How To Make Your Child A Narcissist

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Why do I love it when she smiled and said “your best interest “ ??!

Lady-C

I have recently come to wonder if narcissism and codependency aren’t two sides of the same coin. Within the same toxic environment one chooses to become a master manipulator, the other a master bully. But it isn’t much of a choice. Children with dysfunctional parents have few options.

kathleendinsmore

Most people that I meet that are nice are not actually nice but just appear nice for their own gains.

waykee

Since some people here ask for BPD and OCD, I have both, and I can give some explanation on both.
OCD is about control. When you feel like you're always threatened, and can rely on everything and everyone to always screw you up, and completely alone in it, which is the truly shitty part, you're desperate for a sense of control, to feel some sense of power, the power that you can either avoid pain or feel some pleasure, and that's when the OCD kicks in.
About BPD, you grow up, most often in an environment, where, like OCD, it's very unsafe. You can always rely on people to fvck you up and make your life a misery. Thus the serious paranoia and distrust of people.
When you feel or do or just exist in a way that one parent doesn't like or sees as a threat, you risk abandonment and thus you begin to suppress everything authentic about you. You become exactly what the other person wants you to be. Therefore when you enter relationships, you are enmeshed, attachment feels like poison, you resent the other person, because you feel you have to be what they want you to be and give yourself up, even if they've never asked you to do that, and then you push them away, but you also need relationships, so you begin to try to pull them back in. Thus the push and pull game.
Also, all of this is compounded if you have experienced series of loss in childhood, which makes you terrified of losing people, therefore you can't hold onto anything, because it can be easily taken away. And not only you lose and end up alone, you end up alone in hell.
Because your childhood life, if you have BPD, has been one of a lot of pain and abuse, whether it seems like pain and abuse or not, that's the childhood reality of someone with this condition.
The the different addictions and destructive behaviors are an attempt to fill the void that exists within, because you are so starved of relationships and of the power to make your life good, and the way you want it to be.
Healing both conditions requires the IMMENSE bravery to face a lot of the pain and discomfort that you live with every second of the day, because of you don't do this, you can't even allow the right people for you to further your healing, which is to have healthy relationships and find your own power.

annat.

The world we are lived in the environment is not created for single mom and children alone to success in life. It needs a healthy family both man and woman raising kids these days and age!

romeotrinh

I like to word the lack of trust as the original wound of scarcity. The scarcity puts us into a fear-driven fight or flight mode and we become selfish and distrustful. Often times this fight or flight mode ends up turning into financial greed or other forms of competition. But if we eat better to get the right micronutrients, our bodies will leave the fight or flight mode behind as our subconscious detects resource abundance. Micronutrient deficiencies caused by our agricultural methods and food industry will basically force the scarcity mindset, narcissism, and all the other unstable socioeconomic structures on us. It checks out too... If our bodies are unhealthy, our behaviors and creations will reflect it. "You are what you eat." The good news is that we have technology that our past ancestors didn't have. We have the capacity to fix the scarcity (and our poor nutrition) with regenerative, organic agriculture. Do your part....eat good food and you will do good for the world.

limitisillusion

I think in this moment Teal realised the similarities between narcissists and codependents…. We need a new and fresh lens to view behaviour through… we are ALL on the spectrum of abused children… we find different coping mechanisms and the true end goal is to wake up… awaken to consciousness and live non duality which in turn will reset our duality living circumstances/ environment … we get clarity in “life’s big game” (Duality) ✨

randomelvis

This also true for an "adult environment " . Narcissitic behaviour can be transferred and those who do not have enough qualities can be lured by the short-term success that manipulation can achieve

loftyag

She's right..but the way she is telling it..she made it better to be a narcisist than a codendant..she has a negative opinion in codependancy..at least ..thats how i interpret it..she should have acted the same when she explained narcisists..

mariekegeertruida

And in the end the ones who fights for their own always wins! My advice is to fly under the radar and watch. Ask yourself “can I trust this person”. If one person has so much ill will for so many others, why not me?
Always join together to build an empire and at the right time and controlling your own emotions can you make an executive decision to move forward in a professional demeanor. Always do the right thing!

ashleycooper