It's Time to Talk about Psychological and Verbal Abuse | Lizzy Glazer | TEDxPhillipsAcademyAndover

Psychological and verbal abuse are the most common elements of domestic violence, yet they are the least talked about. A survivor of domestic violence, Lizzy Glazer, discusses her experiences. In her TEDx talk, she identifies five common signs of abuse, acknowledges the guilt and shame victims feel, and raises awareness of the invisible scars of psychological and verbal abuse.

[marycallan]

Abuse is not always screaming, yelling, etc., but calm, covert put downs and devaluing remarks using a kind, helpful, spiritual mask, when the true intent is to control your actions and thoughts to their way of living/being.

[ericedwards]

As one of your former teachers I'm so proud of you for speaking your truth

[margosparkle]

I hear parents say "What's wrong with you?" all the time when their child makes a mistake or has a hard time learning what they are trying to teach him/her. What a horrible thing to say to a young, striving mind.

[LindaMarieAndFamily]

First 45 seconds and started crying. That’s how much those words can scar you.

[irynayakymets]

This hits too close to home for me. I'm still waiting for that moment when I'll be able to breathe again.

[lrs]

its important to know that the abuser can sometimes be the mother. anger has no gender.

[genxmum]

When my abusive husband left us my kids and I could shower whenever we wanted and eat food out of the fridge without being yelled at.

[joanlynch]

This girl is a really good speaker. If you are raised in this kind of a house, then it opens you up to all kinds of abuse later because you expect the world to behave this way.

[toneman]

Psychological abuse is more damaging and longer lasting than physical injury.

[MarySmith-xogc]

When this young woman's father sees this presentation, he is going to be in denial. He may never believe he is actually that abusive individual.

[AmethystDreaming]

Snarky comments about your appearance that are "excused" as jokes.. Then you're told you're too sensitive.

[lindalowe]

I hate that phrase, " You'll never amount to anything!" My mom told me that every week. I am beginning to think it is a phrase passed down through generations of abusers. I broke that chain!! Made a point of it.

[CheshireKat]

I cried while watching this whole thing. I am still emotionally trapped, torn, and afraid today but hopefully I will breathe again soon. Never give up. I won't.

[JenAWren]

Christmas, special events, birthdays were always destroyed by the Narcissist. Your happiness has to be destroyed. Only when you are sad or crying - then the Narcissist is satisfied.

[julialouisse]

The worst part of abuse is that you love that person so you don’t want to leave them or get them in trouble.

[snowqueen]

My mom used biblical manipulation to keep me from recognizing the signs of emotional and verbal abuse, and she still does it today. She would also break me down, build me up, and make me feel worthless again and do it all over again. She would manipulate my mind.

[il]

I always thought that it was my fault, that I pushed them to the point by screaming because I was scared, that I had nothing to complain about because they would take such good care and I had nowhere else to go anymore. When they kicked me out, it was like waking up, remembering every little thing they did to me, that I myself sweeped under the rug to stay sane and I can finally acknowledge that this, the abuse, the screaming the choking, was not my fault.

[tbd]

The best abusers are so subtle with their torture you only realize the extent of the mindfuckery when you get out and look back.

[liahknowsbest]

He use to tell me I never put my hands on you! But it was ok for him to threaten my life and laugh when I was in tears😥 Till this day I'm struggling to be in a committed relationship. I spent 3 years working on myself worth and care. Ladies it start with you loving yourself💖🙌🙌🙏🙌🙌🙌💕

[molly]

I’m 16 and I just recently got out of an abusive relationship. I thought it was love but it was manipulation, it was pain and it fake. He made me cut off all my friends and made me feel worthless. I have never been happier, leaving him was the best thing I’ve ever done!