Why You've Given Up On Dating

Modern dating sucks! If you’ve ever felt frustrated, discouraged, or just plain fed up with the dating scene, you’re not alone.

From navigating the complex world of modern dating to dealing with countless dating problems, many of us have faced challenges that make love and relationships seem almost impossible to achieve.

So if this resonates, this video is for you. We made this video to let you know you're not alone and that your struggles are valid, heard, and seen.

Let's have a discussion as we chat about dating tips and figure out why so many people have given up on dating. We'll also talk about how you can deal with these challenges. Feel free to share your personal stories, thoughts, and experiences in the comments below.

#dating #love

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Claire Audrey
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Edge-mvjw]

Tired of trying, being overlooked, ghosted, lead on, things going well and having it all go down the drain. I can’t keep doing this to myself

[robertknox]

I’ve given up on dating. I refuse to be hurt anymore.
I’d rather be alone than be with someone who doesn’t love me.

[smig]

I'm tired. I chose to spend my energy on things that are actually worth my effort.

[JDX_JustDilasX]

Me being single and clicking for no reason:

[navelgaming]

Dating is miserable. Why do I constantly subject myself to the scrutiny of people who won't care about me, and won't be satisfied with what I have to offer? Alone, I can be comfortable being myself, and not feel judged, inferior, or lacking in anything.

[steveharrison]

Spent the last three weeks on a dating app and it was one of the most horrifying experiences of my “romantic” life. They’re so dehumanising - everyone is reduced to a book-cover précis of an entire human being, and a few photographs. I found it to be deeply weird and uncomfortable. I cancelled it before my paid month was up, as the experience just paralysed me and I was unable to interact with anyone.

[_northeastside]

Craving of deep connection in a world where people swipe faster than changing their sheet or moving fast to another better person.

[Cwalkzz]

0:33 The fear factor
1:16 The comparison trap
1:58 Dating fatigue
2:44 unrealistic expectations
3:30 Emotional Baggage

[TzoKu]

Dating is learning, learning what you want and don't. Setting boundaries, standards and building trust. It's not about finding someone that'll go on fun adventures with you(sure dating can be a part of that but not entirely). But it's about finding someone that'll go through all the struggles with you, arguments, misunderstandings, nights where you don't talk, or the times it feels like its all over. And yet still stick with you to learn, build and establish an actual long lasting relationship, where it isn't about the gifts, lavish dates or other stuff. But the love and comfort you both share, the trust and bond you built by being through thick and thin and still making ends meet.

[justoniascool]

I feel like for a lot of people it's just because it seems like more work than it's worth, it takes up a lot of time that could be spent progressing your career, doing schooling, or pursuing personal interests. I know it's the most fulfilling thing you can do there's just too many things that can go wrong that it's intimidating.

[tigeriswatching]

it's always "you're such a good person how are you still single?" and never actual romantic feelings for me💀

edit: masculinity and women standards for partner discussion is unfolding in this comment section (kinda funny I summoned hetero males under this since i myself am neither LMAOOO). i suggest you not reading it in case such topics make you uncomfortable! and guys in comments you can continue I'm not mad I'm just warning people to avoid unnecessary conflict

[hutek]

It is very disappointing to see that in today's time very few people are ready for the "unpleasant" talks. You try to communicate with them, telling them how you feel and what you think but as soon as it is about important stuff that isn't pleasant to talk about, they just turn around and disappear because "i want to have fun, I want to have it easy". The "throw-away" society.

[MrAlexH]

The worst part is how we no longer give each other space to be human and flawed without psychoanalysis or imagining that the person we’re dating MUST be a narcissist because of any and all flaws in personality or decision making we see from them. Social media has conditioned us to accept NOTHING LESS than a PERFECT person, and that’s just not gonna happen.

[Dragoman]

Forget modern dating. This has become my new motto.

Like every tree on its own,
Reaching for the sky, I stand alone.

I share my world with no one else,
All by myself. I stand alone.

[kirkwhite]

At age 50 and after 35 years trying to date and every method to find someone, I'm Done.
I got the message. I failed trying to achieve this goal.
I'm Done.

[eternallyperfect]

Dating is hard because a lot of us are introverts and don't know how to respond to intimacy 😭😭

[LordBrittish]

“Having a crush that doesn’t like you back” hit me right away.
(recently acquired crush, wants to be friends, *which is also cool!)

[ip]

To me, giving up on dating was one of the most freeing things I've ever done for myself in my whole entire life.
When I let go of all that hope and refused to not focus entirely on myself, I found that I have been much more stable and happier, calmer.
My life is so much more peaceful without dating and I spend time on things that actually lead to something and feel rewarding.
My efforts finally pay off, which was never the case in dating.
I am thankful I threw in the towel. And believe me, I am not keen on picking it back up again, EVER.

[JoJo_lxl]

I’m at a dead end, it’s frustrating when you have so much to offer, like having a beautiful garden but, no one to show it to, people just walk by & look but, never enter, I’ll continue to take care, grow & water mine in the hopes that someone one day will notice it, best advice I can give is to keep growing your garden ❤️

[thebigjj]

I'm tired of being hurt, used, or ridiculed. It's why I've given up completely