6 THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE THERAPY

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[hg]

My 2 cents: find a therapist who holds you accountable and doesn't encourage playing victim. Narcissists can get therapy too. My narcissistic & rageful brother came back from therapy with a diagnosis for everyone else in the family. Zero self reflection, everything was everyone else's fault.

.I had already been going to therapy for years, I'm happily healed now, forgiving the mistakes of others and realising we are all flawed😊. Half of the pain went when I forgave in my heart. Including my brother. (I have to keep boundaries)

[C.E.]

As a therapist who has been going through her own therapy journey for the past 6 years, I find this video to be very sincere and helpful. It is important to be reminded that everyone's process is different. But thank you for being real about yours. It's definitely not an instant fix of rainbows and butterflies. You've gotta put in the work with a trusty companion.
I might as well add that there are many different types of psychotherapy some would work for some people while others may not. So, it would be beneficial to do some brief research about types of therapy. Still, don't just give up on therapy because of an awkward encounter with a therapist or a type of therapy that did not seem to work for you. Hopefully, anyone who is seeking therapy gets the opportunity to form a healthy bond with a therapist to their liking when they are ready to welcome change into their lives.

[tandikeza]

Therapy is encouraged a lot more these days but people rarely talk about the struggles of therapy (other than the expense of it). Thank you so much Breeny, because I've found what you mentioned paramount. It's not an easy process but so worth it!❤❤

Although my therapy journey has been put on hold, I am more reflective/honest with how I contribute to my problems. Whether it's a lack of boundaries and assertiveness, emotional dysregulation, or avoiding conflict, I've become more aware of when I'm playing the victim.

[rushialeema]

This is so helpful. And you helped me to see I am emotionally unavailable too, after you opened up about it. Being so hard on myself, being a high achiever & having incredibly high standards too. You opened my eyes to needing help, with perfectionism & wanting control. Wanting to finally talk. Needing therapy & support, as well as praying on it. Prayer alone was no longer working on deeper wounds & past hurts.
Thanks Breeny for being so vulnerable & open on your platforms talking about such taboo/difficult subjects. So your viewers can also level up with you Girl. Love you. God bless you x

[Nis]

My therapist said things I already knew so I stopped

[NYKIRA]

Such great points, I love what you said about having to do the work for yourself. Often people that hold space or help in the healing process will say they can only guide you, it really is yourself that has to step up and do the work. Convos surrounding therapy are so important because it's good to know what to expect and warm ourselves up to the experience ❤

[rakeshamurray]

Well done Breeny for raising awareness on the topic,

I too have had counselling for the past 2 years and it's the best work I've ever done on self, i have broken patterns and made changes in my life and grew mentally..

[vanessamutoni]

The Holy Spirit is my therapist I went to therapy and it wasn’t for me so I just started my journey with Christ and he literally healed me in 4 months

[Agnes.shines]

Breeny, it’s okay with the “Aksss”😂😂😂we get it, and we love you like that 😂❤

[julienakazi]

You're one of my favourite youtubers ❤

[RoLee]

Off-topic: where did you get this too? Please do a makeup tutorial on this look. Omg you look amazing. You’re like a doll!

[miguelaashoo]

I do feel the need to add the following onto this convo: until therapy (not just psychiatry) is financially being taken care of by health insurance JUST like doctors-visits, it will ALWAYS have some kind of stigma and never be just as normalized as doctors-visits

[aamirakarimah]

Hey Breeny, I your content! These videos are changing my entire life, I especially needed this video as I’m considering going back to therapy soon.

Completely unrelatedly; Please, can you do a video on the Da’Naia Jackson interview?!! There are many things that need to be said, and so many women like her who make the same or similar choices who need to know what exactly they’re doing wrong in those instances. Myself included. I get that you have so many people probably asking you for specific stuff, not to mention you have your own content ideas, but I couldn’t help but wonder what gems you can add to that discussion while watching the interview. Thank you either way for all you do for us girlies depending on your wisdom. It’s changed my life for the better in so many ways!💞💞💞

[DebruhBM]

Thank you so much! This couldn't have been posted at a better time. I started counseling this month and it is definitely uncomfortable so far.

[NatashaLeecole]

I’ve been through a cycle of several different therapists, in different stages of my life in person and online. Some helped a little, some helped a little less and I felt it was pointless. I’ve come to the conclusion that when you find the right one (it’s almost like a level of matchmaking) it’s good to have especially in our roughest moments and we actually do the work outside of therapy, but we have to learn how to be our own therapists as well. It’s hard for someone else to help us if we can’t even figure out how to help ourselves in times we are by ourselves. A therapist isn’t there for us everyday. We are another client in their book of clients with usually an hour block of their time. Some make the most of that time, others don’t and you can tell you’re just another person they have to listen to for an hour.

[Tameva]

It's important to have a therapist who can hold you accountable and teach you to be more self assured and self trusting/validating. However, you should reconsider your therapist when that person starts to become overly judgemental and illustrates too much with you--the client. (I.e. they start giving non applicable advise rather than letting you make well-founded decisions.) Therapy should be wise, compassionate and healing. A space for self reflection and empowerment. Also this should go without saying but never be with a therapist who just "note-takes." I've only had 1 or 2 therapists who were REALLY GOOD. But unfortunately had to end due to client overload and at this point, I feel healed from those past circumstances. I've learned to let go but everyone can benefit from therapy.

[Anna-ggwp]

Soul can cleanse it self by spiritual awaking later u will go through the dark knight of the a long painful journey..last 1-3 years ..u will releases all trauma, pain, abuse it goes very very very deep its a very dark time ..but after u will feel free from everything.

[Anna-ggwp]

They saying the soul chooses the life for us . We are souls/spirits in a human body .

[tammerry]

I would prefer therapy in person because I can actually connect with a therapist instead of online.

[deserieoware]

I’m honestly a little disappointed with all the backlash and lawsuits betterhelp has gotten. Why are creators still promoting this?