Life lessons from 30+ years of marriage - Mrs. Maryam Lemu.

Her name is Maryam Lemu. She’s an internationally renowned speaker, educator, and marriage counsellor with over three decades of experience in guiding individuals and couples toward fulfilling relationships. In this episode, she’ll be sharing timeless insights on building successful marriages, the habits couples can develop to strengthen their bond, and the vital role Islamic values play in nurturing harmonious relationships.

You’ll also learn about the common pitfalls in modern marriages and practical strategies to overcome them, the transformative power of effective communication, and why qualities like empathy and patience are non-negotiable for thriving partnerships. Mrs. Maryam will also shed light on parenting challenges, the balance between personal growth and family, and how young women can overcome self-doubt to pursue their passions with confidence.

Expect wisdom grounded in faith, actionable advice for real-life challenges, and inspiration to cultivate deeper, more meaningful connections in every area of your life.

[madiharukhra]

1- Have Taqwa - Allah first
2- Respect
3- Learn each other’s love language (Make your spouse feel they matter)
4- Humor
5- Optimism
6- Never stop growing

[zahraaminu]

Subhanallah. “I left Allah but Allah didn’t leave me” made me feel weak😢. May Allah forgive us and guide us. Ameen

[Lara_lighthouse]

It's so nice to see a mother and son do something impactful

[HassanFatimah-vqew]

Love doesn't sustain marriage, it's hardwork

[Muslimahonherdeen]

May Allah reward and bless Mrs.Maryam and Nurian. I am in my 20s and this just made me realize so many things in my life that I need to change and improve. Inshallah my goal is strive for excellence in every part of my life as a servant of Allah, as a daughter, a sister, a human being. Indeed Allah said “Allāh will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves”. If we don’t take action to change each and everyday, we will stay stagnant and never reach our full potential. May Allah help us to change for the better inshallah.

[LoveAndLoyalty]

This is very professional wallah...I didn't even know she is your mum...

[umarayesha]

This is beautiful...
Masha Allāh.
Even though, I'm yet to get married, this opened my eyes to many things.
May Allāh bless us all with the highest ranks of Jannah.
One thing i can be sure of is Being born a Muslim, shouldn't stop us from rediscovering it. The deen is beautiful and perfect.
Alhamdullilah.

[meemaawa]

Alhamdulillah! It is / will never too late to return and ask for Tawba. Allah is certainly ghafurun raheem.

[LearnwithKhadijah]

“Hearing directly from the one that creates you”❤️❤️❤️

[فاطمة-جخب]

00:00 Intro
1:15 Mrs. Maryam's Upbringing
6:43 Important Lessons
9:01 Growing up with a Step-Mother
12:13 Mrs. Maryam's Work
18:54 Feeling Insignificant
28:18 Prayer/Salah
38:23 Marriage
53:58 Rights & Obligations as a Spouse
59:16 Habits for a Long-Lasting & Happy Marriage
1:06:41 Realities
1:07:49 Common Marital Issues/Patterns
1:16:07 Infidelity
1:18:15 Communication in a Relationship
1:27:17 Islam as the Foundation
1:42:16 Important Books
1:45:17 What are you most Proud of?
1:53:51 Advice to the Young & Aspiring
2:02:50 Struggling with Focus
2:03:56 Conclusion & Surprise! =)

[cre_maksi]

I am a Christian, I loooove the wisdom oozing from this woman. Her reels started popping on my fb timelines & I would be intrigued by the words from her mouth… Her stability on God is admirable. I have learnt a lot especially on ego. Oh, & the interviewer was on point! Thank you Mrs Lady for teaching us on marriage, I was in a relationship that went stale, retrospectively, I can see where I went wrong. May God help me in this journey more so in reconnecting with Him.

[UmmAmmaar]

First things first, I wanna say jazakumullahu khayran for the work our dear, lovely internet mum and her family do 🤍 Secondly, Nurain, next time get a tissue box lol
'Allah blessed me with huge feet', yeah me too! 😅💝

- I love how throughout the video, emphasis was made on taqwa (God consciousness) and intentionality.
- I think we should all implement the litmus test in our lives.
- Imagine having six figures in your account and feeling bankrupt and empty! Subhanallah, we NEED Allah in our lives.
- Oh my! I love, love how highly she speaks of her husband, that part of the video is wholesome and goals, and how she keeps saying 'my husband' and not 'your father'. It's cute!
- 56:37 "Putting in the work and knowing yourself before marriage, so that it is less likely that someone customizes you to suit them". Yupp, because then it is two people growing and working together to achieve shared goals. Overall, a beautiful and educative video with lots of gems. And yass, I subscribed and shared with loved ones. Waiting for more videos inshaa Allah.

[remazawi]

ya Allah. ive been married 17 years and here i am listening amd writing notes and praying to Allah. I teared up when you teared up sister. May Allah reward you amen. ❤

[itsmerocio]

This video is answered duaa, and not only that it addressed some other things I was struggling with!

May Allah bless the people that made this possible!

[BlackRoseTVngBRTV]

“We have to be careful not to fall for our PR”, don’t wait for praise, just become. That is so profound. Every part of this video is enlightening. JazakumuLlahu khairan.

[hs_wears]

This is a whole master class full of notes to write, things to reflect on, habits to work on and emotions to feel.
Thank you so much for this and to Mrs. Maryam for sharing these priceless lessons and recommendations with us. Jazakum Allahu khairan.

[awaliciouss]

It was such a surprise when you revealed she is your mother, amazing

[saadahsunusi]

Masha Allah... This really made me cry 😢. May Allah reward you abundantly. I have no idea that she's your mum.

[nassima]

I was more than ready for divorce 3 years or so into marriage when I met both of them, I think it was with Sr Roberts, and your mum said how the first 5-6 years were hell..yet they managed to make things work. That day, I found hope for my own marriage. That was the first time I fell in love with her...may y'all be blessed. And the only du'a I could think of after listening to you guys was _rabbana hablana mina-s-saaliheen_.. may Allah swt accept fom you. Ameen.

Absolutely underrated comment she made - how naïve we are thinking we will change our partner after marriage..and ego..always gets the best of ourselves.

[MuhsinahCoaching]

So beautiful to see a mother and son have such a insightful conversation. I really enjoyed this. Jazakallah khair