What it Means to Submit to Your Husband

Submitting to something or someone means you are “under the mission” of that someone or something; and in the case of husband and wife, the mission of the husband is to love his bride as Christ loved—and loves—the Church.

Jackie says she is completely on board with being under the mission of Bobby if his mission is to love her as Christ loves the Church.

If you look at Ephesians 5:21-33 passage more closely, you see it’s about a relationship of reverence and love. It’s not about who has the authority, or who wears the pants, in the marriage. It’s about the relationship between Christ and the Church.

“Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:21-33)

“This unequivocal insistence on the indissolubility of the marriage bond may have left some perplexed and could seem to be a demand impossible to realize. However, Jesus has not placed on spouses a burden impossible to bear, or too heavy - heavier than the Law of Moses. By coming to restore the original order of creation disturbed by sin, he himself gives the strength and grace to live marriage in the new dimension of the Reign of God. It is by following Christ, renouncing themselves, and taking up their crosses that spouses will be able to "receive" the original meaning of marriage and live it with the help of Christ. This grace of Christian marriage is a fruit of Christ's cross, the source of all Christian life.” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1615)

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[morgancasey]

Prayer Request: Not meaning to take up your time but I'd appreciate if you could all keep my family and I in your prayers as we're struggling right now. I love you all and God bless ♡

[sahmnancy]

Years ago I was a lector at an English speaking Catholic church in Belin. One Sunday I had to read this reading and the priest came to me and asked if I would have a problem reading this. I said absolutely not. He said, "I would, " and walked away. I have ALWAYS thought that if my husband loves me as Christ loves the church then submitting isn't a problem. He has the harder job because Heaven knows I'm not always easy to love!

[paulrubio]

I really appreciate Jackie's description of submission as being "under the mission" of the husband, and that the wife is meant to be under the mission of a husband who will lay himself down for her. I pray that when God calls me to be a husband, I can be faithful in laying down myself for my wife and be worthy of having her under my mission.

[galadethlaernis]

If it is not too much trouble, please pray for my nonCatholic alcoholic husband... it's real bad.... bad marriage. I am praying constantly, Holy Rosary, etc & offering it all up. It's practically all I think about.😢
Anyways, may God bless you all. Have a most fruitful & blessed Lent. 🙏🏼🛐☦

[Livegreat]

That is so much helping discerning my vocation! Please pray for me so I get my full answer next week during my retreat ❤️

[romy]

The wife submission is not a response to husband love (it is a duty).
and the husband love is not a response to wife submission (it is a duty).

[dobermanpac]

GREAT VIDEO, and a perfect example to marry in the Faith and to a spouse who is equally yoke to you...

[abigailjohnston]

As a 15 year old I really appreciate this video as a woman. Thank you!

[KGBTV]

“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” (Titus 2:4-5, KJV)

[nyrukdaerog]

I always thought it was weird that this was controversial. Jesus talked about serving one another, people nod their heads, but then Bible says for wives to serve husbands, and now it is an issue? Even though it tells husbands to serve wives right after? Boggled my mind growing up, especially as I grew up with parents who lived (and still live) a good, catholic marriage.

[Rachel]

This is such great timing! I just heard a wonderful talk at a retreat about this exact topic!

[mando_apolgetico]

Im sorry to disagree but "hupotassó" is the greek word used by Paul. It does not mean to be "under the mission" it means  "to place or rank under, to subject, mid. to obey" according to Strong's greek internlinear bible. This is the same that Jesus did before the father. he submitted to his will and went to the cross... That doesn't mean Jesus is a lesser person of the trinity. It means he is under the submission of the Father...  A women being under submission doesnt mean shes less valuble than her husband. I sumbit to my boss and that does not make his more valuble as a person.

[cominatrix]

Part of the reason I love this channel is that it is helping not only to help recouple some bad misunderstandings I had been lead to but will also allow me to correct these things when they crop of from others. So thank you

[ladym]

Love your spirit! Great truthful message to explain this meaning ❤️

[EverydayCatholic]

Thank you for this video! I felt called to make a video on this reading but now I can just share this video with others!!

[bernieeod]

The late J Vernon McGee once did a sermon where one of his flock came to him complaining "Paster! My wife won't submit to me!" "Why should she?" He responded. "It says so right here!" "OH! Very good!" He responded. "BUT! Don't stop there! Keep reading! Have you loved your wife as Christ loves the Church?" He hung his head in shame as though saying "You caught me!" "Until you love your wife as Christ loves the Church, you cannot expect her to submit to you!"

[loriwilson]

Thank you for these videos! I love listening to them. I feel like you are my friend. You have given me a new perspective every time I listen to one of your videos.

[catherinem]

This is the best explanation of a wife submitting to her husband that I have ever seen or heard!! Thank you!! 🙌👏🤗

[deborahddouglass]

My husband is tender, loving, he honors me and I have renewed my understanding of the true meaning of service to one another. Beautiful breakdown of the marriage mission. Thank you for sharing.🙏🏾❤️

[jg]

Very good explanation. I agree with you. Great video!