Choosing Yourself: Love Is Blind UK Demi & Ollie

Therapist analyses Demi and Ollie on Love Is Blind UK based on personality types and cognitive functions.
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In this video, I also elaborate on the following personality types and how their cognitive functions correlate with relationship chemistry and behaviour:
Fe extraverted Feeling,
Se extraverted Sensing
ESTP, ESFJ

00:00 Intro
00:22 A lot in common
01:10 Same personality type
02:10 Ollie & Cat: Chemistry
03:07 Ollie: Beyond the physical
03:29 Demi's insecurities
05:01 Demi was more into Ollie
05:50 Friendship or romance?
06:52 Physical intimacy
08:50 Difficulty being vulnerable
10:13 Ollie's avoidant behaviour
11:24 Only Demi took accountability
13:08 Neurodivergent fixation
13:49 Demi doing all the work
14:09 Jasmine confrontation
15:34 Progress down to Demi
16:31 The New Demi
17:19 Why Demi said No
19:13 Book a session

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[cecidantass]

I think that scene in which Jasmine appears, she is imitating her mother's behaviour as being protective, but overstepping boundaries a bit...

[tamcar]

I was PROUD of Demi for choosing herself!!! ❤❤❤

[dahliaherrod]

I think this couple really highlighted the importance of being with someone who is your complement, not the same. They can strengthen you where you are weak and stretch you a bit. Not an opposites attract though because then it's just conflict. Just complementary because then you can partner together, going in the same direction with different skill sets

[ligli]

Ollie's comment about Catherine ("She's pulling on what every man wants." @2:18 ) is surprisingly insightful because it's essentially what Freddie ends up saying at the end of the series too. Interesting that Ollie was able to pick up on that so early on in the process!

[HanaRosePrevious]

Ollie actually dated Sharlotte, miss “SUBLIME” in the pods and after the show. He was physically into her.

This show lends itself so heavy to LIMERANCE. And ladies we keep doing this in dating...finding an attractive successful guy and putting all our romantic dreams on him, before he’s had a chance to show his character or get to know eachother better. I always said from the start that Ollie and Demi’s connection only carried on because she poured into it and gave so much. Glad she realised it was off balance in time. It’s a good thing in a way he didn’t communicate in those few days cos the truth set her free.

[angelmushahf]

Love this review. I think Ollie was genuinely searching for a wife. but he and Demi didn’t have strong enough chemistry. And Demi was still dealing with her insecurities. I’m glad Demi said no at the altar, but, it seemed like Ollie was relieved when she said no. Like it took a weight off his shoulders. Not trying incriminate him, but, I think he only sees her as a friend, and didn’t want to deal with the backlash if he were to say no

[gwendee]

I always thought Ollie was not physically attracted to Demi. He struggled with it. Demi uses her tomboy energy (on purpose) that hides her self-consciousness about her body and self-esteem.

[alleycatfire]

It's too bad that Ollie wasn't able to step outside of himself and nurture Demi. They could have been a really strong couple! Even so, I think they both got something out of it. Ollie got to show himself that he can make substantive connections that aren't driven solely by lust and Demi got to grow her self-confidence and self-worth.

[FishareFriendsNotFood]

I just think Ollie started checked out romantically and just got more and more checked out and shred Demi's self esteem the whole way down. I loved Demi and I'm glad she said no, she deserves someone openly excited about her!

[dontme]

It’s a good thing that Demi went first, because Ollie would’ve rejected her if he went first. I think he was RELIEVED. Now he doesn’t have to be the bad guy.

[DarylSimpson]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.

[gwendee]

I love your analysis!! please do Freddie and Catherine!?

[IHappyChicken]

Demi is beautiful inside out. I hope she finds someone who can complement and really bring out her beauty.

[michellegrantvaughn]

That was so great to watch. This video is a self- contained self-help message-a reminder to have love and compassion for oneself and remember one’s worth. Such a feel good video to keep and refer to when feeling any self-doubt! Love it Dr Cherie! And way to go Demi❤️

[ladyofspa]

This show confirms and highlights all the components that make a relationship fulfilling must be present. I think Demi made sense to Ollie, but not in love she was right but not passionate.
Ollie began to bond to demi, but i question if she felt desired by Ollie. I think she sensed both of thier lack of attraction and chemistry. Leaving her at the honeymoon party was inexcusable. That ADHD will be a challenge....
As for Jasmine she should have minded her business, and deserved to be told off!

[yasminogbu]

This is what happens in general, we put hot people on a pedestal only to realise they are just human. We then start valuing the things that matter.

[eponymous]

To me, Demi was the most beautiful one there but those few extra pounds prevented her from experiencing herself that way. And Ollie confirmed Demi's feelings by being so inattentive. It broke my heart to see but this whole thing was a growth opportunity for bith if them. Unfortunately, only Demi rose to the occassion and experienced growth. Ollie dropped the ball so many times but maybe it was due to lack of interest. Dr., you articulated everything I intuitively felt about Demi and Ollie, and the progression of their relationship. Love your analyses of these relationships!

[sinai]

PLEASE can you give us an analysis of Steven and Sabrina based on their behaviour in the reunion episode 😱

[sharee]

I'm not really sure it is a situation where she necessarily choose herself. I think that she lacks self-confidence and never really believed that he could be attracted to her. For some strange reason the world never believed he could be attracted to her, but he was. I think he's the kind of guy who attracts a lot of women but that doesn't mean that he can't fall for someone and actually want to settle down. Oftentimes if you exude confidence people believe in it and that makes you desirable. Some of the issues in their relationship were caused by her insecurities. With that being said, he also caused some problems in the relationship as well because he was not reassuring at all and oftentimes he would gaslight her. I think this is an example of two people who need to work on themselves before they actually engage in a serious relationship. There is no bad guy in this situation in my opinion. However they both need work and growth.

[Eldeirdro]

Loving the frequency of uploads Dr Cherie. We missed you for a few months!