Gray rock vs. no contact vs. the silent treatment

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[disiakay]

When silence protects you, it's golden. When it manipulates and punishes you, it's not.

[BR-wl]

No contact is like cutting the cord forever. A sense of calm comes over you, and you know life will only get better.

[aaronbrutus]

If you're able to go no contact that's the best choice. I'm free.

[stephnel]

Silent treatment is done as a controlling punishment. No contact is done to protect yourself. Silent treatment is "for" the other person, no contact is for you.

[FarzanItis]

The best way to deal with a narcissist is to not deal with them at all.

[cathyleinberger]

My sister is telling the family I’m shunning her because I’ve chosen to go no contact. Another way for her to garnish sympathy and take no responsibility for her actions once again.

[LyndieLouWho]

The moment a narcissist hears someone give you a compliment is the moment you become their enemy.

[NarcSurvivor]

No contact is definitely better, but if you can’t do that because of children or other obligations, limited contact/grey rock is best.

[annae]

I tried grey rock with a narc distant family member and she really hated it. She didn't want it and it made her very uncomfortable. Now I'm no contact with her. It's been wonderful!

[ghuyakalika]

I could never stay silent. It took years of trying to communicate with the narcissist before finally giving up. Completely sacrificing myself.
The narcissist is like a parasite that somehow still tries his best to get any kind of reaction.
Baiting baiting baiting!
No contact with an entire extended family with no return does feel extremely painful but they still see it as being confrontational. You just can't win as a Scapegoat.
Thank you Dr Ramani.

[nyangichic]

I loved my family so much that I thought if I gray rock them I could at least have my family and some space from them but it was alot of work. I eventually had to go no contact. Blocked all of them. Witnessing their dysfunction was heartbreaking but the The peace that comes from no contact is amazing. I had to make peace with the fact that I come from a dysfunctional family and I can only save myself.

[nahmastay]

There’s ‘silent treatment’, ‘greyrock’, ‘no contact’ and finally...’you’re dead to me’. I’m doing the latter!!!!

[nomnom]

My mom and dad always tried giving me the silent treatment. They groomed me to be the people pleaser and manipulated me whenever I tried to say no. They would say things like "Nobody wants to help me. I feel like I could kill myself or nobody loves me." So I would almost always give in. To be honest, I thought of the silent treatment as a nice break. They would go months of giving me the silent treatment. But the funny part is they would always break the silent treatment because they needed me to do something for them. They would also break the silence and try to gaslight me by saying that I am being rude for not speaking to them or saying good morning to them when they decided to stop speaking to me in the first place. Right now I am grey rocking them until I can move out this year.

[RedRex]

No contact is what worked with my narc parents. I have no doubt mommy dearest tells everyone I’m an ungrateful child, if she can even admit one of her children won’t talk to her. It’s given me peace and quiet and allowed me to live my best life.

[linzzie]

No contact was the hardest and best thing I've ever done in my life ♥︎

[dianabailey]

Gray rock made my life feel gray. No contact changed everything for the better and the long term.
The silent treatment turned out to be an enjoyable relief once I ceased to care about why it was happening...meaning I was already done, I just didn't know it

[dnakaz]

Dr. Ramani if no one told you today let me tell you that you're the bombdotcom thank you thank you thank you 🤗😇

[dawnrobbins]

Gray rocking protects oneself against the narcissist and is not an attack, it's self defense. Sure they may feel attacked, they think everything is about them. It's sort of like killing them with kindness. If they ask you if rye bread is better than sourdough, better to say "I can't choose, they're both delicious!". Because if you choose one over the other, the narcissist WILL make you pay for doing so.

[jilll]

Self preservation. Sometimes you just don’t have it to talk to these people.

[pauldickson]

Dr Romani helped me when I was lost, confused and completely traumatised. Please keep up the good work and many thanks helping me return from the darkest of places .