INFPs, Are you emotionally volatile or reactive?

Do you react? Do you react in your thoughts and behaviors? How has your reactivity kept you from breaking out of neurotic patterns and enjoying the good life?

Comment below,

Joseph Iacobucci

[DCBFD]

Hey Joey, hope you're doing well!

I've been watching your videos for a while but never commented until now. They're always very eye opening and help me to relax, I appreciate the thoughts you're putting out there :)

In regards to your question: I find that I can usually not be reactive, and take a step back to create an overview of perspectives before making a decision. However, if I've come under a lot of stress or am feeling more emotional, I can sometimes react in a way I later regret. The core message of what I try to get across is usually okay, it's more in what I said and the way I said it that displeases me afterwards.

This happens most when I haven't had time to process my thoughts and feelings, or there's been a long build up of stress over time that suddenly bursts out of me. It's difficult to not react sometimes, but I think I've become better at it over the years.

It's definitely harder for me to deal with this in real time, how do you deal with the spontaneous urge to react when in person?

[carluvrsd]

I find that my quick reactions aren't always halpful. I find that a momentary pause followed by a more appropriate response, has better results. I think it's letting go of the ego and allowing God, or my higher self to share their wisdom.

Thank you Joey, I appreciate you.

[evasccl]

Hi Joseph!
I used to react until i understood why that was and looked into how it made me feel afterwards, it had become an out of control spiral and God stepped in!!
I could say a lot about the work and process it took for me to change, but to make it brief, i learnt to stop myself when in situation that i'd react to... i detatch myself from it as I had acknowledged, then i analyze it, break it down into pieces to understand or if not fully, to identify all the different aspects of the situation in relation to the identified emotions. Then i find out how to respond without the emotional attachment, but rather using the intellect/logic/wisdom so as to have the best outcome for me to grow and hopefully, for any other party involved, to grow in personally and as it pertains to the relationship to improve if the desire is so.
Reacting is natural, responding is intentional in my humble opinion, because it forces you to step back and out whist analizing and then working out the response and respond!
I hope it helps Joseph! and... i think this applies to everybody irrespective of personalities... some will be faster, some less thoughtfull, etc... but responding is the way to go so we can grow!! ☺️

[candaceelizabethanne]

I have never been in the habit of outwardly reacting but my thoughts would sometimes be reactive. Sometimes I would work through it to an outer response and sometimes I would just completely avoid and move forward. With every birthday I do become more curious but I still find it challenging to question anyone for fear of conflict.