How To Live A More Peaceful Life @ChrisWillx

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[gmanley]

It's all too easy to ignore our inner trauma and mal-adaptive behaviors these days, which makes me all the more appreciative of Dr K's work

[ShenobiYT]

"Everybody wants happiness, nobody wants pain, but you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain."

[haydon]

“The thing you need the most, will be found in the place you least want to look.”

[jayrimmey]

Going through a life-changing situation that leaves you alone with your thoughts will either break you or mold you. I've personally found myself being angry, sad or crying over my own choices and hating myself to the point of wanting to not live but going through those negative moments helped me to zero in on aspects of myself that needed to change. Those Eureka moments make it worth it for me at least.

[gamekeyp]

The darkness before the light so to speak.

[keeshuunedited]

This is how playing a social VR game helped me. I used to have massive anxiety (muscles cramping, hard to breathe, would try to go around corners to calm down, all that stuff). Was trying to do exposure therapy on myself, and exposure therapy never worked IRL because IRL used to be too much for me due to how I grew up.
However, while waiting for emotions to calm down, there were a lot of empty looking worlds at the time so people's PCs don't fry, so there was a lot of "look at a wall" scenarios going on. When I got to be more calmed down, my mind would start to wander to other things from the past. For the first few weeks/months it sucked really really hard. Then I realized it was a lot easier to focus on things, I was able to sleep better because I was usually relaxed.
Now generally just "dipping your toes" in your negative thoughts and just running away at the slightest touch can make the negative thoughts stronger. However, for me, being exposed to it long enough led my mind to drastically reducing the negative feeling because it was not followed up by something bad after thinking it. So it just got lessened and lessened overtime until I eventually got bored. Once I got bored, I'd do things that it used to prevent me from doing, then I can have positive experiences, so the negative stuff can't come back. If it does come back, I can now go "well there's proof I more positive feels now. It may suck now, but I know it'll be better later". Then as time goes on, the harder it is for all that negative stuff to appear.

So I went from feeling fear (and in the workplace hatred due to how awful people treat each other), to just being comforted by being people in general and try to help other people get out of their shell.

So yeah, I can definitely recommend relaxing. Though I highly recommend making it so you can't get interrupted in your relaxation periods. Otherwise the mind might think something will pop up at any moment, which makes it harder to relax.
When my anxiety was at it's worst, I basically went all in because while I have accomplished many things in life, the anxiety just made it impossible to enjoy any accomplishment for more than a few minutes no matter how many people complimented me. So If I wanted to know what I want to dedicate my time to, I have to fix emotions so it's easier to decide. So I was sick and tired of it, so I went all in and spent all my free time on relaxing in VR. 1-3 hours on work days to relax before sleep. 3-8 hours on days off.

That said, I need to get back into relaxing everyday again. Best friend was able to play lots of video games for once, and I was trying to be alongside them for most games. Though uh, I have a job, they currently don't. Sooo trying to do the impossible and keep up with significantly less time than them. So safe to say I got more stressed out slowly over the past couple years. This last couple months was the worst of it. I love me Helldivers 2. I love me some Monster Hunter World. But gosh dang. the grind.. soo much grinding! I don't even know how I managed to get 70 hours for both those games.
This week I basically spent all week relaxing and realized just how much I let life slip back into hard mode. I feel absolutely amazing today.

Sorry for the long post, but gosh darn I wanted to do a happy vent session =p

[alejrandom]

I love Dr K's interviews. Sometimes he gets more in detail about certain topics

[sharonmassey]

"It's amazing what you can learn if you sit with yourself."

"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." - Blaise Pascal, French philosopher

[juststanningby]

Whenever I feel like I'm changing for the better there is that moment of 'going through' poison. It's a rather comforting thought that the time I spend dealing and facing this poison actually can lead me to 'gold' when I get through it.

[altobonifacio]

I feel proud of working on mindfulness because even though i get to relive all trauma it's a process that will bring me closure, once that closure is reached i can create anything i want for my life.
In an era where technology companies compete over your attention, giving attention to the self becomes an act of independence!

[zoy]

this is exactly true. if you really wanna sit with your self the first thing u ganna confront of this journey is pain and anxiety but believe that after the pain and anxiety thereare comfort and knowledge and this is the core❤❤❤🎉

[Motivationtowinnn]

I completely agree
Your past, your thoughts, your negativity will be revealed when you will sit with yourself

[homesteadstateofmind]

This podcast was so good I listened a second time and took notes! I so appreciate the top notch insight🙌

[mljesus]

Im so blessed that this was never a problem for me, I love sifting though my mind and thinking on my own

[relaxlifesbeautiful]

Man, Dr.k I just want to say that you’re FUCKING AMAZING. Your ability to articulate paired with your kindness towards others inspires me every damn day. I LITERALLY HAD A DREAM where there was some guy who wanted to drop out of high school & I started asking him questions like you do & replying with “ok”, “ok” while delving deeper 😭 love how understanding you are AND THAT YOUR WISDOM AND PATIENCE IS MAKING AN IMPRESSION ON MY SUBCONCIOUS. SORRY FOR THE TANGENT, YOU ROCK!!!

[pretzelschannel]

I do that a lot, sitting with myself and trying to understand myself when something bad happens and it makes me sad. It's true, poison always comes first before I find gold— I'm going to feel very sad or hurt from thinking about the event, but at the end I will be able to understand why that made me sad.

Honestly, that makes the inner me feel listened to. My emotions being listened to by my mind, doesn't that sound nice? It sounds like a healthy relationship with yourself.

[briobarb]

New to this guy! WOW...really like him. Thank you sir!!!

[eebbaa]

i’m cognitively aware of this but i haven’t subconsciously accepted the truth yet so when i’m not actively numbing myself it feels like an animal is trying to claw its way out of my body from the inside 😚

[WanderwithTJ]

Can confirm lots of poison before the light working through the poison right now, getting glimpses of the light and looking forward to more light shining through the poison/darkness

[jsomeone]

Dr.K is a gift to the modern psyche! His channel really helps.