Just chill out…#shortsfeed #childhoodtrauma #toxicfamily

[yoshi]

"Blood is thicker than water" was the biggest lie sold to me. What they meant was, "you owe us victimization because you exist", and that ish is disturbing.

[PennyLane-wciq]

When I asked my family why we gossiped behind each other’s back, I was told, “that’s what close families do, they’re concerned for one another”. Now when someone tells me their family is “close” but the behavior sounds toxic, I ask them to define a “close family” and what that looks like in actions. People can never boil it down to anything healthy. It’s just a pseudonym for “there are no boundaries, ESPECIALLY for the most abusive person”.

[lc]

I love how "Well, you know how they are..." can be used to both justify bad behavior and talk sh*t about someone, depending on the speaker's purpose.

[maryjanegreen]

My mom literally told me that every family was dysfunctional so that made our family normal.

[Rose]

"Quit murdering people." 🤣🤣🤣

[Whoamidontknow]

I’ve been a sub for awhile but haven’t commented yet. But man…this hit me hard. This gave me the flashback of when I told my Mom about SA. She blew it off; and told me it had to have been a dream.

Also reminded me of when I almost broke my neck as a kid. Was on an indoor trampoline; bounced off into a wooden coffee table. I was in pain, and my Mom thought the solution was to give me a bowl of ice cream. She must have gotten sick of my crying and eventually she took me to the hospital.

I’d love to know the psychology behind why people have kids; but have only conditional love for them.

I treat my dog with more love, care & support than my parents have ever shown me
In my 41 years here. It’s so damn painful. Like, what did I do wrong?

[meetalitalpade]

Same. Sometimes I wonder are they insane? Not able to see what my sister is doing.

[kimberleyh]

lol! I'm just too sensitive if I cut ties with them. What could possibly go wrong. "Give them another chance to destroy you. They failed on the last try, just forgive & forget ". right 🎉🎉🎉

[scottgosizk]

So true! It just makes you that much more angry since they don't understand you. Ugh, if only they knew...

[Caligulamylover]

Patrick☘️, you are a wellspring of inspiration, both funny and instructive. In another life you could have been the world’s best high school teacher.
💜💜💜

My sister is like, “I don’t want you saying bad things to my kids about me, mom and dad, ” like telling my life story is the crime, not the years of abuse that destroyed my life. First she denies the abuse, then she makes me out to be the perpetrator simply because I want to talk about it. So frustrating.😧

[truewantsaband]

Hahahaha i love the mild concern in your face 😂

[elenhil]

Yeah just go along with it! Don't rock the boat!

[Magus_Union]

This was my uncle. He was verbally, emotionally, and borderline physically abusive when we saw him during the holidays. The inherent favoritism of him over us by our grandmother was very transparent. So much so that my siblings and I were scolded for being problems if we showed any resistance to his bullying during such times. To think, that a grown man was allowed to bully and intimidate children just for existing and 'being a burden' during Christmas due to how much my grandmother footed the bill for gifts that my narc mother didn't manage on her own.

He finally killed himself over the pain of having a heart condition in 2016. It's the only funeral I've never cried during, or took the time to be sad about. May he rest in piss.

[leonroos]

i am preparing my court case next wednesday. I live in Haarlem near amsterdam by the way. and the first half of the video about adhd in adults and childhood trauma was like you were talking for me. i saw the video before the weekend and now on monday i have a plan. corona made me unemployd and after that everything went wrong. i am diagnosed adhd in 2005. ritalin never really worked out for me. speed is my medicine. but you gave me a so clear view about how my screwed up childhood with manic depressed father and mother died of cancer, and my ather suiside with the euthanesiadrink of my mother and bullying at school and pot. and and. i decided to go internly to a detoxclinic and try to work it out. i am so naggered of life. holding up the turning plates. enough . thank you so much for your video i am following. x

[limitedtime]

🤣🤣🤣 man im not even sure they add the last bit "they're really a saint even tho they behave like a demon, so we don't need to point out they shouldn't do crime"

[Yolduranduran]

When dealing with a terrible person who hurt my family no one wanted to do anything about it. To this day he continues to hurt us and still no one will do anything!! I have taken him to court by myself but that did not work either. I am very angry at everyone for letting this

[breathebefree]

"Gonna go drink a 7up and eat a moonpie" is now the inside joke between my spouse and I whenever the in-laws start denying or gaslighting 😂.

[annepaschke]

So true. Mother hands out abuse like candy. Because she put up with it from her husband we are supposed to act like it's normal and we are supposed to put up with abuse because she does.

[bloom]

I think they are pretty desensitized from it. This is my aunt when it comes to my mother, they have a codependent relationship and they feed off each other’s insecurities.

[PassionateFlower]

Whenever I would tell my therapist how my family was violating my boundaries yet again she would just tell me over and over again how I need to just "stay in my own lane" so eventually I just drove way the hell over to a completely different freeway👋🛣. Done being "concerned for". Done being condescended to like that. No contact and no regrets.