Trans Women: A Journey Through Self-Love and Self-Hate!

Do you find yourself oscillating between love and hate? One minute, you feel great about yourself, and the next, you are filled with self-loathing? What you experience is incredibly common and there is an explanation as to why you feel the way you do.

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Hello Friends! I'm Dr Z, and this is a channel where I help you break free from dysphoria!

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[marti]

It is a journey through self-hate to self-love. I so disliked myself as a man. Now, as a trans woman I finally know who I am and I like it. Thanks G-d the shift happened.

[dumpsterfriar]

Wow, great timing. I just shaved my entire head because I'm sick of staring at my bald spot. I could really do a deep dive about self-hate right now.

[redpepper]

I love it when DR. Z just lets loose lol

[TranstalkwithFendi]

I'm speechless, Dr.Z you have such an in depth understanding of transgender people it's a blessing. I don't even know where to start unpacking everything. I could go on and on. I really do try to just live under my umbrella. I'm plagued with my poor decisions from my past that add even more labels that make me a social reject or the scum of the earth where I'm sure all the self-righteous people would go "see I told you so!" or " I gotcha". I live in poverty but I get by my bachelor's degree is almost useless now when it comes to finding work but I am not my past and since coming out as trans and starting hormones I look forward to every day I get to exist. I didn't used to. I guess the opportunity to live authentically for as long as possible is worth more than the life time of chaos that was my past. Thank you for what you do for the trans community ❤❤❤

[CptPatch]

I have a wonderful friend who has helped me through a lot of the shame and self-hate over my body, you know what she said to me? She said that's part of being a woman, and society did that to us and part of self-actualizing as a modern woman is always going to be cult deprogramming (that she struggles with as well). I was talking to one of my sisters about my facial hair, and she said that me transitioning just took the family count of "sisters who are self-conscious about facial hair" from 3 to 4, because we all do facial hair removal. A lot of the time when I come up against internalized transphobia the wonderful women in my life just unmask it as the other face of the internalized misogyny that we all share.

[TBoltzzz]

Ive been living with this back and forth feeling for more than a decade and Watching your videos is so relieving and it resonates with me and gives me hope for the future .

[fullmetal]

Thanks for the video, this is exactly what I’ve gone through 😅. I am 6 months on HRT. The world part resonated with me. I’ve had my whole family and most friends turn on me after they found out. Dr. Z is right though, i’m here because i am resilient. So are you! You the reader deserve happiness and love ❤.

[SaraphineTheMer-Queen]

2:57 - This is a great description of what it feels like to be nonbinary for me and what I've felt like for most of my life. Being stuck in the middle, but never being seen as who you are. Unfortunately, for many of us, we don't have a single end point or external appearance in which we are easily gendered or seen as who we are. I also relate to the vacillation between self-love and self hate. If people would just let us live our lives, we wouldn't have so much internalized self-loathing. Being feminine gives me euphoria, and I enjoy it. But society always tries to punish this.

[DLTellet]

As someone who has only socially transitioned, and not fully, this really hit home to me. Daily changes in thoughts about myself really does make things difficult, especially when anxiety levels are already high because of all the external pressures against the trans community.

Thank you, Dr. Z for posting this. It really helps and I intend to re-watch it often to help build that umbrella.

[onurpoyraz]

It was a very emotional 30 mins together and it is crazy how you understand and feel the details, and yes your kind personality and psychologist abilities help us here a lot, please go on. I am a trans from Turkey, I cannot get consultancy from you, but I got a lot feeling from your videos.. A big thank you..

[Adventurerider]

Thank you for posting this Dr Z. You always post topics timely.. I go through these cycles sometimes several times a week. Self acceptance is something I am truly working on and realize it is the key to life. The current events challenge me in my self acceptance. I am grateful for your contributions and support. This helps me know that I am not alone.

[FaitheeePooh]

Hey Dr.Z Im a trans woman without hormones and I just wanted to say thank you for posting this just yesterday I felt so angry that it was going everywhere just to wake up the next day loving myself. Even down to the trans community thank you for letting us know we’re not crazy

[BrendaLee_N]

Dr Z, "in between genders " is such an apt description. I have been transitioning for a couple years now. My biggest fear is embarrassing myself, of appearing foolish or clownsh. Hopefully that will go away soon

[troycantrell]

This is the reason i just progress slowly, she is on my conscience constantly and doesnt leave me alone.lol Slow and steady makes it so i can process my needs and dont bounce back and forth being double minded which causes stress and makes daily tasks sometimes difficult.I cant please everyone.You are so valuable to this community.Thank you

[dextergreener]

I have a saying I repeat: "I know who I am and not what you want me to be; for this, my dear, I am truly free."

[RD]

I love ur videos they help me a lot :D

[JustAGuest_JAG]

Thank you so much for all of your videos. This video came out right when I needed it! It's been hard, but my 3 month HRT follow up is in 3 days. I cant wait for the future and to become the person I've always hid away.

[nickyjamestv-]

Wow, such insightful videos that make so much sense, thank you Dr Z! ❤

[SpiritoftheWoods]

Love you Dr Z, you're the best❤🇨🇦🏳️‍⚧️

[imweird]

I'm experiencing a lot of this at the beginning of my transition. I feel like I'm in the middle, but I've always dreamed of getting on hormones. I haven't even started hormones, but I'm already so angry that I wasn't born cis, and I'm that people hate me for wanting to be me. I'm baffled.