What to do if someone refuses to accept your apology; You said you're sorry, now what?

Don't gravel. If they want nothing to do with you after you have owned up to your mistake, then the problem is theirs. Or, it also could be that they need a little time and space. If that is the case, then give it to them. The worst thing you can do is to constantly approach them or try to contact them. Once you have said you are sorry, it is done. You did what you could. The ball is in his/her court. It could be that they eventually come around, and just need some time and space.

[li-an]

getting ignored is the harderst thing to deal with especially if you care about that person.

[eirikmurito]

If the person won't accept your apology even if you did all you could to make it up to them then never apologize to that person again..

[amaricaldwell]

It's hard to accept someone's apology when they know what they did from the start was going to hurt you

[Magicme]

If you say "whatever I did wrong, I apologise" that's not an apology. Just saying.

[jessicajamesspeaks]

I used to feel so offended when people wouldn't accept my apology and feel less than as a person because my apology wasn't accepted. I'm 35 now and hypothetically even if the person who I attempted to apologize to wants "to extend an olive 🫒 branch" to me or "be cordial" with me, that's all fine and dandy but I would see right through them. You had the opportunity let bygones be bygones when I apologized and years later you want to reconsider? Too little too late for that 🤷🏽‍♀️

[rebekahsegun]

My take on it is if you have clearly shown the person you are truly sorry for whatever wrong thing you've done to them, you've done your part. If they refuse to accept it, that's on them. Don't keep bombarding them with apologies. Some people might need more time to think about it so give them that time. In the end if they still don't forgive you, then just move on- they're not worth it so stop wasting your time with them, because in the end they're really only hurting themselves, when they think they're hurting you.

I feel for the victim of course. But sometimes the victim can be even worse than their wrongdoer ie they demand an apology from them or give obvious signs that they want one and then when their wrongdoer GIVES them that apology they wanted, they flat out reject it. Those kinds of people aren't worth apologizing to in the first place as they obviously take pleasure in seeing you feel bad. Fuck those types of people!

[sitiraidah]

Maybe the person who got hurt isn't trying to play games. Maybe he/she got really hurt that lip service isn't enough. The person not only has to apologize, but make amendments and prove that he/she has truly repented and wants to have the healthy relationship they once had.

[renelaramee]

my bestfriend got mad at me. I gave her an apology and explained what happened and she still hates me. it's hard to avoid her because we're classmates and I don't know what to do. Advice?

[dizzyfingers]

Been a year since I apologized. I am now enlightened as to the type of person she is, the type I am glad I’m not around. I didn’t realize how chronically miserable she is until this happened. It’s definitely for the best.

[tiffanytapia]

It depends on what, how bad, the offense was, and also how sincere the apology is. A person cannot simply go through life hurting people and pardoning herself with a simple, “Oops, sorry...🤷🏻‍♀️.”

[romeowong]

Best explanation i have heard so far. I feel so much better now. Your tone of voice is very comforting, it keep me calm. Now, i now understand and I won't be blaming myself for not trying my best to make it up with her.

[kiwiness]

I think it's important in general to be aware of the things you're in control over. You can't force people to accept your apology but that's not your decision. Your decision is based on your own actions and that's why it's important to be more aware of your own actions and to appreciate the things you do, this allows you to be in more control of who you are. Unfortunately, I think many people especially nowadays like to play the victim because it helps get their point across an it makes them seem justified and unfortunately alot of idiots seems to fall into it. It's a shame because regardless we can't expect people to change.

[TerrenceStarkey]

I told my friend not to talk to me while I was drunk one day. Almost immediately after I said that I apologised numerous times and told them that what I did came from a moment of clouded judgment. Now things are on the rocks and I don't know if we'll ever be on the same level of friendship again. This is one of the most painful things I've ever experienced.

[yankofisoye]

I'm going throughout this right now. I apologized for doing somethings wrong to my partner but she won't take my apology and she won't let us move on. But listening to this, it helps me a lot and i am taking to this advise to let her have her time and space. 

[palashshah]

You are definately a life saver...thanks a ton...couldn't have got out of this mess if it wasn't for u

[mistywoods]

Or another matter is when you apologize, they say they forgive you but they keep throwing it back in your face repeatedly which tells me they did not forgive you but are only paying lip service and continue the drama. That is another walk away moment.

[DJ_WAHTZ]

I was being stupid and made fun of my friend for something they were insecure of. I apologized once and they didn’t accept it and now im scared to apologize again.

[rimut]

If I only could watched this earlier!
I had the conflict with my friend and she just blocked me on DMs without even saying a word. I first thought that I was innocent and she's the only one to blame, but I analyzed the situation later, and I found out that I was the only one who was guilty. I tried to apologize to her and sent her a message through my another friend who agreed to help me.
10 hours passed.
She was online.
And I didn't thought that she could just be afk or talking to another person. And I wrote her that she didn't apologize to me, you're a horrible person, why, do you even feel something...
She wrote me in DMs that she almost wanted to forgive me until I wrote this rant. I had an opportunity and I just screwed it up once again. I wish I could turned back time, but I can't.

[Ddeath.Eaterr]

I’m going thru this right now. I unintentionally made my sister feel “left out.” It was not my intention at all. I immediately, wholeheartedly apologized, explaining how I didn’t mean to hurt her or leave her out, it wasn’t my intention, my actions were a me thing and not a her thing & that I loved her. She ignored my apology saying “nothing can be done.” I said “okay, I won’t try to change your feelings. I hope with time, you’ll feel better.” She came back with a huge paragraph TELLING me I intentionally did this. I just left her alone. 🤷🏽‍♀️👐🏼 I’m not about to keep apologizing and over explaining myself.

Thank you for this. This situation has had me going crazy.

[kelciabartholomew]

Marie, You give such good advice, and I thank you so much