Kidnapping - 3 Life-Saving Techniques ( Women’s Self-Defense Basics )

In the wake of the incredibly tragic abduction and murder of Eliza Fletcher, a 34-year-old wife, mother and teacher, Eve and Rener were invited onto Unfiltered on Fox to show some of the important concepts taught in the Women Empowered program. We hope you find them useful. To the Fletcher Family, we’re so sorry for your loss. We will continue to our quest to empower the good against the evil.

[trianafoxwood]

I survived being taken as a small child. A man pulled over and threw my friend in his car layered in black plastic trash bags. She was stunned and didn't move. I was not going to let him take my best friend and he was not going to put his hands on me. I was tiny. I made it because my family taught me to yell a very bad word to get peoples attention. Rape. I had no idea what it meant but I knew it was very bad. I was super wiggly. He couldn't get me in the car. When I screamed rape he broke from his trance. He looked around. That's when I grabbed my friend by the feet pulling her out of the car. She finally got up and began to help me help her. He began to pull her by the shoulders but I wouldn't let go of her feet. I was screaming rape and causing a scene. He decided to drive away. We ran. My friend lost her shoes. All she could think about was getting in trouble for losing her shoes. Her family didn't teach her what to do. I still remember what he looks like. The attack was so quick. He really was in a trance like state. He moved like a machine. He knew exactly what he wanted. We would be dead for sure. I can't imagine being murdered in elementary school. That would have ruined our families and destroyed our town. No they never caught the guy. I don't know why I was so brave. I just knew he was a bad guy and I wasn't going to let him do it.

[ndtonone]

This is what our children and young adults should be trained in from elementary thru college. Period enough Said!

[sigmac]

What about scenarios where potential kidnappers have guns and/or knives? In South Africa, this is the case most of the time. A police officer told me once NEVER to get into the car, no matter what. Rather let them shoot you on the spot than comply and get in, because whatever is going to happen to you in the car or at the destination they're taking you to is far worse than being shot on the spot.

[GitaS]

At 18 years old i was kidnapped by 4 men and somehow drugged and abused and after they forced me to drive their van for some reason and luckily my mind started fighting off the drug probably due to adrenaline and as soon as I saw a police car I drove straight into a lamp post and ran out straight to the police...can't remember much after that. You need to do what it takes to escape.

[Jmm]

I had a horrible situation happened to me. Long story short, I opened the door and jumped out of the car when he was making a turn. I knew he had to slow down due to the turn and I jumped. Got pavement injuries but got out. Even when he was driving at high speed I was thinking of jumping out, I wasn’t going to let him take me to an isolated place with no witnesses and let my family suffering because they couldn’t find my body.

[ronmiller]

These reality-based techniques are very useful to develop survival mindset. No one would willingly go to the ground in guard or crash attacker's car if they had other better choices but sometimes the worst happens and you gotta do whatever it takes to stop you from dying. My daughter is training Gracie's women's empowerment classes and eventually Gracie's combative classes - the best gift I can give her before she's on her own. Thanks, Gracie University.

[yvonnelewis]

Causing a wreck if you’re being forced to drive is another great tactic to stop what’s happening. Awesome video thanks for helping us learn to fight back and stay safe!

[catenystrom]

I've always said NEVER let them take you from the point they grab you, I don't care if they have a gun to your head or a knife to your side, DO NOT let them take you. Your best chance of survival, even if you're stabbed, is to remain at the point of where they're tying to take you. The first thing they'll say is "Don't scream", but scream and kick and bite as loud as you can. I'd rather be stabbed next to my car than taken, raped for two days and murdered.

[fbbWaddell]

For those of you saying there will always be someone else, that isn't true. I was almost kidnapped twice as a child. The first time, my mom left 3yo me with the parent of a child I was playing with in the water at the beach while she moved our stuff to a different location. After she walked away, a man walked up and scooped me out of the water and walked away. I was confused because I didn't know him but I wasn't scared initially. When my mom came back for me, the lady told her that my dad came and got me.(Not her fault. She didn't know.) When we got out to the parking lot, he put me down and we walked out to his car. He got in the car weird. Instead of putting me in and then getting in, he got into the drivers seat. Then, he reached for me to put me in his car. At that moment, I heard my mom screaming my name so I turned to go to her. He grabbed my arm to stop me. That's when I got scared and tried to pull away. He couldn't pull me into the car (idk why because he could have just picked me back up) but I couldn't break his grip. He pulled the car door and then put his other arm through the window, switched hands, and held on to me as he started the car and slowly backed out of his parking spot. I was pulling and crying and I completely panicked because he wouldn't let me go to my mom. I kept hearing her scream my name and I couldn't see her. He slowly started driving in the lane of the parking area but he wouldn't let go. Finally, I saw her and then I started kicking the car and hitting his arm and scratching him and screaming for my mom while crying. She finally saw me and started screaming for help while running towards me. There was a police car nearby. The officer whoop whooped his siren and the man finally let go and drove off. Idk what happened to him after that but I ran to my mom and I remember her talking to the cops while I played with my sister. The point is, people do try to take you alone. I've also seen news stories of people being kidnapped by one individual.

[runner]

He is right, you never want to be taken away from the scene. Even if they point a gun at you. Yell, fight like hell, and if they have a gun run away in a ziz zag if once they get u in that vehicle, chances are much slimmer you'll be able to escape wherever they take you.

[vickiefinney]

When my daughter was younger I used to have her watch safety videos just like this, then I would quiz her on it. She is now 35 and still remembers what to do in case someone tries kidnapping her.

[Kmcheuk]

Been in this program for over a year (that’s after a 2nd degree black belt). Hands down this is way more practical for women in 1:1 situations which happens a lot more than you think when she’s alone some where.

[leeoconnor]

I was brought up in the worst town, hackney, London. My mother sent me to school over 10 miles away and from age 7 I had to travel by myself. She told me what to do if I was ever attacked. I was vulnerable being so young anyway but added to that, I'm Indian and very short, so at 7 I probably looked 5..an easy target, on my way home one day, a flashy yellow sports car pulled up beside me and then man screamed at me angrily to get in the car, I was stunned, when you are in shock, you either freeze or fly. In one sit second, I was thinking I have to obey an adult, he's angry, I should do what he says, this is typical of what a 7 yr old mind will think if you don't train that out of them. Suddenly, I unfroze, remembering what my mother told me, scream, shout, run, knock on doors of the particular streets she told me I would be safe to knock on. The street where he stopped was not a busy one, it gets lonelier the further you go to my home, perfect spot to kidnap someone. But I ran, fast, in hindsight, I should have ran in the opposite direction I came from as it was a high street, bus stops, there are people travelling up and down by foot and car, he would have had to get out his car and get me into the car because he couldn't turn the car around. As it was, I didn't have that thinking time, and I ran towards my home where he could easily have followed me in the car and tried worse. But I was lucky, my screaming and running scared him off, he didn't follow. Another time, I got home from college, someone was lurking outside in the dark, I'm 5ft and he was over 6 ft, he waited until I opened the door to my flat, as I turned around to close the door, I saw his face in between the gap of the door, he pushed the door with force, which hit me in the face, I fell, he opened the door wider, I quickly got up, he then pushed my one shoulder to the ground and went down on my knees, he was stronger than me, I got hold of the front door he was trying to close, I grabbed it, my knuckles were jammed in the door twice but I didn't let go. Then I screamed, loudest I ever could, he was shouting at me to shut up, I refused, I just kept screaming and screaming, he let go, took my purse and ran out. All in under 30 seconds because then my house alarm went off. I was so angry that as he ran out, I had run after him still screaming, first few seconds I tried to look for him outside, still screaming but he had run off. I should have made myself safe after he left but anger took over. I was lucky again. I also had another incident on a bus after work one day, 2 men rolled up multiple news papers and threw it at my head, I turned around and told them off, after that I got a barrage of abuse, that they will kill me, I wasn't leaving the bus alive, the bus was completely full of people, so packed up people were standing and not one of them got me help. Being used to living in a dangerous area, I refused to get off the bus, they said they'd put me in a body bag, they would beat my boyfriend up, to which, the man sitting next to be got up and got off the bus in fright, with people standing up, they refused to sit next to me in fear they would be treated the same way. We reached a very busy train station stop and I could hear them getting up, I knew to be ready for something but what? As they passed my seat, they spat in my face and one raised his arm, but before it hit me I hit him in the face with all could muster from a seated position, it was the worst position I could be in, I counted my lucky stars when they ran off the bus, but everything was in slow motion I knew something more was coming, but what? They smashed the bus window into my face, and ran off, never to be found. I did have shards of tiny glass in my face. I was shaken up a little bit again, v angry that women are targeted constantly in London. Everyone came to my aid once they ran off but too little too late, they could have killed me and 40 plus people would have just put their heads down! Growing up in a violent area, made me strong, I have helped many women in the streets against violent attackers, druggies, drunks, because I could see their fear, shocked into being frozen, unable to speak or flee, I've never ever stood by and watched someone get attacked without helping them. I seem grown men, taller than my 5 ft, walk away, look away, pretend they could not hear or see women being attacked. I'm always left disgusted with society.

[Kat-n-Ollie]

I’d rather die in the car crash than be tortured in the woods. This is excellent training. Good job!

[yourlordship]

Even if they threaten to kill you, do not give up, fight, I would rather be stabbed in a parking lot with possible wittnesses, cameras, evidence, and where they are not prepared, then be taken to a second location where something way worse will probably happen to me. DO NOT BE TAKEN TO THE SECOND LOCATION.

[alexandrakennedy]

This is the best information I've ever heard. I'm a small woman. It would be easy for someone to pick me up. This has shown me how to make it harder for my attacker. I would fight to the death if I had to I have nothing to lose.

[Mimibldr]

Happened to my friend in Paris, she was walking in the street when 3 guys came out of a car. They tried really hard to take her to the car, but she screamed all her lungs out, laid on the floor, moved her legs relentlessly, it was impossible for them to drag her body all the way to the car, they eventually gave up.

[damvid]

Excellent advice to fight the objective, not the attacker.

[cloudguru]

Also worth mentioning don't forget the power of a good eye gouge and groin strike.

[Sunshinesunset]

When I was 15 yrs a man try to Kidnapped me I did that first self defense technique. the pull of the hand I got away Amen it work for me