Hey Steve: She Won’t Cook for Her Man

Her cooking won’t satisfy his needs, so he turns to Steve Harvey for help.

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[tiamaria]

“You look like you eating plenty” Steve a savage

[truemoneylabel]

So we gone ignore the fact he said “Can I phone a friend”😂💀😂😂

[ethelyolande]

Ohh girrlll, i love his wife. She said the most shadiest thing in the best way

[salvadorvidrio]

She just told him to feed his damn self in the sweetest/nicest way possible. lol

[philswifeforever]

I just love how she kept her composure. Such an example for me...👍🏾

[angienatoyn]

A home cooked meal by a wife/mother is one of the greatest memories a man can ever have in his life. It means a LOT to them.

[marethyu_primo]

The minute this guy finished his question i was like "Bro, u signed a death warrant"

[precious]

He should be more encouraging, rather than condemning. She no longer gets the joy in "cooking for her man, " when her MAN is always complaining about what she cooked.

[venom-lizgang]

Why he sound like he coughing every time he laughs tho😂💀

[thejen]

Steve casually embarrassed him, like he casually embarrassed his wife. I STAN!

[MatthewCoast]

She's not cooking because he's being too critical of her cooking. He's far better at cooking than she is... he takes pride in his food. So the standard is high and she's not going to live up to it but he wants her to and he's going about it the wrong way. She's never going to cook as well as him but he needs to just appreciate her for whatever she makes or shut up and cook the food himself... unfortunately, that's all that's going to happen. She simply doesn't care as much as he does.

[sincerelycandace]

i think so many of you have missed the point of why she doesn't cook for him. He's really judgmental of her cooking skills and that could really easily discourage a person. I mean yea i'm still young and i'm not married but i have a man who loves to eat and i cant cook but guess what?!.... my man has me in the kitchen with him every time he cooks something so i can watch and learn and i've been able to cook him several different dinners for us over the past months. I'm learning because he facilitates it, he encourages and corrects me where necessary but he has never told me that its not good enough or its simple not good at all. instead he says how i can fix it and i appreciate that a lot.
Maybe he should try that approach, just saying

[AcutePanic]

If she makes the effort to cook, you say thank you, sit and eat. I love my wife's cooking. She's from the Philippines, so her food was a little strange at first. I got home from work and she'd spent all afternoon in the kitchin. I sit and hands me my plate and I start eating... the two things I hate in life... star anise and liver (Don't ask what she cooked, I have no idea or how to pronounce it). One mouthful and bam... I look up and the look in her eyes, I couldn't say anything negative. I finished my plate and thanked her, even had seconds. It would have hurt her feelings if I told her the truth. She still cooks it for me now and again... we've been married for nearly 11 years, she still doesn't know I hate it, and she never will, because I love her!

[RthKsNd]

My friend once told me, when you love the person, everything comes out naturally. Including cooking. The thing is, she feels that he doesn't appreciate the effort she puts in cooking. Please bear in mind that we have different ways of cooking as we have different tastes on food.

[mulangasarahmbayabu]

“She had the baby, yo a** cook the food.”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣

[alexlowery]

Man I love it when my girlfriend makes me anything even if it’s a bowl of cereal, to me it doesn’t matter what she makes me but it’s the thought of doing it and she spent her own time to do it for me.
Update: Me and my now fiancé are still happy together and have our first child on the way, due in august🥰 baby boy

Update and it’s a bad one: me and her aren’t together anymore and she’s trying to completely take my baby away from me. I’m a good father…I take care of my baby, provide everything he needs, love him and I loved her to death. But ultimately I wasn’t enough for her and that’s just that. Now I get 4 days a MONTH when my son…yeah this aged really badly.

[ladderallthinking]

My wife, who I've been with for twelve years, insists she didn't know how to cook *anything* when we met. Now? 8-12 home-cooked meals per week (and I'm not talking about instant pancakes, oatmeal, or prepackaged spaghetti--I mean cooking from scratch with dishes like stir fry, homemade pastas, homemade soups, homemade bread, barbecued ribs, sweet & sour anything, fajitas, cottage pies, fried rice, etc..) So take that into consideration as you read my perspective on providing feedback to home cooking.

I've always found honesty to be the best policy when it comes to commentary on family cooking. But you have to pretty much stick with highlighting the positives, especially early on, so that means not TOO MUCH honesty. Real, honest-to-God home cooking is as much art as work, and it's impossible for an artist to express themselves when they anticipate a negative response from the consumers.

Be honest, just don't be BRUTALLY honest. And forget the micromanaging--let her do the cooking her way, and if she does a good job, lavish her with genuine praise for the effort. If a particular effort comes up short, praise the good stuff and don't lie if asked about the bad--just soften it a little until you've developed a rapport to where she trusts you're not going to hurt her feelings if she inquires.

Whenever my wife asks how I liked a given meal, I'll always point out the positives even if they're not that high (e.g. if the fried chicken wasn't all that flavorful, i might say 'the breading on this fried chicken is really crunchy. I like that!' I don't need to rag about the lack of spices, but if she asks about that part, I'll say, 'It could probably use some more cayenne pepper...or maybe just black pepper?').

She already knows when she cooks something great and she knows when it's not great, so I don't need to tell her if it's great or not. I just need to tell her what *is* great *about it.* That always opens up the dialogue and makes it a lot less confrontational when the inevitable 'Yeah...but I think I overcooked the or "I know I added too much salt, " parts of the conversation come around. That's where you get the chance to make suggestions, but be careful when doing so, and always ask yourself one question before you do: 'Was this a better deal than we can get at a fast food place?' If the answer's 'yes, ' you should probably keep your mouth shut even if you're sure the meal could be better. If the answer's 'no, ' then use your own judgment in how you craft your diplomatic suggestions.

When we cook for our loved ones, we're committing an act of love. As diners we know homemade meals won't always come up aces, but we also know that they're a really wonderful way to bring people together, both during production and consumption. Nobody wants to cut those interactions out of their life unnecessarily, so a little politicking is important around the dinner table. Family meals are the centerpiece of my growing family's daily interactions, and we all recognize the importance of it.

As the man once said: Honesty is the best policy. Don't lie. Just remember that too much honesty is usually worse than not quite enough.

[asia]

Teach her how then! Be patient with her and don't get frustrated. Simple fix. Sometimes you have to help her, instead of her helping you all the time.

[ciku-ciku]

What’s wrong with her cooking if she is home all day. If my man is out making $ I would have no problem cooking for for him.

[Lemons]

His wife looks so cute in that yellow top! She seems very sweet!