How to Find Love After 40 | Dating After Divorce #AskAdam

Are you recently out of a divorce? Are you looking for love after 40? This week's #AskAdam episode will answer the question "How to find love after 40?

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Dating after 40 doesn't have to be a nightmare. You can truly find love after a divorce.

[legitKwit]

My motto is “be my own fun factory”. Go to concerts, hike, dress well, take care of your fitness, make money, invest, fall in love with your life!

[tiadelve]

#AskAdam I am 45 and have been single for 3yrs. Your advice is spot on. At first I did online dating and tried everything to meet someone. I just got more depressed because I thought there were no guys for me. What I realized is that it wasn't the guys fault, I just wasn't ready emotionally. I decided to take a year off and find myself. I promised myself to travel as much as I could, go to every concert or sporting event every month that I wanted to go to. I am at the happiest point that I have ever been in my life. I could never had had so much fun in my awful relationship. You have to get to the point of being so happy that you think "if I meet someone great..good, if not so what." I now pick and choose who I date, as I have options galore. I meet guys everywhere, just being happy and outgoing. I also have learned to not get attached at first, and to watch their behavior. If they play games, or treat me poorly, I'm out the door never looking back. I think as an older Woman, I have learned not to tolerate certain behaviors that I did in my 20's. I also watch your videos and do as much research as possible on how I can improve myself, resolve past traumas, and be a better partner. I now attract higher quality men, with my high standards. I don't do online dating, and I get offers constantly. When you Love your life, and don't think about it, it will just happen naturally.

[cinderellamusonda]

I lost my husband when I was 34 but I neededto rediscover myself and heal, it has taken me 10 years but I am glad I did, I am happy now!!

[MegaMeme]

The thing about dating in 40s that I just can’t tolerate games .. coz I reached an age where I saw it all ... either he’s real or let him get out 🔫

[mellifeupsidedown]

#AskAdam - Thank you so much Adam!! I'm a 46 woman rediscovering herself after 23 years of marriage! I'm so excited about this new adventure! I'm realizing the future is limitless! I've realized the only way to be content meeting someone this age is to grab life by the horns and be satisfied within yourself!

[pattimilton]

I'm dating again and I am having fun! I'm 64 years old dating a younger man!

[tntouroupi]

#AskAdam What about women over 40, who have never been married or even in a long term relationship?
What about those women who have had all the alone time in the world to get to know themselves and enjoy their single life? The women who haven't gone out on a date in a decade?

[jewelysjourney]

Great video. Thanks for addressing the older generation of dating. I have been divorced almost 5 years and I am now 44. The first year was a nightmare as I thought I was ready to date, but all it did was create more drama and heart ache. I spent the next 2 years in a relationship, which was exactly what I wanted. But he and I were not aligned. I ignored red flags and forged ahead, as I didn't wanna be a failure or be single. I have dated some in the last 2 years, but I have really focused on myself, my personal growth and falling in love with myself again. I have such clarity now, along with standards. I know who I am and what I want from a relationship and a partner. I'm happiest in a relationship and I'm excited about my future partner, as I know he will be amazing!!!! #AskAdam and Sexy Confidence has been a go to resource for me over the last few years! Thanks!

[tonyas]

Omg you are sooo right on!! This video is me totally!! I'm 45 and divorced 3 yrs ago. Dating now is awful!!

[Nikos]

Yes. 3 years after this video was made, it's still the best advice I heard this freaking month I'm having. Yes,

[deborahlloyd]

Hi Adam

Actually we shouldnt as in ladies shouldnt be looking for love until we find the love we have for ourselves..therefore when we do we will attract the right kind of man whos worthy for our love so our hearts as women needs to be healed before we can give it to another..

Blessings 

Deborah 

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[isaac]

Recently divorced and I'm terrified of the dating scene. I have so much to give as I am an incurable romantic but I'm also SUPER shy. 43 w/4 kids isn't exactly what anyone would call a catch. I'm not even picky just honesty, able to carry on a conversation, and wants to be surprised with thought of you today gifts. Seriously though I'm thinking I'm going to be alone for a while. This video helped and gave a bit of hope. Y'all stay strong out there.

[cherri]

I’m 44 as a few days ago, I’m talking with someone that’s 37 soon and I’m not sure what he wants. Haven’t gotten that far yet. I told him I was looking for something serious. He texted back that he was not looking for something serious and that it wouldn’t be out of the ordinary if I didn’t meet up with him after three months of chatting then, he told me he has issues with follow-through. I told him I was just looking for someone to have fun with. Then he changed his mind and said he daydreams about finding someone he can communicate with spend time with and enjoy conversation with. And that it is like a challenge trying to do so he said it almost makes it not worth it. Do I even give him a chance, not sure what happened to him with his relationship haven’t got that far I think he might be a little scared? So I gave him a text message back let’s just hang out as friends no strings attached See where it goes no stress so he doesn’t have any pressure? Then he called me for the first time today, twice in fact. What do you think Adam?

[sfoster]

Dating in the 50, 60s and beyond is definitely different than all prior age groups. The age of acquisition is definitely over, purpose in life is already established, the kids are already grown, and both men and women have a lot of experience with the opposite sex. So while the heart is hopeful and willing to engage, the approach for both goes forward cautiously!

[patluvsvettes]

I'm 43 and having trouble finding women to date. I've tried online dating, but get very few responses to my emails. My fear is that women think something is wrong with me because I'm 43 and still single. I'm college-educated, own my own home, have a good job, no kids and no ex-wife drama. On paper at least, you'd think I'd be what women are looking for. Instead, I've found that they go for the bad boys and won't give a guy like me the time of the day. About to throw in the towel, and just go MGTOW. I wonder if it's worth the effort to even try to date at my age.

[leonahhomu]

Thanks.. That's me. Divorced for 3 years.. I will now use yr advices to start life again.. I'm 48

[silv]

One thing people don't mention it's that men at our age want to date younger women, and men who are interested in us are usually older guys like 20 years older, and if appears a younger man for sure the relationship won't last long enough ( maybe 10 years), it is just a conquest then they will go on with their lives.

[kathyinspired]

51 + dating I'm pretty happy but I find that some of the men over 40 who ask out move too fast and seem very desperate. I much prefer meeting people face-to-face and having a connection your advice is helpful I'm sure for women as I do have female friends that seem as though they can't be complete unless they are with someone it makes me want to slap them and say hey wake up enjoy your life right now so thank you for confirming what I think I already knew

[kathrynpaterson]

Great video, it has inspired me to go to Italy next year, a place I've always wanted to go to and I'm going to go on my own!

[vluvinlife]

Adam is genuinely himself, not this TV/Social media personna. He definitely knows his stuff. I've tried watching other dating coaches/videos and didn't care for their style. Thanks for the videos & insight!