The lens of attraction: why you can't do anything right

This might be my most important concept for men to understand: the lens of attraction. More than anything else, it helps to explain why success with women isn't about doing the “right” things. The exact same woman can perceive the exact same behavior in two wildly disparate ways as a consequence of her attraction levels. Keep her attraction high and you will do no wrong; let it drop and you won't be able to do anything right.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #women

[psychacks]

This might be my most important concept for men to understand: the lens of attraction. More than anything else, it helps to explain why success with women isn't about doing the “right” things. The exact same woman can perceive the exact same behavior in two wildly disparate ways as a consequence of her attraction levels. Keep her attraction high and you will do no wrong; let it drop and you won't be able to do anything right.

Buy my book, "The Value of Others"

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #women

Here's the low key truth: if she's attracted to you, your actions are seen as charming. If she's not attracted to you, the exact same actions will be seen as creepy.

[yottahurts]

Sadly, the more I understand how to win the game the less I want to play.

[AnticitizenOneC]

“When women love, they forgive everything, even our crimes; when they do not love, they cannot forgive anything—not even our virtues." - Honore de Balzac, "The Muse of the Department"

[yourfeedYT]

Once women lose attraction everything is basically over

[louismarano]

So the audition is never over. You can never relax. Hardly seems worth it.

[Rapidcouplescounselling]

Full time relationship counsellor here. I specialize in rapid couples work. I see around 300 couples a year. This content is 100% dead on correct.

[Khan-rzqi]

Attractive dude standing at 6’4, I can confirm. A woman who’s very attracted to you will treat you with the utmost respect and kindness. It’s tricky though, your looks keep them attracted but if you start acting like a simp and getting too attached you may completely mess up the adored-adorer dynamic that made her attracted to you in the first place. Guys often get too comfortable and forget that their attitude/vibe gotta match their looks. A handsome lame will get treated just like every other guy, she’ll look at you like a waste.😂

[kirksmith]

I think I had an episode of PTSD watching this. It certainly explains so many of my past experiences with women.

[Riga_]

This is 100% on point, my ex at the beggining of the relationship pretty much loved everything about me, i quote: "You are such a hardworker, attractive, independent and cool guy to be around, you make me feel so secure and relax" then, fast forward 6 months: "oh my god, you are so narcisistic, all you care about is your work, the gym and your own things, you don't have any time for me, there must be something wrong with you if all you care is about these things"

This is why my brothers from another mother, you must focus on your life, they are just the cherry on the top, either you got a rotation or a gf or you are willingly celibate, you still have a very cool and badass life, Thanks Doctor Orion, i have learn a lot thanks to you!

[Highwayman]

The level of truth bombs on this channel is off the charts. Another PURE GOLD video!

[jcnlaw]

As an experienced divorce lawyer, I agree with the message in this video. I don’t care how rich or handsome or captivating you are, eventually, she will lose attraction for you. That is why you should remain single and keep the family / divorce courts and state law out of your life and finances. You can thank me later.

[ricardocastro]

At 45 yo, single and financially independent, I am so happy I don’t have to jump through all these bs hoops anymore. Peace of mind is f.. priceless.

[Trithus]

The more videos I watch from Orion, the more I enjoy a peaceful existence. I still can't believe how much you changed my life in just 6 months.
Thank you!

[ma]

Absolutely true. In the beginning everything is cute and sexy, then apparently it becomes annoying. Been there.

[upup]

My wife fights so hard for me. It's on another level. " You can do whatever you want, I'm always going to be here for you". I've pretty much tested it to a limit of 8, and she is rock solid. No hangover paybacks, no lectures, just honest disclosure of how she felt. It makes it impossible to replace her. No one you meet is ever going to be as all in as that. I've learned to value her. Now she's irreplaceable

[dwightbrown]

As Rich Cooper says, 'Desire cannot be negotiated'

All of this is like jumping rope on a razor blade. It's why - with great thought and consideration - once you see the code in The Matrix, many men just retire from it all.

[jtrojan]

I've heard this message from others. Staying on top of a woman's wants and needs is a never ending challenge. Little wonder a growing number of men have walked away.

[felixvelo]

I had my fun with women for several decades, now my peace is more important than the attention of any woman. Life is good, really good.

[ash-shakirwhitaker]

So...
If she loves you, you can do no wrong...
But....
If she doesn't love you, then you can do no RIGHT!
🤞🙏😂