Are 'DINKs' the future?

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0:00 Intro
1:01 The Rise of DINKs (What are DINKs and why are they trending?)
5:03 *This video was sponsored by Wren*
7:53 DINK money (Becoming DINKs by choice or force)
11:04 DINK struggles (Why DINKs are becoming the inevitable norm)

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[e.t.theextraterristrial]

Dink>Sink (single income no kids) >Dik (dual income kids) > Sik (single income, kids) >Nink(No income no kids) >Nik(No income kids)

[demilovesjesus]

Only the rich DINKs are advertising it. Normal DINKs are just humbly minding their business

[hermenegildakociubinska]

I think that flexing luxurious lifestyle is more of an internet thing, a lot of IRL DINKs just don't want kids for various reasons, not necessarily material.

[xAnimeFanXD]

I was raised by a mother who should have never become a mother. For the longest I regretted being alive because living under my mothers care was hell. I'm glad I'm no longer living with her since I'm an adult but she has fucked up mentally (and physically) all cuz she was forced to have me.

[lilygreenall]

I don't personally want kids but I find it very small-minded when people act like having kids is almost a stupid decision or will mess up your life. Obviously, it must be extremely fulfilling to raise kids if that is something you want to do. Equally, it's silly to make out that somebody's life is not meaningful just because they don't have kids. People have different versions of 'meaningful' and find fulfillment in different ways. I agree about labels too. It's a really reductive way of thinking about individuals and does reduce empathy to an us vs them mentality.

[britneybij]

I don't understand the disdain towards people who don't want kids. If you think these people are awful, be it greedy, vain, lazy, selfish, etc, shouldn't you be relieved that a person like that doesn't want kids?

If they're all those awful things, don't you think that they SHOULDNT be a parent???

There's no way anyone can argue with someone who doesn't want kids because whichever way you go about shaming them, you are just validating their decision to not have any.

Edit: Seeing some of the comments from some people who get butt hurt about people who don't want kids and y'all horrify me.

They really think somehow having a kid can "fix" a person as if CPS, foster care, family annihilators, parent murderers, and therapy are just made up things.

*If you think having a child can somehow "fix" anything or anyone, you are still a child yourself with that immature and delusional way of thinking*

[MarquisLeary]

Correction; when you're dual income and RICH. My wife and I are DINK's and we ain't doin that glamorous shit.

[fairydust]

My husband and I are childfree and don't plan on having kids anytime soon.
But I'd rather not label ourselves as 'DINKS', not gonna lie, it sounds ridiculous to me.
No one should be shamed for having or not having children. I don't think we should be touting either lifestyle as the best/worst thing ever either, because regardless of whatever lifestyle you choose, there will still be highs and lows in life.

[i.cant.sleep.anymore]

My sister and her husband are still trying to pay off the hospital bill for their baby when she was born, and the baby is almost 4 years old. A lot of people just can't afford the astronomical cost of healthcare and having a baby.

[NikolasAknorov]

This makes fairly odd parents’ “DINKlebergs” make so much more sense, now that I know this term. It was right in front of us the whole time! 😆

[ini_gem]

People for ages been having kids for very self centered reasons like to have someone they can control or to live their unachieved dreams through or to merely have a caregiver to take care of them when they're old!

I'd rather people now be labeled "selfish" by choosing to NOT have kids than actually being selfish & have kids they aren't in a position or capable of raising healthily especially mentally & emotionally.

[AlexaVonSuess]

I'm in a "DINK" relationship for so many reasons - one being that I simply don't want to birth or raise children. Another being that I have multiple chronic illnesses that I wouldn't want to pass to another person. Said illnesses unfortunately take up a lot of my time and money. And yes - I also do it for the freedom of being able to choose my own path without worrying about my "biological clock" or freezing my eggs like so many career invested women do. I love this life and I'm excited to see what it holds. There are simply limitations that children create financially, emotionally, practically and otherwise. Even if you like children, you can't deny that.

[jansmitsvanoyen]

I would mainly like to point out that it is actually possible to identify yourself as (insert label) without necessarily being an ass about it online…

Hard, but possible

[kristinapaxton]

The question is not whether you want to have kids but whether you are capable of raising a person to become a healthy fully fledged adult. And are you ok with the responsibility and worry that goes with that?

[americanhumaninterferencet]

It would be so cool if ppl could just live their own lives and make their own decisions while not deriding and mocking the decisions of others who are just doing their best

[nerdycat]

As a woman who wants kids some day:

I don't give a damn about what other adults do or don't do with their lives.

[reygirl]

My husband and I put a lot of thought into having children. We had children because it was something we wanted to do and planned for it. I have a lot of respect for people being responsible and avoiding having kids. I wish we could just respect everyone's choice. Having my child being called "crotch goblin" isn't so cool. Be a dink, not a dick.

[RigVertigo]

Not having or wanting kids is great. Building an identity around it is cringe.

[lysofdev]

Having children these days simply doesn't make sense. I have a six figure income and no hope of affording a home, much less childcare or healthcare even if my wife made my same income. Finally, raising my child to see them become another cog in the machine is just not worth it. I'm going to die without children simply because having children is a luxury that I can't afford.

[ND-nxnt]

This has been on my mind for a while.
I am SINK, not by choice. I was in a relationship in my early 20s working my way to being married and having a family etc. that did not work out. It was an abusive relationship and from that I unraveled a whole lot of childhood trauma that I had to unpack. (still unpacking but mostly doing ok)

What people seem to forget is that you also need a village a support system when having children, I do not have that. That is probably my main reason for having kids.


Now I'm at a point where I am rediscovering myself, finding new hobbies and saving for a trip abroad.