Gigolo interview-Tom

Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Tom, a gigolo in New York City.

[DoyleHargraves]

As a male that was abandoned by my mom, and often neglected by my father, i understand his need to satisfy these women emotionally. He is acting out how he thinks he could have made his mother stay.
At 38 yrs old, it dawned on me that i have spent my entire life missing my mother, and i always felt like i needed to be the best version of myself around women so they might stay.

[LisaTothestars]

The fact that he hooks women by being honest, caring and respectful tells you everything you need to know about the state of dating today.

[TheAnthoula]

Being a successful high end escort of either gender seems to require a combination of many things - from I've observed you need a unique mix of good looks, ability to compartmentalize sex emotionally, a bit of outlaw mentality, good social skills/being able to read others quickly, and money management ability. It's really a small percentage of humans who are all these things at the same time.

[kattilathehunfreedomfighter]

He was essentially abandoned by both his mother and father (thus leaving a huge void of parental attachment and guidance) and raised by women. Thus he has learned how to deal with women and what women need and want. He's very intelligent, observant, handsome, and therefore makes for a sweet, caring, attentive, transactional "Casanova-type" con artist. The emotional void he feels is evident to me. He gets paid well to play a role, similar to an actor. If he wasn't getting paid he wouldn't "care" about these women. What a sad, empty life for both sides. Yeah, it's great temporarily but when it's over I guarantee the sense of emptiness for many of the women who get attached to him is overwhelming. It's degrading to have to pay someone to be with you to fulfil your physical and emotional needs. Just my observations.

[Its_Shazar]

He definitely knows how to say the right words on the outside in order to charm a person (look at the people who fell in love in the comments). Interestingly, his nice words don't match his history of doing immoral things or beating people. Also, when mark asked what "emotions" the job gave him, he did not answer an emotion -- he said he got a chance to "learn about humans". I do detect some sociopathy (and maybe narcissism), which is not inherently a bad thing in itself but I am always more careful around these charmers.

[lisan_al_gib]

Why is my wife’s piano teacher doing an interview on here? 🤔

[marywilson]

I bet the number of weddings & class reunions this man has been to is epic.

[DapUniversalTarot]

"I know how to ask the questions they want to answer" is a whole vibe

[aditinagesh]

I found this in the middle of an assignment and this is a gold mine. This is so insightful and well-directed, I'm loving his answers, honesty, , and energy, and how open he is with his reflections and insights.

[Last_Chance.]

He's not here for a long time, he's here for a good time

[wikilee]

This is definitely a high class and very skillful gigolo. He is so respectful. Amazing story, one of the top ones.

[enricosace]

This is one of your best interviews ever. Entertaining, informative, positive, honest. This guy is a borderline genius in my opinion. Every man should watch this one.

[bellacucina]

Under all the smiles, the portrait reveals the sorrowful eyes of a small child.

[wiolettamarzenaslowik]

During 90s and early 00s a lot of polish parents emigrated leaving children behind (including myself).
There is a whole generation of abandoned kids in Poland.
It was normal back then.

[Tulimammam]

This interview made me laugh. There is something very funny and cheeky about this guy, even though he has a questionable character to some degree with his prior convictions, etc, but he seems to be honest about his past and why he is doing what he is doing now. Entertaining and uplifting.

[southtoe]

Dude looks like if Sting and Arnold Schwarzenegger had a baby 😂

[Alexandria]

This is a huge platform for someone like him to get more clients! He’s clearly watching what he’s saying. When Mark asks him if some of his clients aren’t attractive…he’s not answering honestly. He doesn’t want to lose the clients he already has too.

[Youtuberson]

something about this guy is unsettling. He is so calm and charming and disarming that it actually becomes threatening in a way, this guy probably has a mountain of broken hearts and people who who trusted him more than they should have in his wake. This guy has a power that few people do, its like a weapon.

[sisista]

He is looking for the love of his mom in every woman... this is why parenting is such a responsible job

[jimcameron]

"I wanted to be my own boss". Me: UBER driver .. Tom: Master of LOVE