Should we just stop cleaning so much?

Should we just stop cleaning? Has America entered its MESSY HOME ERA. Can we finally stop trying to have a picture-perfect house all the time? I mean, even Marie Kondo says her house isn't tidy.
What are your thoughts?

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[sjsp]

When I was a young mother of 4 kids, I had a day off. I was determined to sort toys and get closet organized that morning then go to school for a classroom party. Well I didn’t get everything done and was contemplating skipping the party to finish up. My mother in law was visiting and she said. One day your kids will be grown and you’ll have all the time in the world to clean. It was the best advice and now my kids are grown and I’m so thankful I spent my time with them not cleaning. Kids don’t remember how your pantry looked they remember playing at the park with you.

[patdennis]

One cannot clean clutter. Declutter until you reach the number of items you must manage fits your lifestyle and energy level.

[tiffanyprice]

“Stop cleaning our homes for other people. Start cleaning our homes for us.” One of the beat statements I’ve ever heard! Thank you!

[IntrepidFraidyCat]

Bottom line, do your best but don't stress yourself out over it. Life's hard enough. 👍🏻😀

[dorothylewis]

My Mother always said "Don't be a slave to your house" took her advice, FINALLY! 😃

[nula]

Hi from Germany! I feel the need to tell you that I enjoy your channel because you never make "blah, blah" videos. You don't chatter endlessly about nothing, you never waste my time; instead you add value to my organizational life. So, thanks a lot, Kallie.

[trinitydiversia]

Perfect timing! Literally 30 minutes ago, I looked over my house, toys everywhere, baby bottles in the sink, pillows strewn haphazardly on my couch, even though I cleaned everything yesterday. I have a 3 week old and a 2 year old, and my in laws are coming tomorrow, and I was feeling the panic rising that my house isn't tidy or clean enough. Having kids has made me lower my standards, and watching this video helped me feel more at peace that it's okay to have toys everywhere, and the bottles will get washed tonight, and I don't need a picture perfect house for my in laws because this is our reality.

[cicelyice]

YES! So this! I don’t like visual clutter and I like my home to be clean; that said, I’ve accepted that I hate organizing. LOATHE it. So I no longer organize. It’s not necessary in our family and caused me undue stress for YEARS. We are much happier as a family keeping our home clean in a way that works, and is happy and sustainable for us!

[susan]

I so agree. For me, having a clean, organized home is definitely good self-care. Over a few years, I highly simplified my home. I don’t know what % I let go, but it was a lot. Less inventory decreases my stress and makes it a joy to keep my home a happy place.

[britzel]

It's such a great video. As someone who had a horrific childhood due to abuse, etc, then married an abusive and violent man, I became obsessed with having a tidy, spotless house to a huge detriment. I later realized that if I felt my house was 'in order', then I had some sense of control where I had never had before. It took many years to heal but now, I've been literally going through every part of my home, getting rid of 'things' that brought me false joy and letting go of the fillers if that makes sense. I want to enjoy my spaces not be tied to them for the time I have left on this earth. There's too much 'living' out there to be a part of.

[asmaa_vlog_]

Happiness filled my heart when I saw a notification that you uploaded a new

[DestinyGPlus]

I like the real looks, instead of picture perfect. Yet keeping what you need and not over stuffing your home is needed. My grandmother's says enough is enough and to much is nasty !!! Keep cleaning your home but a lived in home is better than a "don't mess it up" home.

[libbypetersen]

Ah, what timing. Just started reading "how to keep house while drowning: a gentle approach to cleaning and organizing" by kc davis. Two huge lessons: 1) Care tasks are morally neutral, 2) You don't exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you. (Kallie-I suspect you have also read it and possibly have mentioned elsewhere.) Recommend!

[SCsweettea]

Influencers with perfection have become another thorn in my side. No one lives that way….so it makes us regular women feel like once again, we are failures. I just remember they often have house cleaning services, they often have filters, they are presenting an ideal that is unsustainable 24/7. I enjoy decluttering and organizing tips….I have learned a lot. But I don’t have a filter, and a cleaning lady and free sponsor gifts. Enjoy videos with a grain of salt folks, these lovely you tubers are just like the rest of us, and when that camera is off, they are cleaning cat puke off the rug and trying to find their kids other sneaker. Hugs everyone!

[lindsey]

Daily tidy clean up is the key. I spent 5days away with one of my daughters and came home to a complete dump. It took me 48hrs to get back to a good point. I have a family of 9. It truly is the Daily bits that make the difference. When it comes to cleaning something is better than nothing xx

[skimusic]

One of the best lines I learned from Flylady is "Housework done poorly still blesses your family." It seems to me you are in a different life-phase when you have children, as you and Marie Kondo illustrate. This invites a difference response. Your decisions to keep your home in a way that suits the family you love and at a level that lets you enjoy them as well is the rational, loving response. Thank you!

[sharynsouza]

Agree completely! I love for my house to be clean and clear of visual clutter but I would fail a white glove test more days than not.

[sarafenton]

We are blessed and a mess in the house is from our abundance of living a full life with our families ❤❤

[judedoes]

I love this mentality! The middle ground works best for me! I get stressed if I try to maintain perfection and too much mess makes me feel anxious. Each night before bed, I aim to reset my home to what I call "visual neutral". This means I throw away trash, take dishes to the sink, put pillows and blankets back on the couches, and put things where they belong. So, when I look at my space the next day, it doesn't look overwhelmingly messy, but it's not pristinely clean either. It's neutral! I don't always get the trash taken out, or have the floors vacuumed, or wash the dishes, but things are placed in a way that allows me to carry on with life. My system might not work for everyone else, but it works pretty well for me!

[chloebesonderes]

A few videos ago you said something that your husband said to you which was “how can we get on top of laundry? We are wearing clothes?” And I’ve been saying that to myself a lot lately. Staying on top of laundry is one of my biggest stressors, and I currently have three big baskets to fold and put away and tomorrow I will have another load and another and another…so big thank you to your husband for the kind words I say to myself now.