NEVER make this mistake on a date.

If you struggle with eye contact, it's better to disclose it to the person you're dating, rather than have them believe you're not actually into them. :)

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[MatildeM]

Neurodivergent people can really struggle with eye contact and it's not because we're being rude or aloof. It's just really hard.

[ashutoshpandey]

The next date I went on kept staring at me. I was petrified.

[Sam-ngof]

Some people are big on eye contact and others aren't. And that's okay. This is partly cultural too.

[evedotcom]

I’m shy and neurodivergent, but I agree in the importance of eye contact to aid connection. I have definitely felt more seen and connected when there has been more eye contact. It’s something to be mindful of for sure, especially in this age of limited attention spans and social disconnect because of tech.

[xcsheehan]

A minute?! That is a long time for this kind of thing

[MRAbate]

As someone who has dated in the past, I can testify on this, it not only helps to establish or create a connection, but it also helps to create a bond and trust, from my perspective that is, hope this is both useful and helpful.

[yoanapetkova]

Eye contact is intimate and sometimes intimidating when you don’t know someone and they keep looking into your eyes IN FACT IF SOMEONE IS STRUGGLING WITH EYE CONTACT AROUND YOU THEY LIKE YOU

[saifulazhar]

making eye contact is like looking into your soul which many unable to do when your soul is pure and sound.

[sharri]

Some poeple get overwhelmed looking at someone they really like. Alots of genuine men are like that. When a man really like you they often look away so they maintain internal control.... its important to understand the person infront of you.

[jokerabhilasha]

Leaving someone cuz they cant maintain eye contact with you oooof 😮

[chrisjfox]

I normally agree with your takes wholeheartedly, and if you weren't feeling it you weren't feeling it... However as important and awesome as eye contact is, I think you might be putting a bit too much stock into it.

I can speak for myself at least that my eyes can stray a bit too during moments where I'm actively thinking about what the person is saying or if I'm trying to figure out how best to say what it is I'm trying to say. Sometimes nerves are at play but sometimes I can be quite engaged with the conversation yet still have quite a few thoughts [related to the conversation] going through my head.

I know that super strong eye contact is sexy and romantic, but it can also be something that's romanticized to the point of being dismissive of moments that are flowing quite nicely.

[oSayNoMoreo]

I think I overdo the eye contact... I be storing into their souls 🤣

[janithaprabodha]

I'm just happy someone like you exists in this world.

[loveplay]

Avoiding eye contact is the basic reaction of all beings, I believe there are various reasons to explain why we tend to get rid of eye contact, it could be feeling shy, or worrying to escalate the offense (in fact many animals will behave along this way).

[nerdy-zeig]

If we were on a date too, I would probably having a hard time making direct contact especially on how attractive you are. I'll probably shy away from looking at your eyes. Introverted man here and that's always been I'm trying to improve.

[shauryamohan]

Big hug, the one who shall always keep you happy is still waiting for you and you will find him soon😊🤗

[wadewatts]

I'm on the spectrum with ADHD, social anxiety especially with someone I might like and I disclose to anyone I am on a date with. And if they still find my eye contact an issue it's on them at that point. And I feel like I doged a bullet. I mean I am trying and you have to understand my limits.

[priyanshusingh]

I am also extremely shy person and I can't even make eye contact😅😅

[nistalasuresh]

Person with Asbergers it's utterly difficult to maintain eye contact

[danielabozadzhieva]

Actually not making eye contact with someone whilst listening to them often means you’re more engaged with what they’re saying. I cannot for the life of me look into the eyes of a lecturer and be fully engaged with the concept they’re explaining. It’s because looking into someone’s eyes engages your vision at the expense of your hearing. (And I don’t mean looking at someone else or your phone or anything specific) Andrew Huberman has a whole podcast episode on this.