The Dark Side of Romance: Is Love Worth It?

Is love all you need? Current societal narratives tell us that romantic love is an ‘ultimate concern;’ it’s the highest goal a human being can attain. We’re all after it; many, if not most, books, poetry, music, and films revolve around it. Ultimately, beyond everything life offers, we all want a romantic relationship providing us with an undying love that allows us to live happily ever after and washes away our sorrows. But unfortunately, in the vast majority of cases, romantic love isn’t what it’s promised to be.

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00:00 - Intro
01:38 - Reason #1
04:44 - Reason #2
08:41 - Reason #3

[Billy]

Fact: Romantic love was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Fact: Romantic love destroyed me and brought suffering so intense that I cannot even describe it
Don’t fall in love

[kirinoikezawa]

"Love is a cruel trick that nature plays on us, to get us to reproduce."

[brianhill]

The older I become, the more I consider friendship rather than romance to be the preferred relationship. Friendship is less demanding and is more reasonable and reliable.

[bunnybeetle]

I have fallen in love with my own solitude. The best relationship ever.

[mindfulnesswithmatt]

We look for love that we cannot give ourselves. We have become too reliant on romantic love as a means to save the depression from within. We can't keep chasing romantic love like another object or desire, it really distorts our reality as mentioned.

[westonjones]

Reasons Not to Fall in Love
1. Being in love is addictive
2. Being in love distorts reality
3. Being in love can be excruciatingly painful

[tabithasands]

Not only is it a scam, its one of the greatest lies ever told..

[The_Camera_Guy]

Love will ruin you for years. Don’t give yourself to Anyone or you’re finished. No one deserves the best of you.

[tomw]

As a divorced, 31 year old male with 1 child my outlook on love is, don't avoid or fight against love, just be smart about it, don't drop all your ambitions or dreams just because you love someone, focus on yourself and if you end up loving someone, just enjoy it and build the foundations correctly. Nobody wants to grow old never having been in love or loved because that will make you bitter and angry at the world. Life is filled with different chapters and maybe it will work out, maybe not.

[MODELBODYINTL]

I think we’re here to give love. But not the drug-like love that “romance” has become. Love your family, friends - be kind to people. That’s love.

[flyby]

I never had a relationship until I was 32 years old, from then until now that I am 38 I have had 3, I can calmly say that my life before those experiences was calmer.

[chaserigg]

They say there’s no better feeling than being in love, but there’s also no worse feeling than losing that love. It’s not worth it

[franciscoraupp]

About the depiction of romantic love in media and arts, my therapist said this:
“I’ve never seen someone become a psychopath after watching a horror movie. On the other hand, everyday someone comes to my office because they believed what they watched in romantic comedy movies”

[NotMadNomadZephyr]

Attachment says 'i love you, therefore make me happy'.
Genuine Love says "whether with or without me, i pray for your happiness".

[Davidm]

I felt much better when I admitted to myself that love does not exist, at least for me. I feel that what we call love is either lust, co-dependence, or simply a transaction. I stopped wondering why I always felt that love was so unfulfilling and sometimes downright self-destructive. I can still be kind and empathetic to a fault, but it's a choice I make and not some mysterious emotional feeling.

[neondystopian]

I'm pretty sure love is just a combination of loyalty and companionship. You meet someone you actually like, don't mind sticking with them through bad times, and that's that.

[timothyswauger]

When you love someone, you essentially put your happiness in that person’s hands. This makes you a slave to that person.

[kyoshiro]

"Love is a serious mental disease" - Plato

[williamramos]

True love in my opinion is understanding each other. Everything else is just a phase that goes away. That why most relationships do not last.

[sasagoro]

"Thousands have lived without love, not one without water" - W.H Auden. If you happen to find yourself sad for the lack of romantic relationships. Drink a good glass of water, you won't regret it.