The Language of Fake Friends

Fake friends are people who pretend to be your friend but don’t genuinely care about you or your well-being. They might act friendly when it suits them, but their actions often reveal a lack of loyalty, trust, or sincerity. Here are some common signs of fake friends:

Self-Interest: They’re only around when they need something—help, attention, or a favor—but disappear when you’re the one in need.
Gossip or Betrayal: They talk behind your back, share your secrets, or undermine you when you’re not around.
Inconsistency: They’re hot and cold—super friendly one day, distant or dismissive the next.
Lack of Support: They don’t celebrate your successes or support you during tough times; they might even get jealous or competitive instead.
Surface-Level Connection: The friendship feels shallow, with no real emotional depth or effort to understand you.

The narration is an AI version of @Eternalised

[love]

i have a strong feeling this video is about to go viral. interesting topic

[anonimosu]

i got so detached to everything i fear that ive become a fake friend to everyone else.

[daisyviluck]

There’s a difference between “friends” and “friendly acquaintances”, and there a space for both in life

[suncricket]

When you mostly encounter fake friends in your life, it's easy to become a fake friend yourself. I've come to hate sharing my troubles with people and hearing other people's problems in turn. And every time I try to listen to others, it feels like I'm faking, or that the other person thinks I'm faking. Sometimes I am, but I want to at least try to be there for someone, you know? Even if I'm awful at it.

[ike__]

I feel a bit weird using this to confirm that I’m not a fake friend

[Kay_NoYoni]

I’ve learned to focus on myself and take a step back from friendships. Sometimes you’ll find them more draining. No longer serving you nor your mental health.

[Bendilin]

I do find that in a lot of forced social settings, such as co-workers at a job or classmates in school, shallow and superficial "friendships" are often made or assumed just because some individuals are naturally friendly and open.
I find a lot of people are quick to call me their friend when I only consider them to be peers at best, as I hold the word "friend" to mean something very personal, like a family member. I despise forced corporate, "we're a family" dynamics. People felt hurt and betrayed to learn I didn't consider them to be one of my good friends when in my eyes I was just being polite when around them.

[Laqqy]

hurt people hurt people. there is so much hurt that leads to inauthenticity in relationships and it only feels like it’s getting worse. when you find someone who clicks… there’s no better feeling

[Bendilin]

Tragically, even true friends can become fake friends with time depending on what is stronger; the bond, or the circumstances.
True friends may choose to quietly distance themselves from someone due to a rumour, misunderstanding, or genuine disagreement with personal opinions rather than seek addressing the conflict. Many people would simply let a strong bond quietly wilter instead of facing a strong, emotionally-charged confrontation with someone they have fond memories of.

[ashmash]

Remember when I got extremely depressed and my best friend of 5 years walked out on me ; “ get back to me when you’re your normal self” ; never felt so alone because he was one of the few people I could speak to at that time

[daleodorito]

I just feel everyone is just a fake friend now. Mainly cause nobody really feels like they care about anything anymore, and it's contagious. If they don't care, why would I?

I want to invest in people I like but... they never seen to have time or care for me, so I just end up not caring either, it's the only thing I can do.

[Tychedoll]

I just don't care whether they are being real or not, sometimes it is peaceful to accept that some people are good, and some are simply not. Because its hard to tell and it will only hinder you from finding your people.

[r_e_a_l_g_a_m_e_r_s]

Back when I was in Middle School, I had a lot of "friends" that I used to talk to. But looking back on it, I remember going home and feeling lonely but never being able to pinpoint why. Until there was a time when I tried to open up to them about one of my interests that I was insecure about revealing to people. I wasn't even able to get a full sentence out before getting laughed at.

[DJace]

I've just come across this video and I genuinely always feel uncertain whether I'm just broken or a fake friend to people.

[xjojie]

It's not so much about being fake. It's about being forced, socially, to things you don't want to partake in, but you go along because otherwise you'll be vilified for it. It's basically survival.

[Bendilin]

An important value I got from this video is how fake friends will leave you feeling drained and exhausted.
It's a reflection where, I appreciate how energized and excited some soured friendships would leave me during the good times, affirming that the friendships were genuine despite how they ultimately, grossly ended during the Covid lockdowns.

[xpspsps]

i often worry about being a fake friend and end up doing so much for everyone i have no time left for me, no space to relax and end up overwhelmed and stressed, i dont know how to balance it

[darkninja]

I met a group of friends through one friend I had a bad falling out with, I was afraid to approach them for a while, so one day I just did. I was ready for the verbal beatdown. But as it turned out that friend had a history of being flirty. They enjoyed my company and wanted me to be around. Since than I've kept contact with all of them, despite the fact that the friend group fell apart. I keep up with all of them. They're good friends of mine.

[crs_stl]

I hate people who say stuff like, this friendship is no longer serving me. That just proves that they were never truly your friend because it was always about what you could do for them. Those people are users.

[TCloveandlife]

It hurts when you find out they're fake, even worse when you don't know when to end these relationships, you're better off alone them than losing yourself in these “friendships”.