Effective Praise: Why using 'good girl/good boy' is doing more harm than good - Guide & Grow TV

In this video we explore ways on how to communicate praise to children that allows them to build self esteem, confidence and independence! We tackle the standard 'good girl/ good boy' habits that are inbuilt in all of us and breakdown the reasons why these phrases are not effective praise in raising tomorrow's children.

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[toeaqueen]

I appreciate your practical examples i.e. you did it, thank you, describing what was done, using tone, etc.

[thiharper]

My mother-in-law praises our 8-month-old for finishing his bottle, taking a bite of food at dinner, napping, etc. Almost every time she sees him, she says "You're such a good boy!" I understand it comes from her loving heart. But it makes me cringe every time. I don't want him to grow up being used to praises and constantly looks for that external validation. Also, as you mentioned, it is inauthentic. How do I address this without offending her? We live with her, so I think she will have an effect on our son. Thank you!

[herberts]

I never even thought about it like this, thank you

[trrhyn]

I want to be the best parent I can be, but I admit sometimes I struggle with all of the positive parenting techniques... whem my 2 yearold does painting and drawings I genuinely think they are so amazing, I have so many on the walls, I'm so proud and I encourage him because he enjoyed it and he did amazing pictures... Alot of the new skills he develops and creative strategies he comes up with I praise cause I'm amazing at he cleverness and proud of him most of the time, even when he offers to help me with things which i find really special...
is my genuine happiness and encouragement a abad thing?
I also remember not receiving much validadtion or acknowledgement from my own mother and spent years looking for love and acceptance and validation anywhere and with anyone or anything I could and it was a battle to understand and balance the psychological damage created in my first 10 years of life.... So I find it hard to accept some of these ideas.... Im all for positive parenting but sometimes I dont understand the basis of the all concepts....

[AnimeManhwa]

I know there is no perfect, but I want to be a good mother to my children especially now I have a 1 year old

[Tiffah]

I love learning about how I can improve my interactions with my children in this manner. My husband on the other hand is questioning most of this. I would like to be able to explain to him how this can still teach a child right from wrong? Please advise

[husainabaldiwala]

Thank you for sharing this information. I am a first time mom and new to Montessori, your videos are helping me so much to understand the concept.. I have a one year old baby and when we do activities together I tend to start clapping and say yayyy and he gets excited, smiles and he starts clapping too and does the activity again. I am struggling to understand if this is also the same problem you are describing and how should I encourage this young baby? Thank you again.

[simonacoja]

Our friends do not follow Montessori principles and praise my 4 year old constantly when we are in social gatherings or play dates. She longs for those praises and validation, it gives her such joy and motivation. I want to start steering away from this praising habit as I am a very insecure person. How would you address this in your circle of friends, especially since I’ve accepted this behaviour from them before. Is there any turning back for me to stop with the praise or my friends without offending them and them thinking i am over reacting to such “a small thing”? Or it us too late at 4 years old and we missed the opportunity to implement this? Thanks

[simonacoja]

In addition, if my child got into the habit that she calls for whomever is around “mom look at what i can do!” When she’s demonstrating a new jump or silly thing, not necessarily a project she’s been working on and where i can acknowledge the effort, how would i respond to that effectively instead and down the line to break the habit of her needing to demonstrate every little thing to an audience for validation and to feel good? Please and thank you. Really struggling here.

[fadwabelkacem]

Is it a bad thing that the child looks at you when he accomplished a task waiting for encouragement??