PARENTS AND ANXIETY

"You stop crying or I give you something to cry about"

Script: Nicholas Urbonas
Voice Over: Scott Austin
Animation: Nayeli Meneses

Feedback Editor: Risha Maes
Project Manager: Erin Bogo
Producer: Psych2Go

[chases]

When your parents are the reason you have anxiety but they still don't believe its real 😌

[sunnyd]

My mom always says "You're too young to have anxiety"

[grannysmith]

I don’t get why parents complain about being a parent

*YA SHOULD’VE USED PROTECTION*

[cinderrmella]

My mother never allows me to actually explain a situation. She just, “assumes”. She’s never allowed me to finish a sentence and thinks she is right every time she says something. If you prove her wrong, she’ll yell at you. And even better, she only believes my younger brother. A few years ago, my little brother told my mom that I hit him and yelled at him, but that was a lie, because I had only turned off the lights and played on my iPad for most of the night. My mother came over and slapped my leg, and the place she had smacked made my leg hurt really badly. That memory has stayed with me for about three years.

[mar-iobw]

"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" O-o lol *war flashbacks*

[secretlyaraccoon]

My parents have given me depression and anxiety by forcing me into situations I am not comfortable with a then degrading me to nothing more than a mistake when I don't handle the situation properly because I am overwhelmed.

[bunnyboy]

I grew up with my parents giving me mixed signals “it’s okay to do that” “just don’t do it that way or this way” “be yourself” “but don’t be like that” I was just so confused which lead me to being anxious a lot now

[perfidiousprophet]

Every time I hear the front door open or a knock at my bedroom door, my heart skips a beat and a wave of anxiety just *woosh* . I'm scared of being criticized and yelled at, it really messes me up because I get yelled at a lot. I know I'm a difficult kid but punishments make everything worse. I hate school but I also hate home, I feel stuck and paranoid all the time. I hope things will get better soon.

[OTSCasper]

those words "You stop crying or I give you something to cry about" gave me major flashbacks and ptsd

[Katxo]

"You stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" Lmaao if I had a dollar every time I heard that as a child, I'd be rich af

[evilkitty]

So that's why I can't function properly.

[luhcy]

"You doesn't have anxiety"
"You are too young to have anxiety"
"Why are you crying?"

[ValStartaker]

My parents sheltered me when I was younger, which has lead to my current anxiety problems.

[TheFoxHound]

More parents need to see this, my friends mom kept him too sheltered when he was growing up so now he has a lot of anxiety issues especially when it comes to talking to people because he was home schooled and he has trouble fitting in.

[treenaturtle]

I have a Helicopter Mom.

Just note that I'm 13 years old.
She has done a lot of things I'm uncomfortable with. She's gone through my sketchbook AND my journals, gone through my backpack, stalks my social media, etc. This has rendered me a bit paranoid. And now I don't share my personal feelings with her anymore. I vent at my own risk now. Every time I tell her to stop or leave me alone she just says "I'm your mother" and it pisses me off so much.

Let me give you an example of how weird she is -

When I was about 7 or 8 years old, I got a new puppy which I still have today. A few days after we got her, I wanted to take her outside in front of our house so she could learn to be pottytrained. My mother told me no. After I asked her why she said she was afraid of me getting kidnapped.
I was literally in front of our house where she had perfect vision of where I was going.

Once I got into middle school I realized her behavior was wrong and I was starting to outgrow it. I wanted to do things myself and I craved independence. She had a horribly difficult time giving it to me. This lead to me becoming a rebellious teenager and I usually took it upon myself to face my own challenges. I also disobeyed her rules because I thought they were silly. My father had a completely different parenting style which was more of something I liked and often favored him.

However this took a toll on my mother's relationship with me. I started to push her away because all I wanted was for her to leave me alone. I became "contradictory" and I developed a horrible attitude towards her. I don't tell her anything and I've lost my trust for her. We argued a lot over how I was. But I could never tell her why.

I understand she just wants to look out for me, but, I've gotten over many difficult real life challenges without her hand to guide me.

[frederica]

god, reading all these comments makes my heart break a bit... im not really an expert in this, but i really hope you guys can get at least some help y'all deserve :( it makes me feel to not be a parent or to not get married at all, just the thought of all kinds of bad stuff i would do to a child that i might not be aware it could ruin their mental health...is just beyond heartbreaking.

[minty.bliss.]

My parents induce anxiety in different ways. They push me way too far. My parents don’t see that I avoid certain things, such as cleaning my room, because they frequently result in panic attacks (messy rooms overwhelm me so much, so I cannot bare acknowledge them). I try to keep my room clean, however it always ends up a total disaster the end of each school week. I can’t relax on the weekends as a result

[HaloBigCheese]

My parents are like this; loving, wanting what's best for me, but not actually knowing. I have autism, so naturally they're a lot more protective of me for that reason. They don't understand though that I'm actually a capable 18-year-old functioning adult now, and they don't need to be 100% involved in absolutely everything I do.

[trashmouth]

I have anxiety. My parents were the ones who fought 24 7 it affected my sleep, happiness ect i had anxiety before they started fighting but it wasnt to bad but as they fought more and more it made it worse and i have developed depression. Thank u for listening

[Joak]

Things my mom told me:
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about"
"I may not have brought you into this world but I sure as hell will be the one to take you out of it"
That's all I can think of but uh yeah