give some counseling

[no_i_dont_want_no_slugs]

"we have to evaluate and balance everything that we do"


so true. even when i'm speaking, i'm constantly pausing and self-evaluating, seeing if i'm saying what i truly mean in the best way and making sure my words won't be misinterpreted and harm someone. it's exhausting (probably for the listener as much as for me), but i can't help doing it.

[purpleshoes]

oh. as an infp, i hate it when people call me, "people pleaser". i mean, come on, not all will agree with one thing. at least let's look for a common ground. 🙄

[madamevampsilverkim]

1. Don't overwhelm them with random tasks 1:04
2. Don't insult their intentions 1:50
3. Don't call them boring 3:46
4. Avoid pressuring them to explain ethical choices 5:03
5. Don't dismiss feelings 6:22
6. Don't pressure them to answer quickly 7:39

[erratictransparency]

As an INFP with emotional regulation issues it's so frustrating when I express how I feel, and then people try to talk me out of it. Like... I already know what I'm feeling is completely irrational and all the reasons why. You explaining it to me isn't going to change anything, I've already had that conversation with myself many times over. Just let me express that feelings are hard and then let me move on with my life. :(