6 Unknown Childhood Trauma Triggers - Therapy Tools - Part 2

I wanted to do a follow-up video to my last video about six unknown childhood trauma triggers. In this episode, I give you some resources and the opportunity to do a little bit of exploratory childhood trauma work and how to deal with those triggers differently in the present when they come up.

In this video we cover:

triggers, childhood trauma, inner child, inner child work, c-ptsd, ptsd, toxic parents, narcissistic abuse, assertion, mind reading, moods, healing, abusive parents, emotional abuse, childhood ptsd, repressed memories, hypervigilance, narcissistic parents, emotionally abusive parents, child abuse, narcissistic father, childhood emotional neglect, abuse, narcissistic mother

0:00 INTRO
1:54 #6 Thoughtless and Oblivious People
5:40 #5 Saying No + mind reading
8:08 #4 Having someone be mad at you / being misunderstood
11:05 #3 Other People's Moods
14:10 #2 Ambiguity
17:26 #1 Feedback
22:56 OUTRO

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[MoonWomanStudios]

My parents would give disapproving looks all the time but never explain what I was doing wrong. I always would get so upset when I thought someone had looked at me funny. Then one-day, I think maybe I read it in a book, I decided that if someone has a weird look that maybe they have gas. And then I was able to let that go.

[keekeemorley]

These videos are important for people like me who don't have money for therapy.

[carolinemills]

Seriously, thank you. I've heard time and time again "it's not your fault but it is your responsibility to reparent yourself" I agree but I don't have that skill because, duh, I was raised by toxic adult children. So thank you for explaining the how. ❤️❤️❤️

[MoonWomanStudios]

As long as I was perfect, I'd be loved

[DarkThorns]

I get triggered when my husband sighs deeply. When I was little my dad used to sigh deeply when he was furious and would slam things around when in this state, because of that everytime my husband takes a deep sigh I automatically think he's mad, and without a beat I start asking him what's wrong and if he's mad, he has to reassure me he's not mad he's just breathing lol

[belrapture]

I’ve found that at 34 years old, I’m still learning a lot about all of this. I don’t want to stop learning. I think that unfortunately it’s going to be a life long struggle to work on becoming mentally stronger and healthier and healed. I get tired at times. It isn’t fair that I have to do so much work just to feel safe and like you can breathe. When the ones who hurt us are the ones who really need the work.

[lisawanderess]

We spend the second half of our life getting over the first half!

[Lioness]

No wonder my inconsiderate roommate drove me so nuts. Good lord. I hate when people are inconsiderate and thoughtless.

[ktforbes]

"Waiting and relying on external things for an internal sense of security". I just mentally highlighted that one because I do that a lot! Thank you for putting the language to that one.

[barry]

Whenever I receive a compliment, my mind goes blank. I have no idea what to say or what to do. I always think it doesn’t seem genuine. I guess it’s coz as a child I was very used to receiving negative feedback

[EarwigAcres]

Every therapist I’ve been to has always wanted to pick the scab of all my trauma, but has never giving me instruction on how to fix me. Which is what I wanted! It’s really hard to work on healing when you’re in the middle of reliving pain.
Somehow you are able to help me without taking me back to the pain.
Thank you for giving me the instruction manual to me.

[xxshystarxx]

My mum gave me the biggest look of disgust when I said "No" to moving schools, because that school was academically better and she wanted to boast to her friends about how clever her daughter was. I will never forget that look, how she looked at me like a worthless piece of dirt, and remained a piece of dirt until I was forced to say yes.

[trinap.]

My parents lack of nurture and emotional neglect no longer dominate my story.

[EdmundDesigns]

The reason its so hard to take compliments is because if you believe the goods things people say about you, then you often have to believe the bad things they say about you. Its a defense mechanism. Survival mechanism.

[jonathang]

Whenever I’d get compliments on my playing at piano recitals as a teenager, I felt so much uncertainty as to whether I should accept a compliment. This was because the more compliments I got, that would make me feel happier but then my dad would sense that and bring me down a few notches with some heavy criticism as soon as we got home.

[steffanieheiden]

When I catch myself morally policing I finally realized that and started using the words : I can’t care more than they do.

[KTANN]

#6 "People are more complex than that". A similiar inner dialogue I have when people are lashing out or even just being rude is "This has nothing to do with me" or "This [behavior] isn't about me."

Once I determine those behaviors aren't a personal attack, it greatly reduces my emotional response.

[jeffandjuliet]

I love that he shares some personal experiences. I had a therapist years ago who, when I asked her if she would share a little about herself, told me I didn't need to know anything about her. That was my second and last visit with her.

[esviivse]

Growing up, my mom would project her childhood trauma and insecurity on me. She would say things like "You wish you had someone else's mom" or she would compare our family to other families in our church and basically demonize them because they, in her mind, were projected as perfect families. I don't think she realizes, even to this day, that her projecting her insecurity massively traumatized me and stunted my emotional wellbeing because I essentially became reclusive because becoming friends with those kids in the perfect family would create tension in my house. That and the psychologically abusive games she would play where she would yell at me and then expect me to not emote any negative/sad emotion and expect me to joke around with her the next moment. I've come a long way but still working on this trauma one step at a time.

[HelloDarling]

It's incredible that I just realized the 2 yr old is running my life, so much makes sense now.