Non-Negotiable's in Christian Dating & Marriage

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[AbbyMcGuire]

My husband and I met in college, we went to a private Christian university. I was shocked at how many guys went to that school who were the OPPOSITE of a Godly man. When I met my husband I thought he was too good to be true. I had never met a man who held himself to such standards of Godliness- kindness, respect, chivalrous, loyalty, dated for marriage, communication, saved himself for marriage, longed for kids, prayed with me, etc. He is my absolute best friend in the entire world. People think we’re “too” lovey dovey or hallmark-y but we don’t care. We’re simply best friends in love. ♥️🤷🏼‍♀️🙏🏻

[unabellavita]

I looked for someone who:
-willed for my best (Cared about my best interest)
-wanted children
-helped me grow closer in my relationship with God
-took his role as the man in our relationship seriously (took responsibility in that role)
-was honorable and trustworthy

I was 30 when I found my wonderful husband. He treats me like a lady and 5 kids later still tells me I’m beautiful and he loves me every single day. I prayed for him and God delivered him to me. It took patience and time but God is so faithful and wants the right match for us.

[.am]

This video is a breath of fresh air, realizing im not crazy or legalistic for having such standards. 😊

[Brookebiscuit]

Non-negotiable: having the same ideas on how they want to raise their children.
& the standards with their parents and holidays:)
-also I liked how y’all brought up that you need to “be your standards” to attract the person you want

[damaris_mx]

Maybe one of my non negotiables is that they have an active/healthy lifestyle. It shows me that you take your health seriously and you take care of yourself. If you can have self control in what you eat and have discipline in exercising, I feel like that shows you respect yourself and your body. Also if you’re disciplined and strong physically, you’re more likely to have better mental clarity/strength. Which is important. So how they take care of themselves is a non negotiable for me.

[MrsCasanova]

I love the skits! Me and my husband met in high school before we were both saved, so we were in a relationship after high school whenever we weren't saved, and there weren't expectations which exposes the world we live in and how many lies we are told growing up! Without the armor of God we will not make it. After Jesus saved us both in different ways we went to church and got baptized a day before our 3 year dating anniversary. We started over and waited for marriage and started to get to know each other for the first time because we had been sober for the first time in 3 years after giving our lives to Christ. Now we have been married for over a year, and will never be the same! We admire your channel and will raise our kids to save themselves, and train them to live their lives for Jesus, we want to give them the life we didn't have. I love to see y'all do what y'all do❤

[kisskiss]

As a person who never wants kids, I appreciated that part SO much, where you talked about kids/no kids should be a non-negotionable and people should not try to change us and not getting into a relationship with us, thinking we'll change our minds. Thank you for this ❤️

[Victoriousandbrave]

1. Christian
2. Loving/Merciful
3.Leader
4. Funny
5. Prayer Warrior
6. Wants to wait until marriage

[tarryndeyce]

Also non-negotiables to add:
- someone who is hard-working and committed.
- someone who follows through with promises and doesn't go back on his word
- someone who is consistent in the way he treats people
- someone who puts God first and family second
- someone who is ambitious but always trusts in the Lord to direct his path

[Beforethethrone]

Thank you guys for encouraging me in my process of figuring out what I want. This is something I’ve been working through for a while. Love you guys and your foundation on biblical truths ❤

[juliananavia]

6:55-7:01 “we tend to attract our standards” that’s probably the most cut and clean thing that spoke to me. It’s SO true, and I like, paused the video and was like… THAT MAKES SENSE. I remember being in high school wanting to date certain guys, and NOW coming into a 2 year relationship where we want to get married next year, I see that I’m completely different. I have Christ, hopes, and goals of my own and my partner!

[paigehunger]

Wow! This video came at exactly the right time for me. I definitely needed the reminder that there's a difference between a Christian guy and a Christian guy who displays spiritual leadership.

[alishacuarenta]

What a beautiful marriage and family you have. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I can only imagine how hard you work to bring us relevant and helpful content. Thank you!

[fdoctor]

The skit in the beginning was HILARIOUS! Agreed with your non-negotiables. I would add I want him to be kind, generous, and prosperous! Bonus have an appreciation for the arts and like to travel! Tfs

[princessizyabdul]

I have always desired all these and more as nonnegotiables but it’s soo… hard to find such men with sound christian values in our world of today even in the church. I still chose to believe God’s word stands forever and the Lord would honor our desires as we say them to him. Thank you for sharing this. You have strengthened my faith and resolve and reminded me of God’s love for his own. God bless you both

[erosimpier]

More red flags than a bullfighter's pit in that relationship

[ktbuga]

It’s not a make or break to have a skit, but I am with Nate on this one, they are so much fun!!!

[CrustyDrawers]

When he put his finger on her lips when she was talking about Biden...whew chile.

[selmasolera]

Kinda scary………… you don’t seem to enjoy each other and you delete all negative comments 🙁

[sambailie]

Old married lady here....well, 46.... But great advice Nate and Sutton. I had a mental list and knew what I wanted and stuck to it. The Lord blessed me with a lovely husband. I would say, compliment and always say thank you...appreciation means a lot.

Ask the hard questions early. Set up boundaries and don't postpone marriage for years and years when you know you've found the one.

PS. Sutton, how do you always look so wonderful having three children. You look lovely x