Qawwama is impossible in the West

The Tomassiyeen believe that no Muslim woman in the West will accept Qawwama, and will invoke the state against her husband if he doesn't cater to her every whim. Most Muslim marriages -- in and out of the West -- are successful, however, and religious women value Qawwama. In fact, data suggests that a leading cause for wife-initiated divorces in the Muslim community is the religious laxity of the husband -- not his rigidity and strictness.

[aliay]

Absolutely brilliant Video. Jazakallah

[BasedYeeter]

In theory he would support an institution such as Qawwama but the main issue is that he’s viewing it through a secular lens which clouds his judgement, he needs to be given the opportunity for Dawah. Great video

[reneepoesnecker]

if a woman did file a false report she would be charged as such and face severe consequences. If these are the men who think they can beat their wives, yes they will go to jail. i do not know why people don't understand this. she could call but she still has to prove. as an American muslim with life experience i know this true as i have worked with the courts for years. also as a wife, i have always accepted discipline from my husband, i by my nature need redirection at times. I think these men complain because they are looking for an excuse not to take on the responsibilities as maybe they know they won't measure up

[kanahbal]

"If he religiously devout, then his religion will guide his approach to Qawama" is simply a wrong assumption. You'll have to do better for Tomassiyeen because they've become disparate because of these assumptions. And if you don't offer them alternatives, they will remain Tomassiyeen. This is equivalent to the "Imagine Being Successful" advice :(

Muslim men MUST have a game while approaching women. This is the missing piece. Talking about our culture in East, we used to have tradition to guard marriages from falling apart. But those are gone.

Having a game is about knowing how to flirt, tease, please, how to request something and how to handle your woman while she is in a mode. She might think you are a good guy, but you are too direct or too insensitive and you don't even know it. And that is reason enough for many divorces in Muslim community currently.

Some people have natural games ( I assume you are one because you have the hindsight for it). They can learn from their mistakes while dealing with women. Many men cannot. They can relive multiple marriages and still don't know why they failed (even though they are serious and devout). They need some "coaching", which is to have a game in the same way you need to learn how to prep for interviews.

Having a game has been smeared as manipulative and condescending because "media" and "naturals" who think it should come naturally or it isn't real! This is a condescending view of other men who don't know how to deal with their women.

Assuming that religion is enough to keep your marriage from falling apart is dead wrong. This is why young Muslims are suffering today and some of them became disparately Tomassiyeen.
Once a young Muslim has got a game, then he can steer his marriage in the direction he wants. You may have fun shredding Tomassiyeen, but please consider this productive approach.

[alexandercastro]

I am not entirely sure to understand the whole paradigm of what you are implying, like, what do you mean when you talk about disciplining one's wife, is it possible that a wife never needs disciplining ? Furthermore, isn't it possible a man as well needs to have proper manners when speaking to her wife, like, is it an exclusive characteristic of women to be ungrateful to their husbands? Can't men be also ungrateful to their wife's ?