4 rules to protect yourself from toxic behavior | Dr Ramani

[victoriarose]

Walking away from toxic behavior is not disrespectful it's self care

[smckoy]

She's right. Just walk away and say nothing. Silence is powerful.

[moniquepimentel]

If we don't lisen to these rules ..
We empaths will constantly stay miserable ❤❤❤

[KelK-ssqv]

Very TRUE! Narcissist people HATE it when you completely 100% cut them off. No interaction at all. You stop feeding their passive-aggressive games. They try to attack verbally but when you don't engage, walk off, don't talk...they can't really get any satisfaction from that and at some point they find another person to target.

[lhyllianamarseilles]

When you argue with a fool, people won't know the difference.

[robotlife]

So true! We are living in a toxic time where people are looking for power/control over others rather that looking for soul/spirit connection. True strength lies within❤

[LonjeMarie]

DEEP
DONT defend
DONT engage
DONT explain
DONT personalize

WOW now that’s deep!

I find it so much easier to remember something when just like she did turned it into an acronym she is absolutely brilliant that’s why she is within the top three narcissistic experts in the world. If not the number one, she has helped to save my sanity and actually saved my life, narcs they can make you crazy to the point where, it’s not good.

[DeliaDevlin-euoj]

WOW, she said a mouthful of truth in less than 10 seconds. I left after 21 years 1 year ago. I moved 2, 000 miles away and people, that knew us both, still contact me saying I was wrong for leaving such a kind, gentle, loving man with a heart of gold. My only response now is " it was good talking to you, you be safe now. Bye Bye." And I hang up. I still cry afterwards

[TriciaScott-gp]

Acronym DEEP - Defend, engage, explain, personalise. A good way to remember it.

[IAmTheQueen]

Whew. I really need to implement these because my immediate family literally drives me insane. I end up being the bad guy cuz I’m often put in a position where I have to defend myself. This changes ASAP!

[johnayala]

These 4 Rules are great advice but for me, "no-contact" is the best advice I've ever heard and I'm forever grateful to Dr. Ramani for it. I realized it's not for everyone (like if you have kids w/ a narc) but fortunately, "no-contact" is very application in my case & life is so beautiful without them. 😎

[abigailgbadebo]

These rules are not easy. You can not fight this war without spiritual power. Silence does help! Leaving things to God!

[girlinterrupted]

I agree- the time most victims waste before they realize it is simply a futile attempt at trying to have an honest relationship with a dishonest person who knows only to play games with your head. These people do not deserve our time and energy spent on trying to get them to “see” the truth. They don’t care about truth!

[Ana_DayTmian]

The only thing that has helped me adhere to this is to remind myself of the saying: "When you keep being upset bc someone is refusing to change, you're also refusing to change." Doesn't always help, but it usually does.

[AA-qdpq]

Being so empathic that you keep ending up in toxic situations is something to address as well. Empathism doesn't excuse one from the personal responsibility of critical thinking and wising up.

Narcissism can only be perpetuated in situations where empathism is not regulated. Narcissism literally needs a host to thrive.

[Servo]

My therapist taught me that it's critical I do this with my mother and sister. Changed my life forever.

[romanb]

I tried it. It wasn't easy. But it works perfectly!

[Sonia-qd]

Yes, ..not only with the narcissist, let's do it with everyone..the cortisol level goes up and it makes us sick...time will show who's right..i live joe dispensa s teachings..we are nobody, we have nothing.. that means... minimize the ego and just be happy, feel fullfied, we lack nothing.. that's what happiness is all about

[raymondsmall]

I did all these things at the office like an ass-hat, and it all ended with me looking like the crazy person. I resigned and got the heck out of there. I'm wiser now, and just by following this ladies' advice, I now see the narc coming from a mile away.

[TeaRose]

LOVE DR. Ramani !!! She’s the expert on dealing with toxic narcissists!