Ep 8B: Mediating a Parenting Plan Agreement - Practical Tips on the Mediation Process

Getting to a Settlement and making a Parenting Plan Agreement is a big move. Settling with your ex on a parenting plan is usually a better option than going to Court and having an uninformed judge decide custody. In this episode we discuss practical considerations on the mediation process.

If you're a Father fighting for custody of your kids in Family Court, you've come to the right place! I'm creating this docu-series to help fathers get equal parenting time or primary custody in family court.

I won primary custody, only because of enormous effort. I should have had primary custody on Day 1, but instead it took over 3 years. We shouldn't have to go through that just to be treated as equal parents. My goal is to level the playing field since I found family court is obviously biased against dads. Therefore, I will teach you the strategies I used to win custody. You need to understand the system and how to fight for custody as soon as you can. You can’t wait until the trial is over.

My channel: Father X: How Fathers Can Win Custody

Subscribe to get updates as I post more tutorial videos. There’s a lot to cover to get you ready for court.

Topics I cover for you:
Episodes 1: Introduction to the Problem of Family Court
Episodes 2: Basics of Physical & Legal Custody, Orders of Protection (Restraining Orders)
Episodes 3: Choosing an Attorney vs. Going Pro Se; Interview Questions; Weaknesses of Family Lawyers; Saving money on lawyers; Secret added costs of family court
Episodes 4: How To “Play Nice” in court. Behavior Strategy
Episodes 5: The Best Interests of the Child
Episodes 6: My First Day in Family Court…and the overall Trial Timeline for 3+ years
Episodes 7: How to Tell If Your Family / Divorce Court Judge is Incompetent or Gender-Biased Against Dads
Episodes 8: Mediation & Custody / Parenting Agreements outside of court
Episodes 9: False Allegations of DV
Episodes 10: Researching Appellate Case Law – this is achievable! Shield yourself from the incompetence and gender bias of family court judges
Episodes 11: Preparing Your Child Custody Case – Testimony, Evidence, & Trial Strategy covering the Best Interests of The Child

Future Episodes:
Episodes 12: Your Mental Preparation – dealing with hopelessness, depression, & anger that family court creates for Dads
Episodes 13: Your Defensive Fortress – protect yourself from false allegations and things that can tank your custody case
Episodes 14: Children’s Services, Police and the Domestic Violence Hotline…handling these other players in the family court arena
Episodes 15: Forensic Evaluation…how to handle
Episodes 16: Your Witnesses and Hers - Choosing and Preparing for them
Episodes 17: Cross Examination: Yours and Hers

Fathers should have equal parenting rights, whether unmarried or going through a divorce. You may be seeking temporary custody, primary custody, joint physical custody, 50/50 parenting, or legal custody. You may or may not want a divorce lawyer or family law attorney. And you may seek out resources from father’s rights advocates.

Ultimately, you need to learn how to win a custody battle as a dad, largely by focusing on the best interests of the child. You are getting a divorce from your ex, not your children. And if you have a Restraining Order or Order of Protection against you, it’s an uphill climb. The silver bullet in family court can be deadly. If restraining orders are based on false allegations, there are ways to turn that around to your advantage. I did. But you must be assertive. And you have to learn how to navigate the forensic evaluation, CPS/ACS children's services investigations, and family law.

I am sorry you are in divorce/family court. But if you think it’s in the best interests of your child for you to have equal or primary custody, I am laying out what I learned into this docu-series, to give you a fighting chance.

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[harremsis]

It's amazing how you held your own. If everybody tells you to settle, it takes a lot of conviction and self-confidence to say no. Respect!

[PhilipX]

Brilliant. A psychologist to mediate. That's what we need!

[wretchlikeme]

Awesome🎉🎉🎉🎉 my judge right now is bias to the mom. I'm in a CPS hearing where the mom is the offending parent and not in compliance but then her associate judge has me be approved as having the only conversatorship and she has no conservatorship. And now we're going into CPS mediation which is a bit different but I won't let myself back down and doing all my homework to explain all I have seen and what's in the best interest of the child. CPS loves me as of yet but still has grace for the mom I just don't know what to expect. But thanks for making the video it is encouraging

[FatherX]

A big factor in whether or not both parents can settle on a Parenting Plan is whether they are in a low versus high conflict relationship. I was in a classic high conflict case. If you are in a low conflict case, you stand a better chance of negotiating reasonable terms. Either way, I encourage you to at least try to mediate, to stay out of court. I encourage you to settle only if the terms are in the best interests of your kids...and acceptable to both parents. You will have to live with the terms of your settlement for a long time. Good luck!

[chime-girl]

Kudos to you for being a real parent! Wish this had been in place in my case in 1974. Speaking as an adult child who was parentally abducted. It would have saved me a lot of heartache had my parents put something like this in place and considered doing what's right for the child instead of them.

[robertarroyo]

Thank you for this channel and these videos it’s exactly what I was looking for it’s very difficult to find help on situations like this I’m going through this I was the security blanket for my daughter and rn she’s getting her way

[jaecapers]

Definitely in a high conflict, because my ex’s mother is a narcissist and she can’t stand me, my ex is listening to everything she’s saying… mediation was a joke as well, my lawyer and the mediator were buddies and knew each other, they tried to get me to take $600 a month, no decision making, no visitation in daycare and just standard possession… mind you I haven’t seen our daughter in going on 4 months and my ex just moved out in august when I was at work, even removed her from our previous daycare without notice

[harremsis]

My experience is that if both sides have a good lawyer (i.e., one that also has the interests of the child in mind) that even the lawyers can negotiate a decent agreement. But that constellation is probably rare.

[Divorce_DE]

Indeed the darkest days of your life. Will you make a video detailing more of your testimony? Because for a lot of us the abuse happened behind closed doors. We've tolerated a lot and didn't report or started creating a history.

[SK-vijb]

Revealing her lies, false accusation and police report during the mediation, didn't take it to domestic violence?