9 Unexpected Reasons Why You Attract Emotionally Damaged Men

They say that every person is a little bit emotionally damaged and little things tend to scar us for life.

Without having the intention to do so, you attract emotionally damaged men and you always end up with a broken heart.

There might be an actual reason for why you do that, like a past trauma or the way you have been brought up.

1. You’re not happy being single
Loneliness should never be the reason why you start a relationship. If anything, it should motivate you to work more on yourself.

Lowering your standards just because you’re lonely brings you to a point where you stop paying attention to red flags and you get the lead role in a toxic relationship.

2. You don’t recognize your own mistakes
Our patterns are very obvious to others, but we are blind to them. Before any big change happens, you have to be aware of your patterns in dating.

How long can you be single until you seek a man to fill the spot next to you? Do you jump into relationships without getting to know the person first?

3. You seem to have your life together
You seem like someone who could fix him. That’s why he looks for emotional support and stability in you, because he can’t find it himself.

4. You are a great listener
You know what it feels like to not have someone who genuinely cares about you or who listens to what you have to say, so men tend to use you as an outlet.

5. You don’t have healthy boundaries
Boundaries are what make sure we know where our responsibilities begin and end. Boundaries ensure that we are safe, emotionally, physically, and mentally.

You don’t have healthy boundaries and emotionally damaged men love to take advantage of that.

6. You’re bad at confrontation
You will change anything just to accommodate them and avoid any type of conflict.

You might even be one of those people who cries when he’s angry and/or when he yells at you, so it’s easier for an emotionally damaged man to manipulate you.

7. You think you deserve it
We attract what we think we deserve. When you don’t know your own worth, you tend to settle for less than you deserve.

You might think that you deserve someone like him, someone emotionally unavailable, someone who doesn’t show his affection too openly.

This is a clear sign that you have been through too much heartbreak in the past. It has taught you that you have nothing to offer.

8. You don’t love yourself enough
Loving yourself is when you are at peace with yourself and you won’t let someone get in the way of that peace you’ve built.

Emotionally damaged men don’t like that. They don’t like a strong and confident woman. They want someone who’s insecure.

9. You like to fix people
An emotionally damaged man sees that as an opportunity to find a cheap way to let out all of his frustrations.

He sees you as an emotional punching bag and you think that you’re actually helping him.

The moral of the story is that you can’t change anyone and you shouldn’t want to.

You are not obligated to love and heal people, it’s not your responsibility to fix them.

Your only responsibility is loving and healing yourself!

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