In A Perfect World Parents Would Do This

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[lfrRoberts]

thats why you man up and figure it out you made them you are responcable for them

[bcomingundone]

He hates me so much it's how he punishes me through emotionally neglecting, crossing child boundaries, not considering emotional, physical and social health all to have the child like their dad.

[ninanano]

My parents battled each other with who gives the bigger presents for special occasions etc, that they forgot that kids need love too. Both of them were like an ego trip.

[elizabethsprinz]

If one of you is a narcissist, that takes a direction where two people can’t even share the same space. It is just too harmful and no point. Just bad when a child has to go back and forth where they can’t leave.

[lasealina]

In a perfect world, parents wouldn't cheat, beat, lie and wouldn't be egoistic

[calleylewis]

As a child who had divorced parents - it's a doozy. The rules were fairly consistent growing up until the divorce, then my dad maintained the rules and my mom lost ALL the rules and even encouraged me in whatever I wanted - she bought cigarettes, alcohol, condoms, lubes, invited boys to stay over with me, etc. I was 15. In the moment I thought it was cool, but it also fueled a whole lot of my belief that I didn't matter enough for people to care. By 16 my dad moved away and I was left in this toxic environment, while my mom was also dating and had guys in and out. I just dont recommend it. Please, above ALL else, just be the parent. Not the friend, not the new single lady, just be the parent. Kids need the rules that show that you care to know that they matter to you.

[Rockin.KB.Homestead]

My daily life… my ex husband and I get along great and it baffles me how my bonus sons mom can be so angry, bitter and resentful when she cheated and chose the divorce

[moepixie]

I raised two teenagers with my bf his ex would come run and save the day. We were parenting them, telling them no & you can't do that. The kids didn't like that answer and call mom. She would take them for the night. They still act like that now all over 18 now.

[johndouai]

Thank GOD...that my siblings and I, had TWO ADULTS as parents. We NEVER heard an argument. They discussed things when we were NOT around...that's being ADULTS. Kids NEED security...and peace in the home. NOT shouting, calling each other names, or anything similar.

[maxxalvarez]

My parents spun lies around each other. At first it was so hard to know who was the “bad guy” in it all. As time went on we all realized they’re both pretty shitty in the end.
They were both constantly trying to start conflict within each others lives that it ruined ours.

[breggieoosthuizen]

One thing is very important. Never bad mouth your ex infront of the kids because I've believed that it could an impact or their mental health. If I'm wrong so be it. Their dad threw us out in the night after ì came from work with a surprise for his birthday. He threw the expensive food on the ground said me and our kids doesn't live their anymore. Same day if started with a new job for more money because he was addicted to pornographic book that was illegal in South Africa 🇿🇦
But he did us a big favor because I had to carry a gun legally on me all the time. My late moms choice for me. I didn't want to marry then. But she insisted not slept with anyone before. PARENTS PLEASE DON'T CHOOSE A HUSBAND OR WIFE FOR YOUR KIDS. PLEASE DONT

[dynahmaranatha]

My children are now adults but I tried absolutely everything to co-parent with my ex. I tried every sort of mediation and just anything you could think of to cause this to happen for the sake of the kids but he was completely unwilling and made it abundantly clear that he was not willing to do this and even now that they are adults he still will not put aside his pride to try to have a normal adult relationship for the sake of our kids. There is nothing more that my children want to happen but he is unwilling. I know many divorced people that get together on holidays and just for the sake of continuity and peace and I think it is so sad. He wants to be the boss in all aspects regardless of what even our full grown children want. For the life of me I don't understand it because I see many other people that are able to do this because they put aside their differences and act in maturity. It is something I have prayed for but perhaps there is a reason that I don't understand that it hasn't taken place or even came close. Nonetheless, it is sad an incomprehensible to me. At this point it has nothing to do with balancing between two homes because they are adults and the options of what to do are wide open.

[joevokey]

Judging from what I’ve seen over the decades it’s apparent that most people should have never become parents…!🤦‍♂️

[shannabanks]

Think my future stepdaughter is finally making progress she’s 4 years old. She is finally getting warmed up to me and actually today was like yep I have 2 bed😅and everything was interesting

[famprima]

I divorced because he didn´t coparent while we were married.

[fatimam.]

Nope still good parent, bad parent in my family