The Problem With Being Selfish

[EdwardsComment]

"Giving what you lost"
YES!

[josiestubbs]

I agree but being too selfless can lead to unhappiness too. It’s all about having balance of having your own needs met and meeting the needs of others too

[TechWiz]

Absolutely. It is better to give than it is to receive. Acts 20:35

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I lost my Dad to alcohol when I was young. I had many opportunities growing up he just couldn't be bothered to help me get too or support because it cut into his bar time.
I now give a quarter of my earning weekly to my son and his friends who are being raised by their grandparents due to death or imprisonment of parents due to drugs. I call them my Lost Boys.
I mentor them and tell them I will be in their corner as long as they stay on the right track and help each other reach for excellence.
This fills my void.
It would be hard for me to be selfish and just bank that money.
I raised him since a year old and although things didn't work out with his mother due to her chemical and psych issues, she is recovered and he is returned to her. She knows I am his father in every way but blood and I take that responsibility very seriously.

[danteramirez]

Pouring yourself out, fills you up

Filling yourself up, leaves you empty

Life’s great paradox

[dawnstephenson]

Have a BEAUTIFUL day today.... Know you are loved and appreciated for all you do... THANK YOU...❤

[H.P.Blavatsky]

I’m not a very capable person. I had the kind of childhood that turns people into monsters or corpses. It didn’t make me any stronger.

I don’t have much to give. I make just enough money to get by and I live comfortably enough for my standards which are sparse.

What the lady said, makes a lot of sense to me. I was very badly neglected and abused child, and then I was abandoned when I started becoming too difficult to beat up or starve into submission.

Now, as an adult, I take in unwanted and mistreated animals. I refuse to give them up, no matter how hard it is no matter how many times they bite me or pee on the floor or destroy my property.

I find myself in a situation where I now have 14 rabbits in a two bedroom apartment and I can’t give them up. I spent about two hours a day cleaning up after them every day. I’m going massively, broke, feeding them and caring for them taking them to the vet. But it’s what makes me happy makes me really happy. Seeing them nice and plump and full of energy, jumping and running around and playing with each other instead of being a miserable lump sitting in a cage.

[truefilm]

Giving what you lost. Bang! It's what I try to do. I'm just a humble piano teacher, trying to give what I never had. A tutor, a coach who listened to me, who answered my questions, who recognized my passion, my love and my fear, who encouraged me instead of constantly judging, testing, criticizing, refusing to teach what I so desperately wanted, and ultimately dismissing, leaving me hurt for life. I try to be all that to my students. I can because I eventually figured it out in a pre internet world on my own, losing about a decade. Anyway, it seems to work. My wounds seem to heal slowly.

[ginosalihbegovic]

People need to be more selfish in terms of their own well being. My well being is more important to me than yours but it doesn’t mean my life is more valuable than yours if everybody thinks of helping others while neglecting thyself what you try to solve will continue since you put your own needs beneath the ones of others. This paradigm is exactly why our world is the way it is. If my cup is empty I can’t share it with anyone. Always put your well being first just don’t put yourself above others. Be selfish just not egoistic. That’s two entirely separated things and I believe JP doesn’t comprehend the difference.

[Jenessa-uuty]

I have to express my adoration for Jordan Peterson-not because I'm not, at times, selfish-but because, at times, I am selfish. Hearing this helps. I try not to be selfish, truthfully. That, I do, for myself. It rarely lines up with others' trying not to be selfish also, though.

[excel]

Without care giving what you lost can be a path to codependency. Many a person has tried to heal their own wounds by projecting their unconscious needs onto others, giving what they always wanted, only to become dependent on that person's reaction. It's best to be aware of your own wounds and grieve them. Having done that you're in a better place to listen to the other's individual needs, along with your own, and give and receive consciously.

[diederickkruse]

My father didn't teach me this, but Niklaus Mikaelson did when he got his daughter, watch The Originals guys. Full of pain and misery, but so well made! My favorite of all time, even if I don't watch it for years.

[maribethcondrillon]

Dear father, thank you for protecting me, maybe when I go, I will go with you and I have to study here first, I have already enrolled by Jan much love One Word

[paulinemarshall]

You helped me through. What an inspirational soul well done to you and your beautiful daughter ❤ Keep on pushing on both of you x

[GlobalVillagerYT]

The thing selfish people tend to say is that they want to live life "their way" whenever they need to dismiss kindness or gratitude, completely discounting that maybe being kind is part of our "identity" as much as they need to validate theirs.

Short-grasping whims seem to be the only thing that counts as an identity to some people these days.

[theamaturepro]

The opposite is just as bad. A couple years ago I had a problem with donating my last dollar to charities and people in need thinking that I can always make more money, but they're in need right now. The thing is, non profits and struggling people will never not be in immediate need. IDK how many times my power was about to be shut off, or how frequently I couldn't afford basic supplies. I became the one in need. I was brushing my teeth with baking soda and using Lysol wipes as deodorant while keeping my house at 65 in the winter. I finally realized that I work hard for my income at a job I hate, I deserve to live better than that. I had become the one in need. After I stopped the handouts, I realized how many people were calling asking for help and how many of them suddenly were no longer friends when I turned them away. I have one friend. She struggles more than anyone I know and she's never asked me for anything but company. I love her and she's the only friend I need. I choose to be selfish and I'm much happier. I donate 8% of my income to charity now and am forced to donate ≈28% to the government for the illegal migrants. That's it.

[thedarklordkarghen]

The worst thing's in life come free to us, because the only love you keep is the love you give away and it's the only thing we take with us when we die and depart this earthly kingdom, "Jordan I need help" I can't do this on my own but nobody wants to help the king of the pirate's and leader of the lost boy's in this world of illusions and they say "the greatest cowards can hurt the most ferociously, so I'll show you something good Ohh I'll show you something good, when you open your heart you can make a new start, when your crumbling world falls apart and the miracle of love, "God Save The Miracle" won't take away your pain, and the miracle of love comes too late again". Baruch Hashem Achi Shalom Ahava❤️ 🇮🇱❤️🚺❤️🇳🇿❤️Mashallah Shalom praise be and salvation in his name.

[marcycampbell]

We were created to help each other. The happiest people in the world serve others! Jesus came to serve. 😊

[KDub]

Found myself thinking lately. “Well I wish someone would have done it for me so I should do it for them.”

[wendy]

I love to give it really satisfies me so much to see someone else so happy but be careful people will drain you ❤ I always say will never again but I always still do