If You've Ever Lost a Child, Watch This

Be it through a miscarriage, an accident, an illness or another means, the loss of a child has got to be the most unimaginable pain for a parent.

While the grief must be grieved in its own time and depth, one thing that can help such a parent is to focus on the love that was birthed from this
relationship.

When the parent commemorates the birthing of this love during this painful time of death, the parent transforms their pain toward the highest good.

Action through service is one of the most powerful ways this can happen.

It is through service that the harrowing experience of loss can be rejuvenated into redemption, love and a new tomorrow.

Dr. Shefali is a NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. She is also a clinical psychologist, an international speaker and a wisdom teacher, integrating Eastern philosophy with Western psychology.

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[liathtgodd]

I just lost my baby girl yesterday I miss her so much i hope she isn’t in pain anymore and that the lord and my family watches over and cares for her till I can see her again one day

[aroundtheworld]

Lost my son in mother's womb days before his due date. Feels like a part of me is gone with him even though he never took a breath or opened his eyes in this world. Feels so empty. May God give strength to every parent who lost their child.

[iexistiam]

I lost my son to cancer in 2020. He was only 6. I have never felt a pain so deep and I struggle everyday. I struggle with images of the pain he put up with and all those times he tried to show me how brave he was during his treatment. He wanted me his father to know he was strong and could face his cancer.

[sherylshumate]

Nothing eases the pain or grief from losing a child. Advice from someone who has never lost a child is useless.. you make a decision every day to get up. You make a decsion everyday to carry on like everything is normal. You makeca decision everyday to laugh, love and enjoy friends and family.. because underneath all you want is for the pain and emtiness to stop. But it never will. So you make a choice everyday to live life despite what you feel inside, until it becomes normal again to just do and be. Because that grief, pain emptiness is the new normal you learn to balance them both. That is how you deal with the loss of a child.

[A.gamer_]

I never wanted to be a parent, until I found my husband. He had already experienced the loss of his son, born too early, lived for a week. It took him 5 years to recover. Our son, my first his second, never got to take his first breath, he was born at 18 weeks pregnant, stillborn. He is still my son and I will always have a love for him I simply cannot put into words, one I thought I'd never have. Today was his cremation, he will be loved forever.

[anewlondon]

I loss my baby girl earlier this year. It's been ten months now and I'm still in pain. I'm not sure whether I'm going or coming... I know, I miss her so much and it's not easy to turn the love you have for your child that you loss into something positive. My world stopped, it's like, I'm on autopilot. My condolences to everyone who's coping with the loss of a loved one. Thanks for sharing

[teresagibson]

We've lossed a 25 year old grandson nearly 2 months ago, it's so painful, my daughter is hurting, I pray she can get through with God's strength. I feel sorrow for all you who are going through this.

[lynnloganmusic]

I lost my son on December 4th. It was my birthday. He had a heart attack. He was 38. I truly believe it was from years of drug and alcohol abuse and it just wore his heart out. He had just been released last March from his first prison sentence. I had such high hopes that he would get his life together this time. He fell back into meth and was shooting it this time. He is at peace now and no demons can taunt him now. He did believe in God and I believe he called on God and God took him. My pain is still fresh and I am praying my way through it

[hyena]

I lost my baby boy a week ago. It feels crazy to write. I lost my first brother on Dec 11 2022. I can’t put into words the pain. I will never stop loving him. At least I have that. He was only a 1 month old. But it was the best 4 weeks of my life. Hold on to the love.

[Nrbrelic]

I just lost my son... I miss him beyond words....

[glamchic]

Nothing has helped me. I miss my son much. May 1st 2020. 💔💔💔

[ednab.]

My pain is recent and the pain is in every breath I take, but I try to remember the beautiful moments that we created over 16 1/2 years. Some days I can’t even move, but I have to try to be normal or pretend I am alive for my daughter…. She is my source of power..
I want to give up every day and I just can’t wait to be with him when the Good Lord tells me it’s my time. For now, I’m trying to be a good person so when it’s my time, I can go to the same place where My son went. God allowed me to see where my son is and I am thankful for that and gives me some peace, but the pain is overwhelming and nothing like anything I could have ever imagine. Everyone wants to go to Heaven, but no one wants to die, my son is there and I am not afraid of death nor I welcome of it until my duty is fulfilled with my daughter.

[dpstrandr]

I watched this and it did nothing for me. My 21 year old son passed away this past September 5th 2021. Not a day goes by I do not think of him and miss him. I can watch all the videos that mention help for the grief all day long but I will never forget about my son and will take it to the grave with me. The main hard part is going through this mostly alone.

[jacquelinemcgowan]

This is why i wouldnt go to therapy, experts do not qualify, they will never know the pain, heartache and sorrow ever full stop

[MsMadmax]

This is a lovely message--and it's all true. My cousin and her husband just lost their only child to a heart attack, he was only 47. When they had him, they had agreed to "one and done" and never had another child. Even if they had decided to have more children, you can't replace one because each child is special in their own way. I was never able to have children, so I don't know how to comfort them. I do know that even if they'd known this was going to happen, they'd rather have their "fifteen minutes of wonderful instead of a lifetime of nothing special". I've lived my whole life with nothing as special as their son was to show for it. That's a grief that hasn't gone away for over 40 years.

[InnerVisionStudios]

Such a difficult topic to talk about but yet so important. Taking the love for your child and using that to be of service for the greater good and live your life is the best thing you can do for your deceased child. Appreciate this video.

[TurkPowers]

It isn't one of the most devastating things, it is THE MOST DEVASTATING thing one could go through.

Everything you are saying is easy to say, when you looking from the outside in. When you are on the inside, it's a darkness you can feel and it's a nightmare that never ends.
However, you do become numb to the nightmare and you learn to live your life once again.

I am 14 years removed from the loss of my daughter. I still have a hole in my heart. I have accepted it, and I learned to live with it.

There is only acceptance. It took me 5 yrs to do that, which is normal. You can distract yourself all you want, but acceptance is key. Everything else is meaningless.

It's a long hard journey, but it can be achieved.

[aliced]

I.lost my son feb.2, 21, he was 38, my heart is so broke, lost empty and crying all the time, I miss him so much..pray daily.

[flicchick]

My brave 8 year little boy has just passed over only on 23-01-2022. The hospital could not stop the seizures, he had had seizures for over 5 years from batten disease cln2. All our children are such brave warriors. There are no words for the void we have. But I know my son soul is free of pain and we will meet again, all together soon. He has returned back to divine light, I miss him so much. Love you Son x

[gingerbee]

Today December 18th I lost my Beautiful only child to a horrific accident. It has been 3 years and the loss is still so Deep it cut through to my Soul. It shattered my heart and Dreams....Life is Cruel is what I learned from this horrible experience....Erek I miss you every moment every day. I Love you Infinity and Our Souls will intertwine Again and that will be the moment my Soul smiles again as we Reunite with Joy & Laughter..Love Momma..💙💜 Thank you for 28 years of knowing you in this Lifetime...