I finally 'met' my biological father.

[mrvinhvo]

Thanks for sharing your story Ben. It's unfortunate that you finally met your biological father under such circumstances. There's a lot that we can take from your experiences. I've been following you since your adoption videos and really enjoy your food content. Thank you for your willingness to open up and share this story with us ❤❤

[austinlouis]

"A lot of stories are personal until you tell them", what a beautiful quote. Really heart touching story Ben, wishing the best for you

[Sporacle]

Vulnerability is never a weakness and you are clearly a gentle soul. You deserve everything good in your life. Thank you for being a conduit of peace, as well. Love ya bro.

[Patricia-psyh]

Never apologize for your feelings, thank you for sharing such a difficult time in your life.

[ayaka]

Been watching you since highschool and now I'm in my PhD. I will always be proud of how you are able to share these incidents about your life with us. Food aside, you are an amazing person.

[bihan]

hi Ben. i'm 22 and also adopted from South Korea, and am having my own sort of mental/emotional journey. recently there's been a huge investigation in the news where my adoption agency is even being investigated for fraudulent adoptions, and just.. there's a lot of heartache to be said about Korean adoptees. i'm sorry to hear that your moments with your biological family members were under such stressful circumstances. sending love and peace

[lunaasdzani]

wow. no apologies necessary. Thank you for sharing a part of your life.

[iana]

It sounds like your brother really wanted to share the experience with you. That is very special. Maybe you two can become good friends in the future. You never know. I found out about a brother much later in life. I wanted to be close to him but he was not interested. I understand and love him from afar. Thanks for sharing.

[finalversenyc]

Tracking down your biological family in itself is a very brave feat. Perhaps you were looking for answers to questions that weren't found through this experience. But know that it does not matter and the past decisions of your biological parents that apparently were unfortunate to resort to them, doesn't in any way have relevance to who you are as a person. I applaud your endeavor and hope you can finally close this past chapter of your life. 🙏

[EveofPyrite]

I cried when you said you spoke to him. Even though he wasnt concious im sure his soul was glad that you came. We are all energetically connected to our family thats why we yearn to learn more about them . I been subscribed to your channel since 2014 I think. You always come across as a purehearted person. You also remind me of my brother .

[DrewPNuts]

Don’t be too hard on yourself Ben, the fact that you even went shows your character. Hope things are well brother.

[MarkVirgulto]

I actually enjoyed this story. Thanks for sharing. It takes a lot of guts for a man to travel halfway across the world to meet his biological Dad, Start a new life, Lose his Dad the first time meeting, and keep moving on with life. Makes you wonder what the meaning of life really is anyway. Why do we endure certain things, and what is the goal if happiness is never met? is it to be a good person? Partner? Father? Because when those things aren't satisfied... are we just waiting to die? If they are satisfied, are we still just waiting to die? Will we be remembered? Do we even want to be? Life's quite a trip man.

[YouGotNoJams.]

I’ve been watching your videos for about 10 years now and always appreciate hearing stories about your life. Thank you for being vulnerable and reminding us to prioritize spending time with our loved ones while we still have the chance. Keep keeping it real Ben 🤙🏼

[beth-ze]

I'm a Korean adoptee, and your story was heartbreaking to listen to. It is just one of the many iterations of possible meetings we all dream our whole lives of having with our "real family..."

I'm sorry it ended this way for you. I'm sorry it was so emotionally charged and quick. It sounded traumatic in nature. It reminded me that my fantasies of reunion with my biological parents (which I have confirmed will never take place due to circumstance) also include highly distressing and negative possibilities. While that is neither here nor there, it elongates this dream and further pushes it into the abstract and ambiguous, if not downright horrific. Thank you for bravely sharing your story of reunion--which was ultimately LOSS. I'm sorry that it began and ended that way for you...strength to you, as you navigate these memories and emotional landscapes. It makes total sense that all of "that" needed to express somewhere, so give yourself some grace regarding the panic attacks and anxiety. Adoptee=having anxiety. Be well, take good care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. 💗

[Nope]

Ben, that could not have been easy. I appreciate you sharing your story.

[marikam]

It seems like it's all come full circle. You went to Korea to meet your biological family and ended up meeting your wife with whom you can now create your own little family. Life is a real mix of joy and sorrow, but all in all, it's a beautiful journey. Much love to you and your wife. Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal experience with us ❤

[fn_flashy]

Seeing this side of Ben is something I’d never expect to see on this channel. I really respect him for being brave enough to show this vulnerable side of him. Thank you for sharing your story Ben.

[Yuhabahhablast]

Ben it takes a lot to be this open. Especially on a place like the internet. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story ❤

[parkerfreeman]

Even though this video was a ramble, you are a fantastic storyteller. Not only that, but as im sure you know, you have a very calm, relaxing and thought provoking presense and way of speaking that makes videos such as these cathartic and healing. Ive watched a ton of your videos and its these and those moments when you reflect/share on personal matters during your normal eating videos that are my favorites.

[Dasalsim]

Appreciate the transparency, I know due to obvious reasons this channel tends to shy away from the personal stuff. More power to you Ben on your life journey, we're here for it <3